Attitude is how you visualize things around you.
What is attitude?
Attitude is basically a thought process. It translates into a human emotion. From there, it translates into an action. Other people detect someone's attitude. If a person has a positive attitude, people will react to you in the most positive way. People will engage in a conversation with you when you approach them. People tend to get a positive vibe off of you. Attitude is a detectable entity and people can notice this from a mile away. (This helps in building a great relationship.)
This thought process is" a learned tendency to evaluate things in a certain way". The following things get evaluated or processed: issues, events, people, or objects. (http://psychology.about.com/od/socialpsychology/a/attitudes.htm) Now human emotion or the emotional component of an attitude includes " how the object, person, issues or event makes you feel." The cognitive component or our thought process is basically the thought and belief you have about a particular subject. Realistically, there is always something you have to mentally change about every thing, person, issue or object you encounter. Therefore, your mind crafts thoughts not just on subjects, but also on all angles of the subjects. Not to sound too redundant with the concept, I have to say attitude is how you visualize things.Visualization comprises of the emotional and cognitive components. Not to forget the most important part of attitude is the manifestation in action or the behavioral component.
Attitude is like a muscle. It breaks or grows each time you get resistance from a situation. If you look at the muscle analogy, then muscle breaks when faced with weight resistance. Resistance or the situation can be you dealing with a mean-and-rude person. With that first-time exposure to a sour individual, it can mentally wreck you. After a while, you learn to mentally deal with these individuals.This is the growth stage. You begin to change your perspective about these individuals. We are not so upset with mean and rudes anymore because we view them as miserable, so we mentally bless them. Out of amusement, we sometimes look forward to these individuals. And we ask ourselves how can you be so miserable. In this way, the mind muscle grows. Each microfiber in this muscle is structure built for a different resistance.
Exercising the concept of attitude.
What have you learned from the definition of attitude above?
That it is a thought process.
That means you need to train yourself to change your negative thought to a positive one.
Eg. Negative thought: I am out of control.------> Positive thought: I am in control. I am the master of my own universe.
I am fearful-----------> I am courageous.
So the next time you have a negative thought you,
1.you want to identify.
2. convert the process into the opposite.
I will tell you this fact though that it will not be easy, but it will get easier little by little.
Conversion of bad thoughts.
A 12-year boy took a math test and failed it. He was very ------------to study for the next test. What is the usual feeling he would have? And what is the non-reactive response he should have?
Attraction of Positivity
The attraction of positivity
Positivity in this universe attracts other positivity. If you have a certain degree of positivity you attract everybody from negative to positive. It creates a level of satisfaction with negative people. You can see this in Figure 1. When the positive individual emotionally touches the negative individual on the left, the positivity helps set the negative individual in balanced state of attitude. Positive people provide a solution that is why they are attracted to them.
Your job should be to pull people towards you.
Lets look at two examples. You approach a girl who is sad because of a breakup. She will be attracted to you because you made her smile or provided a solution by giving her hope.Or somebody lost somebody in their lives. And you give your genuine condolences to the family. That lifts up them up in spirit by saying such phrases as "He or she is in a better place."
Lets put an emphasis on approach of genuineness because we as human beings have developed into socially smart individuals. If you say any non-genuine thing, then they will detect that and not have a positive effect on the individual.The type of approach you use can send you on a different attitude path, which will be explained in the latter section. It will land you on the most negative path or the steepest down curve. (Fig 2.)
What types of individuals do positive people attract?
The Attitude Paths
The theory of Attitude paths explained
The type of attitude you have puts you on a particular path. There are a whole spectrum of these paths. As you move away from the horizontal line in the middle of the figure, risk increases. You are able to do it with the help of increased emotional stability. There is high risk involved. If you are emotionally shaky, it can be difficult for you to master the end zones , the extreme up curve and the extreme down curve. Therefore, if you are not stable, you have to increase your mentality. You have to read books that shape you and videos such as Tony Robbins.
Extreme positivity or the steepest up curve reflects extra wealth , great choices, freedom and great relationships. This is due to the sum of your efforts, and blind faith put into play. This happens when you always visualize something happening and put things into action. Putting things into action all the time takes you into the steepest up curve. Patience can be very necessary because it is other side of the coin of blind faith.
Extreme negativity or the steepest down curve reflects extreme misery, jail time, and hatred from others. You can not get to this stage even if you allow it to happen naturally. This happens if you choose to take action of that attitude. It happens because of your greed, anger, lust and other vices.
The zone of changeability is probably the safest zone to be in because at this point you can go either way, the positive or the negative curve. If you have negative habits, you might want to crush them at this point. This is from where you can build the strongest foundation.
As you go towards the extremes, does the risk increase or decrease?
Cherry, Kendra Attitudes- How attitudes form, change and shape our behavior About.com Psychology
Expected blogs in the near future:
What is the attitude made up of?
How can we resolve attitude issues in the 3 components?