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Before it is too late

Updated on April 20, 2012

Tonya stood outside of her daughter’s room. She wasn’t going to lie. She was just a bit frustrated. After all, it was understandable that her daughter liked to sleep in, most teenagers did. But once it was past noon, it seemed just a bit ridiculous.

When the clock struck noon, Tonya started calling up the stairs trying to get her daughter to wake up and enjoy the day before it was over. Yet, five minutes later, she still hadn’t exited from her little cave of the universe. Tonya called upstairs once again, this time, irritation was starting to creep into her voice.

Back in the kitchen, Tonya went back to cleaning up from breakfast. With the exception of her and her daughter, the house was empty. It had felt empty for a long time, especially since her husband left her for a younger model. To make things even worse, since her husband moved out, Tonya felt even more alone. Her daughter spent more and more time either away from home or locked into her room.

As Tonya stood outside her daughter’s room, the clock was once again ringing. It was now 1 p.m. and she had been trying to get her daughter up for an hour now. Her daughter completely ignored her, not even acknowledging that she was calling out for her to wake up.

Tonya stood outside, her fist starting to pound on the door.

“Alright, this is getting a little old.”

Still no response. She knocked a little louder before her hand finally found the doorknob. It was locked.

“Young lady, if you don’t open this door right now….” Tonya yelled, “I swear, I will go downstairs and get the key and open it anyway!”

There was still no response.

Tonya ran down the stairs. She was pissed. She was frustrated. She was just so irritated. She could feel her jaw clenching tight. She was grinding her teeth. She rummaged through the junk drawer until she found it. The little key to open the lock.

With it in hand, she marched back upstairs. Each foot purposely pounding each step… louder and louder until she got to the top landing. She stomped back to her daughter’s door and shouted out one last time.

“Last chance! You better wake up and let me in or I am coming in anyway!”

She put the key in the door, wiggled it until she heard it click. She turned the handle and let herself in.

Her daughter was laying on the bed, her arm draped over the edge. Her eyes were glassy; an empty bottle of pills lay on the floor.

Tonya had lost; first her husband and then her daughter. It was too much. She collapsed.

An Act of Despair

Suicide is an act of despair. It is something that can be prevented. Yet, if the symptoms aren’t noticed in time; it might be too late. According to Wikipedia, over one million people commit suicide each year. It is the thirteenth leading cause of death worldwide.

For each person that is successful in their attempt, there is another one who is thinking about it. It could be a call out for attention; it could be depression; it could be that they are just lonely. Yet, it is up to each of us to look for the signs and help those people.

It might just be a friendly smile or just taking the time to listen. It might be observing that something isn’t right with the person. A small act can make a big difference. Yet, if people continue to be blinded by the signs, more people will be lost to this tragedy.

Will you be the person that makes a difference in someone’s life; or will you be the person that is blinded by the signs.

If you or someone you know is feeling the signs of desperation… reach out. It is never to late.

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255.

Have you known or know anybody that needs your help?

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    • barbergirl28 profile image

      Stacy Harris 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca

      @agaglia - Glad you like the hub. I think it is very important for us to get the word out. You just don't know whose life you could be saving.

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      agaglia 5 years ago

      Thank you for an informative hub on Depression - I liked the link for those thinking about Suicide. There are many folks in the world with depression . Bringing information to people about this will help decrease depression

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      Stacy Harris 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca

      @TToombs08 - Thank you so much. I think this is a very important topic! Unfortunately it is also one that alot of people like to throw under the rug.

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      Stacy Harris 5 years ago from Hemet, Ca

      @writeronline - I have a kind heart... sometimes people just have to dig to get past the sarcasm and hurt. :) I guess this is true to my heart because I have known so many people that have suffered with depression, I have suffered with it myself. Unfortunately, it sometimes is that point when it is too late that you finally realized you should have reached out to that very important person in your life. Sometimes a failed attempt is just an excuse to have someone ask if you are ok! I will check out your hubs... however do me a favor, and if I don't find them, can you post them on facebook! :)

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      Terrye Toombs 5 years ago from Somewhere between Heaven and Hell without a road map.

      Saw a lot of this when I was in high school, especially in the villages. A very sad thing. Thank you for writing a real eye opener, and a great way to present suicide prevention. #5

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      writeronline 5 years ago

      Thanks for writing this, barbergirl. I've been 'tempted by a special friend' virtually all my life. I call him my true companion, and I've grown to know him well.

      In the same way that you shared this story in order to maybe get just a few more people to look out for any signs someone might be close to that precipice where thoughts turn to actions, I wrote my story in a hub called "Life With Suicidal Thoughts" and in turn linked it to another hub called "R U OK? A Question that Could Save a Life". Both are designed to make depressed people feel less alone - and 'undepressed' people less judgemental. I'd be pleased if you had time to take a look sometime.

      We're kindred souls, who knew?

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      Stacy Harris 6 years ago from Hemet, Ca

      @rachellrobinson - thank you for sharing your story. In my family I had an uncle that committed suicide. It was when I was very young so I don't remember much. But my husband once attempted suicide and I also once found my way down that slippery slope once. It isn't a fun place to be in. It is even worse if someone doesn't seem to recognize the depression.

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      rachellrobinson 6 years ago from Southwest Missouri

      barbergirl28, my family has been touched by suicide a family member who had health problems decided to end it. Then I had a dear friend who also was suicidal, it was a trying time working through that with them. Thanks for sharing this.


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      Stacy Harris 6 years ago from Hemet, Ca

      I have known people who have committed suicide and succeeded... I have also known some who have failed. I know there has been times that I personally felt like I was going down that slope... and when you are there, sometimes it just takes a friendly person to notice... stranger or not. I hope this helps people... its a horrible place to be in.

      Thanks for the comments!

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      DIYweddingplanner 6 years ago from South Carolina, USA

      Your post touched my heart. This was my son six months ago. Thank God he is still with us, but I watch every day for him to take a detour down that slippery slope again. Yu may have saved a life here. Thanks.

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      neeleshkulkarni 7 years ago from new delhi

      a last act of desperation it is.

      God grant sense to those that want to try it.