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Become More Self Confident

Updated on June 23, 2011

Some people have naturally advanced levels of confidence but everybody can learn to be more confident. Foremost, it's primary to get a clear thought of what self confidence really means; otherwise you won't know when you've got it. So, How to build your self confidence?

1. To know yourself

To make and find more trust in yourself you have to get to know yourself better.

That’s nonsense if you listen to anyone who orders you that you can’t do this or that. Make up your mind; you’ll never practice crutches or a stick, so have a start at everything. Start to educate, get together in every the games you need. Work anywhere you want to. Just never, never allow them carry you that matters are too hard or unacceptable.

First taking heed to your ideas. Begin publishing a diary close to yourself, and around the views you have about yourself, and studying why you have such bad thoughts. And early imagine about the good things about yourself, the things you can do better, the things you care. Get thinking about your restrictions, and whether they’re true restrictions or just ones you’ve let to be built-up on that point, unnaturally.

Your enemy is yourself. When going into conflict, the smartest frequent studies to know his enemy really, really better. You can’t defeat the enemy without knowing him. And when you’re needed to overcome a negative self-image and put back it with self-confidence. Make to know yourself considerably. Dig deep inside yourself, and you’ll appear with regular better self-confidence.

2. Speak up

Generally, people are much more accepting than we imagine. During group discussions many people never speak up because they’re afraid that people will judge them for saying something foolish. This concern isn’t really true. By making an effort to speak up at least once in every group discussion, you’ll become a better public speaker, more confident in your own thoughts, and recognized as a leader by your peers. In fact most people are dealing with the right same fears.

Even if you don’t feel the confidence of someone who speaks slowly, try doing it sometimes. It will make you feel more confident. Naturally, don’t take it to a deep, but just don’t sound fast either. Such a simple thing, but it can have a great difference in how others perceive you. A person in authority, with authority, speaks slowly. It shows confidence. A person who feels that he isn’t valuable listening to will speak rapidly, because he doesn’t require supporting others waiting on something not suitable of listening to.

3. Repeat positive statements

Do you imagine you are a good listener? Prompt yourself ten times daily? Are you well organized? Remind yourself that you have this trait working for you. This helps you build self confidence. More than just thinking positive, you have to put it into action.

 When you are aware of your strengths, you can place your weaknesses into perspective.

Troubles with negative self confidence or low self respect can effectively destroy your life Follow these steps and you will see that you figure self confidence every day. You will see doors open and people become more receptive to you as you start to like yourself and trust in your abilities.

You can do this by taking control of your life, and getting control of your self-confidence. By taking concrete actions that improve your competence, your self-image, you can step-up that self-confidence, without the help of anyone else.

 Confidence comes not from always being right but from not fearing to be wrong.


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    • tom hellert profile image

      tom hellert 6 years ago from home


      i don't think I can do ,some of the things you have here-

      I am too shy and reserved... hahahahahahaha ya thats me reat tips your right i actually have removed my inability- inhibitions for reservation i have adopted a policy of Boldness when prudent


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      mwatkins 7 years ago from Portland, Oregon & Vancouver BC

      Confidence comes not from always being right but from not fearing to be wrong. That is a beautiful and -oh so true - sentiment daravuthz! Confidence also comes from a firm rooted and unshakable belief that you feel 'worthy of goodness, positive self worth and uplifting confidence.' Those kinds of people have the occasional self doubts too, but they deal with them in a way that exudes happiness and surety. One way to help develop self confidence is to also develop a technique for dealing with those soul stealing negative moments. I use something called, "STOP that thought." If a negative thought comes into my mind - I get stuck in traffic (for instance) then my first and original thought may be to curse the drivers in front of me, . . . If those are my first thoughts then I tell myself to, "STOP that thought, and replace it with another one - like this Yeah, now I have time to plan my grocery list!" It take years of practice, but once you get it then it has already become a habit and confidence shows on the outside like a bright ed hat with a very large feather. Great hub - and thanks!

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      daravuthz 7 years ago from Cambodia

      Thank you :)

    • Sarah Masson profile image

      Sarah 7 years ago from Melbourne, Australia

      Great hub and information here, thanks