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Believe in your self

Updated on May 31, 2013
Derby - UK
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I had written this piece during a period of my life in which I truly felt lost and had no faith in my self what so ever.

Thus, I became to realize that even if people believed in me if I, above all, did not believe in my own abilities then I wouldn't achieve anything.

So, I focused on listening to my own self rather than focusing on being heard. Then I discovered my own capabilities and took charge of my life.

Therefore I am hoping that the following information, included in this hub, could be helpful for others which are experiencing this phase in their lives.

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Billions of people may wonder whether we have absolute control upon our lives or whether our life is just written, and we can’t or are not capable of changing anything. Isn’t it ironic though, to believe we are not capable of achieving the things we want in our life? Isn’t it ironic to believe in others more than we believe in our selves?

There is a large percentage of us who tend to believe in other people, look up to them or admire them, giving them strength and credibility. But what about us? Why don’t we believe in our self? Is it because of the teachers at school who use to say that you wouldn’t achieve anything because of your low grades? Or is it due to your parents putting you down instead of believing in you? Or is it perhaps because no one ever believed in you in order for you to believe in your self?

I could sit and give numerous explanations of why people do not tend to believe in their own self and in what they are capable of doing. However, if “you” yourself do not recognize your own capabilities how could you expect other people to point them out for you? If you do not believe you are capable of doing something, then no one will, and no matter what people say to embrace you, or who says it, the fact will not change. You are not going to achieve anything, if you, above all, do not believe you could.

I believe that we must explore and recognize our own capabilities in order to succeed. No one will do it for us. We are in charge of our own lives. The answers which we seek are within our own selves. All we have to do is find them. So do not ask others what you should do, they do not know the answers. You are the only one who can give answers to your questions. Do what you want to do, what you believe is right. Do not do something others would do if they were in your position. They are not you! You must realize that no one knows you better than you know your own self. Therefore no one can give you the answers you are looking for, apart from your own self.

At times, many of us may find our self mostly caught up doing things that others tell us to do. As a result we may find that we are living a life which is not ours; a life which, in fact, others made for us. We end up feeling lost and confused. Many may visit a counselor or psychologist with most of their statements being:

“I don’t know what to do”


“I just feel like I don’t know who I am anymore”


“I don’t know what I want, or, where I want to get”

We get caught up in a world which others created for us and we forget how to make decisions for our selves, not because we lack the ability, but mostly because we believe that others know better. But no one knows what is better for us than our selves.

Derby - UK
Derby - UK | Source

So my message to you is:

Try and listen to your own self. Listen to your heart. But truly listen, rather than focusing on being heard. Have faith and believe in what you are capable of doing.

“Believe and your belief will actually create the fact” (William James, 1900)

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      Chris Achilleos 4 years ago

      Hi Deborah, thanks for stopping by and reading. I do agree with you, I am a very strong believer in God. I always have trust in Him and believe that He guides me through life. I did write a piece about this, which I will be sharing in the following days.

      Again thank you so much for your kind and encouraging comments, I really appreciate it!


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      Deborah Brooks Langford 4 years ago from Brownsville,TX

      This is a beautiful piece here.. I found out that I had to believe in our god first.. and then I learned to believe in myself.. bless you for writing a wonderful hub