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Attitude, Aptitude and Success in Life

Updated on November 14, 2015

Importance of Attitude

Attitude, rather than aptitude is the main influence toward making a successful life.

Although lack of knowledge or skill in a specific area can be rectified by applying yourself to learning the requisite information, changing your attitude, and the language that projects your attitude can be more difficult..

There are those who carry a bad attitude with them anywhere and everywhere, if it’s personal problems and a tumultuous life that causes the negativity, then some empathy and understanding may go a long way toward alleviating the negativity.

But ingrained bad attitudes fester, they’re contagious, ugly and difficult to tolerate, especially in the workplace.

A person with a negative attitude is usually seen as someone who is easily upset or quick to anger, which affects both the quantity and quality of their work performance.

Conversely, those with a positive attitude are usually difficult to upset; they are bright and cheerful which manifests itself in their behavior. They are active, productive and generally improve the mood of those around them.

The attitude of those around us can be a powerful force for good or bad. Use the group dynamic power of your colleagues' influence to feed your sense of optimism. Actively look for the company of people who have a positive, sunny disposition and let yourself become influenced by their optimism.

Inspirational Quotes on Attitude

Victor Frankl, a neurologist and psychiatrist was a prisoner in a Nazi concentration camp. He lost his family before the war ended. What he said in his book “Man’s Search for Meaning” touches a cord.

Everything can be taken from a person but one thing: the last human freedom to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances…

In order to obtain a measure of peace in this life, the foundation of your quest will be your attitude.

Attitude covers a person’s view and outlook on the world. Attitude embodies a person’s thought process and how they relate to things while behavior is attitude in action.

In other words, your dominant mental disposition is what brings together ‘who you are’ with ‘what you do.'

Four Major Components of Attitude

1. Expectations

2. Adaptability

3. Confidence

4. Appreciation

Adding Attitude to your Knowledge and Skills

Whatever your career may be, skills and knowledge play an important role and while there are many people with said knowledge and skill, success requires that you know what you are doing and deliver what you promise.

The fact therefore is that your attitude will be what determines your level of success and happiness in your life, and although attitude has many facets we will deal with its main components.

Attitude can be broken down into its four major components:

Expectations – do you expect to succeed or to fail? What you believe you do or do not deserve is a reflection of your own self worth. Low expectations give you mediocre results as you unconsciously make choices that limit your ability to succeed.

Adaptability - ability to adapt to changing circumstances and maintain a positive outlook. If your perspective on life is that it’s ever changing, you will expect change and look forward to the adventure. The reverse attitude of wanting things to stay the same as change represents pain and you will rather try to avoid change.

Confidence – gives you a distinct edge in life. While lack of confidence manifests in everything, you do and say. If it is balanced with a reasonable ‘can do” approach, the doors of opportunity will open for you to walk through.

Appreciation – is a magnetic quality and the gratitude enables you to build rapport with almost anyone. It’s not about flattery, it is a reflection of you, your point of view, and vital in making positive changes in your reality.

Expressing appreciation to others whenever someone shows you, a little consideration encourages others to continue. Even though you may not have everything you want, you have so much when compared to the billions who would be ecstatic to have what you have.

The more you focus on gratitude for what you have, the more you will appreciate your life and the happier you will be.

Focusing on the positive and making it a habit will increase your level of appreciation. As you find more and more reasons to feel gratitude for each aspect of your life, you become a magnet for positive energy.

Attitude is Everything

Attitude is in fact everything, and nothing else compares to the positive impact it can have on your quality of life and degree of success.

The key to altering your behavior is consistency. Trying to make changes to your world, without attending to the above areas will only provide you with frustration and limited results, instead of a great positive impact and a life transformed.

Observe experts

Just as children learn; the best way to learn a new life skill such as a positive attitude is to observe those who are already proficient in the skill.

Challenge yourself by asking:

· What do they say?

· How do they express it?

· How do they act?

· How is their behavior different from your way of expressing yourself or acting?

· Are there particular behaviours they consistently use that would be easy to adopt?

· What mental changes will you need if you want to be more competent or creative?

· What specific changes in your attitude are required in order to support such flexibility?

Positive Attitude - Cultivate Positivity

Mental Flexibility

Remember that mental flexibility raises your ceiling of limitations, both your own and those of which you are unaware. It is, however, dependent on both your emotional resilience and your willingness to acknowledge the power of your thoughts.

Hesitation, doubt or fear, can prevent you for experimenting. Trying different options to solve a problem can lead to exciting discoveries.

Asking ‘what would happen if,' is an approach used by children that we lose as adults, as our tendency to be risk aversive tightens its grip. Asking yourself a ‘what if’ question every day, will help new and better habits to form, which can only be mastered by practice.


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      Shelley Watson 3 years ago

      Leonard, Thank for visiting and leaving your kind comments.

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      Leonard 3 years ago

      The way one chooses to project themselves is entirely up to any individual you show that and much more in this hub a great topic.

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      Shelley Watson 3 years ago

      WiccanSage, Hello thank you for stopping by and for your great comments.

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      Mackenzie Sage Wright 3 years ago

      Great tips, clear and concise. Seems to me bad attitudes are an epidemic these days and it's always refreshing to see reminders that we can change ourselves instead of expecting the world to bend to our whims, lol. Nice work!

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      Shelley Watson 3 years ago

      Nell Rose, Thanks for popping in and your generous votes, and yes your Mum is quite right.

      Peggy W. Thanks for comments which are so true, appreciate the tweets!

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      Peggy Woods 3 years ago from Houston, Texas

      A positive attitude towards life makes living so much easier than the contrary and it is so much more pleasant for others to be around such a person whether in the workplace or elsewhere. Tweeting!

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      Nell Rose 3 years ago from England

      Hi Shelley yes a good attitude can take you miles as my mum used to say! and its so true, the way we are, the way we write, just about everything in life, great hub, and voted up and shared, nell

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      Shelley Watson 3 years ago

      fpherj48, Thank you for your generous comments, much appreciated. Like your quote. My facebook page has the byline "Life is all about attitude - so have a good one".

      billybuc - Hello thanks for stopping. Love your PIPO. I agree, it's just so much easier to be happy and positive.

      Purpose Embraced, Thank you for adding to my article with an insightful comment.

      ologsinquito - hello and thank you for stopping by.

      denise.w.anderson. Your comments are so true and much appreciated.

      mjboomer - It's great to have you visit again and the dimension you always add. I know the feeling of being with someone who approaches impending death with a positive attitude. I walked down that road with a friend who died at 49 of cancer - her positive attitude and strength in the face of that disease is something I will never let go off.

      DDE - hello and thank you for visiting - always appreciate it.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      The way one chooses to project themselves is entirely up to any individual you show that and much more in this hub a great topic.

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      Mike Elzner 3 years ago from Oregon

      I have been researching attitude in aging this past week, interesting you should write about it. Working on a case where a person (94) faces certain death, but approaches it with a positive attitude. It makes all the difference for them today. Plus research shows positive attitudes can add years to your life as well as quality to your life experience. voted up!!! Thank you Shelly for the inspiration.

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      Denise W Anderson 3 years ago from Bismarck, North Dakota

      Our attitude will make or break us, it is true. When we have a negative outlook on life, it colors everything we do. A positive outlook brightens things up and gives us reasons to laugh and enjoy. Being around someone with a negative attitude really brings a person down.

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      ologsinquito 3 years ago from USA

      I agree. Attitude is the most important.

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      Yvette Stupart PhD 3 years ago from Jamaica

      Shelly, thanks for an insightful hub. Our attitude truly makes a difference. We sometimes try to change others, when in fact, as we change our attitude, things change.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I completely agree with you, Shelley! Give me great attitude any old day....I call it PIPO...Positive In/Positive Out. Have a great day.

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      Paula 3 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      BRAVO! Shelley......This is a wonderful read. I'm a firm believer in the power, benefits and beauty of "Attitude." IMO it is the basic foundation we must have in order to begin anything in life that is worthwhile....

      ATTITUDE......"Never leave home without a positive one!!" UP++++Pinned & Tweeted.