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Be Positive and Happy Naturally

Updated on October 21, 2016

My Happy Surroundings

A beautiful sight that reminds me of my freedom.
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Be Positive Be Happy

You could go through a major break-up, or grieve the loss of a loved one.

In such situations you some how got to feel positive.

When you choose to be with happy, and positive people, the experience can feel less heart sore.

When in an emotional state you can try to hide your true feelings with the company of friends.

Your idea of being positive is the key to a happier life.

I remained positive in living my life in going forward and to feel true happiness.

At times, I did feel like everything around me hurt too much.

Usually, it happens when in stressful times.

Some people are not positive and live in denial.

While others pretend to be positive in putting up a false front.

Their false positive attitude covers their negative attitude, and that can lead to major depression.

I enjoy speaking up to people, but not to strangers.

Only with people whom I know and feel free to make conversations.

Smiling and getting on with conversations makes me feel good and happy.

When I have a sad moment it is overcome easily with good conversations.

I try not to let that side of me take over my life.

Faking your happiness will hurt you more from within.

The better idea would be is to come right out with it. Be direct about your feelings.

The behavior that one practices creates the bad habit for a permanent way of life. This could destroy many relationships.

  • What are practiced behaviors?

  • For example:

Any behavior that is practiced can be a problem over time from smoking to gambling.

Also, to ruining friendships or relationships from the past troubled experiences.

His first marriage fell apart because he did not pay attention to what destroyed that marriage.

In his observations he could only see the wrong of his partner and not of himself.

The gambling caused everything and money became the biggest issue in their marriage.

The bad habits increased and so did the arguments.

The situation went on for a while, until one day the two once so in love couple could no longer look into each other’s eyes.

When they had nothing to discuss, or talk about, divorce as he thought of became the option.

A man who worked and gambled for all his life, and could not in his first marriage keep up to his word, shows the same old habits in the second marriage.

He lived the way he knew was right for him. In the process made a good marriage to go bad with his practiced behavior.

His complicated mind felt divorce would make it all better again. In the second marriage he continued to be the same just as he was in his first marriage.

The same old routine, and yet again he failed to see how much hurt is caused by his actions.

It is sad to see such behaviors and to repeat the same bad habits in the second marriage.

To make everyone else feel the first wife was wrong, or at fault and has changed was so wrong of him.

He believed he could go on with the thought of his practiced behavior. He preferred to escape conversations.

Practiced behaviors can cause people to lose many marriages, relationships or friendships.

You can’t force a mule to drink water by the lake, if that mule refuses to drink that water.

You can't put pressure or force to make someone do better if they don't want to.

I don't get held back from what I want to do. No one will do for me, I have to do for me.

Life is not about waiting and hoping for that miracle. I had to make that miracle happen for me.

Life's struggles showed me happiness, sadness, anger, and disappointments.

I have learned of how to face up to all challenges put forward to me.

I learned much more in reality. I will not let anyone or anything hold me back from getting on with my life.

People learn from each other from their experiences and from struggles.

It justifies the hardship that goes on with these feelings.

All are worth considering in one’s life.

Sometimes social media helps people to relieve their stressful moments, and emotions to share ugly stuff on line with others friendships.

When you have a few sad friends on some social sites, you can get tired of reading their whining posts.

I like to be with positive people and with happy people.

It is normal to be sad or unhappy. Get out out of that mood fast and do not lose yourself in these emotions.

In the case of death, in many cultures you are allowed to mourn for a certain period,and then move on with your normal life.

While after recent research I realized that in most of the American culture it is mostly about, ‘’getting back to work,’’ ‘‘it is time to make money,’’ or, ‘’take take these pills you will feel better.’’

  • How can all of that make any person feel good, especially in the case of death?

You need time to settle in your thoughts. To mourn and be yourself again. When you just start living right away like nothing ever happened it can hurt you the most in later stages.

No individual can be happy or productive immediately, in such cases unless you are inhuman.

In certain situations, you may never get over the death of a loved one, your mother or father, a close friend or anyone very close to you.

Ignore what others have to say. You should do what you feel is right for yourself.

Healing takes time.

You can only be happy when you show your happiness without force.

Live your life to what you consider is happiness and be however, you choose to be.

Feeling sad does not have to be a lasting emotion in your life.

Sadness can disappear, and re-appear. Focus on what makes you feel alive.

Faking happiness can cause you depression. You may think it is a good idea to fake a smile, but deep down, emotionally, you are dying and feeling most of the hurt. The painful time never goes away if you pretend to be happy.

You can't get rid of that sad moment if you continue to be sad and fake smiles.

No working time can cover up what you really feel inside.

I recently heard that Croatian men who were severely beaten and tortured in the time of the war between the Croatian and Serbian people will be receiving a substantial amount of money for their great heroism.

However, that is not going to fix their Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.

Mentally, these people are troubled and are depressed they were hurt physically, mentally, emotionally, and psychologically, while in Serbia during the period of two months.

I experienced all emotions and dealt with all to stay calm and alive. These emotions did not last and I made sure it did not last to destroy my life.

Just having that someone beside you to know what I was going through made it all easier. My good friend did that for me.

Be happy with a better lifestyle

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My truly happy smile and  my writing shows me more happiness.
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      Rebecca Mealey 2 years ago from Northeastern Georgia, USA

      Living in the present is something I strive to do, and your advice here helps Thanks!

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I call it PIPO...Positive In/Positive Out....life is good my friend.

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 2 years ago from The Caribbean

      Devika, like you suggest, happiness is choice. Thank you for the reminder and the ideas to help make it happen.

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      jtrader 2 years ago

      So many good points are in your article. It is difficult when people who are partners differ in how they think miracles should happen. When one person believes that "God helps those who help themselves" and the other is more the sit and wait type, it causes problems. Hard to smile under those circumstances.

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      Audrey Howitt 2 years ago from California

      Interesting--but i often wonder why we are so consumed with the idea of being happy. Our lives on this earth are not necessarily about finding happiness, but maybe are about learning the lessons that our souls need to learn--and like all emotional states, happiness is fleeting--just my two cents really--I thought your hub was excellent

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      Linda Crampton 2 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      Staying positive is important, although it's very hard at times. Thank you for sharing all your interesting thoughts about happiness and positivity, Devika.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      rebeccamealey so nice of you to come by here I appreciate your kind thoughts thank you

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      billybuc greatly mentioned thank you

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      MsDora you are one of my first followers I appreciate you constant support and your continuous interest in my work thank you very much for stopping by

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi jtraderwell mentioned points and so thoughtful thank you.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      AudreyHowitt, thank you for sharing your mind here interesting and lots to think about from your comment

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      AliciaC lots of thought in your comment thank you.

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      Dave 2 years ago from Lancashire north west England

      Devika,another great article about human behaviour, produced like all your others on this subject, with such thoughtfulness and passion. You can be positive or you can feel sorry for yourself , 99% of the time I try to be the former. Voted up,interesting and beautiful.

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      Lisa VanVorst 2 years ago from New Jersey

      I totally agree with surrounding yourself with positive people. Unfortunately many of my close family members are not happy for different reasons. However they are my family so I need to be close with them to help them. I have suffered hardship and still no matter how difficult try to remain optimistic. Thank you for this hub.

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      Harish Mamgain 2 years ago from India

      Devika, you have brought forth a real gem. We cannot enjoy our lives better if we are not genuine in our outlook and feelings. This is a very useful stuff to ponder and act upon. Voted up.

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      Aga 2 years ago

      Beautiful article. I try to practice "the secret". It isn't always easy. These days we have to train our minds to feel happy!

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      Shelley Watson 2 years ago

      Devika, another great article with lots of insight. It good to surround yourself with positive people and keep smiling. Even though you may be down, it will make you feel better. Up, interesting and useful.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi D.A.L. well said and so true I appreciate your kind comments and thanks for all votes have a pleasant day.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      lisavanvorst greatly mentioned optimism is very important in our lives through all times thank you

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Harishprasad thank you for sharing another great comment I appreciate the vote up and and the efforts you have made to come by here.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Monis Mas ''These days we have to train our minds to feel happy!'' Well mentioned thank you.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      CyberShelley thank you for all votes your comments are always appreciated.

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      Eiddwen 2 years ago from Wales

      Another wonderful hub Devika. You have set your self a high standard by now but none of your hubs disappoint.

      Voted up and shared.

      Eddy.

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      StricktlyDating 2 years ago from Australia

      Feeling your positive vibes DDE :)

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      theBAT 2 years ago

      Yes, it is true. To be happy, we got to be surrounded by happy people. Thanks for sharing.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Eiddwen thank you for the vote up and shared greatly mentioned in your kind words

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      stricktlydating so nice of you to stop by thank you

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      theBAT thank you for commenting.

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      John Paolo B.Magdaluyo 2 years ago from Philippine

      When problems comes I always tried to be positive but there are times that It just bothers me inside. Anyway, great hub my friend!

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      PaoloJpm well said thank you.

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      Adrienne Janet Farricelli 2 years ago from USA

      A wonderful hub. I am guilty of fake smiling. When I used to work, you had to be cheery and smile and this caused me to often hide my real emotions. I remember my grandma had died and I had to keep being happy, when inside I felt terrible.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi alexadry fake smiles hurt you inside and over time you see the effects it can cause you thank you for stopping by.

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      FlourishAnyway 2 years ago from USA

      One thing that really irritates me is people who constantly show the extremes of their emotions on their sleeves. If they are having a bad day, they'll ruin yours. To some extent we all need to learn how to self-regulate emotions and not rain on everyone else's parade. I appreciate a person who can do that.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      FlourishAnyway thank you for taking the time and sharing your valuable comments.

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      Peggy Woods 2 years ago from Houston, Texas

      Bad things happen to almost everyone sooner or later and it is OK to have real feelings and express them to close relatives or friends. Reaching out to others can be very therapeutic. Getting stuck in negativity however is not good for the health of a person. Sometimes just the act of smiling can have the effect of lightening a mood. I like to be around positive people and I think that the majority of people would say the same thing.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Peggy W, thank you for stopping by. Your presence is always welcome and appreciated.

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