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Bipolar Disorder and what is Normal? Do not think bipolar is the same as up and down normal.
Foggy and not clear
Let us open up our minds to Bipolar.
Do you sometimes get down? Do you sometimes get way up? Bipolar may be in you. Bipolar is really just a word. Two poles. Like north and south. Two extremes. Bipolar is not a boogie man.
Bipolar might be your worst nightmare or Bipolar could be your friend. And nothing about Bipolar is set in stone. Now have I used the word bipolar enough to desensitize you to the word? That is my intention here. Let us look at bipolar from a lifestyle and philosophical point of view.
I have it. And I do not know what that means. I get up and I get down. But let us look at some other factors and normal people without the "disease" and how they are also bipolar.
In other words let us look at others in order to look at ourselves more closely. Or let us take a look at ourselves so we can see others more clearly. The idea here is that we become little Sherlock Holmes. We take out our magnifying glass and look real close with an eye toward investigation and not judgment. We are detectives.
We can see clearly now.
Our friend the lunar body we call moon.
The moon moves in cycles. Those cycles have a pull on all the waters of the world. That pull actually makes water move. You are filled with water. Mostly in blood which also has a bunch of iron in it -- we hope. That water in you is tugged on by the moon. That iron in you is subject to magnetism. From outside of you there are cycles that definitely effect you.
There are cloudy and sunny days. Their are dry days and wet days. There are hot days and cool and cold days. There is air conditioning and loud noises. To suggest that these have no effect on you would be playing Mr. Ostrich. Even though your head may be in the sand the rest of your body is still being effected by all of the above.
And this is just the outside -- let us look at the inside.
A tree mightily effected by the outside.
Our inner cycle
Once every so many years we completely change all the cells in our bodies. Women have a cycle that generally is monthly. I understand that men also have somewhat of a monthly cycle. Children are growing on the inside and outside and learning and going through -- stages. All people start out as babies and die when they are older. Most live to somewhat of an old age. That is a long cycle.
We naturally go through cycles of what we eat. It used to be much more dramatic with the changing of the seasons but to some of us we still go with what is locally fresh and "in season". The nutrients we put into our bodies is on a huge cycle.
Everyone has a sleep and wake cycle and withing both of those we have more cycles like LEM -REM and like first thing when we get up to lunch to bed.
The water that we consume must go through a cycle. Rain, evaporation and rain again.
All the foliage around us goes through cycles. And sometimes just the color changes effect our insides. Animals around us go through seasonal changes -- and we often eat them.
Cool cycle video and the song speaks of ups and downs of faith.
So there you have it. Cycles are everywhere.
So if we were "normal" all the time and did not have cycles we would be very strange indeed. It is more normal to have cycles than not to have them.
So we look at degrees. This is a two step process. One the degree of our cycles and two the degree in which it effects us. You see you and I might have exactly the same cycle, but it really bothers me and you, shoot you hardly notice.
A word of caution here. Both in extremes would be not good. See a doctor. In other words if you answer my quiz below either yes or no, you need to see someone about it. Yogis and pastors maybe but probably an MD of some sort.
Here is what I call the good and bad news. As we grow more aware and in tune with our bodies we can feel things more acutely. You can see how that is both good and bad.
How sensitive are you?
Are you conscious of and effected by your cycles to a large degree?
So now use that bipolar
Within moderation we should enjoy our ups and downs. Remember as a child or if like me, last week, swinging in a playground swing? The ups and downs are what makes them fun. Same with the slide. Same with jumping in the water. For many it is the same with skiing or sky diving.
For some of us it is just the cycle of the day that we enjoy. I love my coffee and teas and different times of the day. And I really like sunsets and sunrises.
Well I also like my internal swings. My writing is probably a reasonable reflection. Some writing are pounding and hard paced. While others are calm, easy does it and too self reflecting ;-)
How about your significant other? Do you enjoy their cycles or does it bother you that on Tuesday he reacts one way and on Sunday night a different way. Can you let yourself get into here moods so you can be on the same page?
I am overly sensitive and overly empathetic. My moods will change like a chameleon to those around me.
I have on many occasions walked into a story and right back out again. If that vibe is just to antagonistic. At least I step back outside prepare for it and re-enter. Although I do admit to turning on the "my mood is going to be your mood" power switch.
My buddies the Water Buffalo, at home at my family home in Vietnam.
So on bipolar
I hope this hub helps us to see that bipolar in us. We take at look at ourselves so that we can see others more clearly.
Someone who really has the bipolar disorder is in a world of hurt. It is a horribly disabling problem. It constantly leads to alcoholism, too often to suicide and very often to ruined jobs and relationships. Make no mistake this is a deadly disease if you have it in any degree that would elevate to a disorder. If you got it get help. If a friend seems to have it, intervene Now!
Perhaps with this insight you can help others. No not by labeling them but by better understanding them in a world that really tries not to because as it learns it realizes that it has it too.
Now you just go and have an up and down day -- and take a little of me with you.
Let me wrap this up on an up note!
I got diagnosed with this disease about ten years ago. It has taken a lot of work to manage. I think I cussed God a little for giving it to me. But as is my way, i followed the rule I learned from a fellow in a garden in a place called Gethsemane. "Please take this cup from me. But no matter your will shall be done".
Here is how it shakes out. Because of this disease i have had the following blessings. I had to learn how to meditate and exercise in proper fashion. Quiet times and deep breathing and more hiking and more yoga. I found I needed more from God. So I began talking with God everyday several times a day. Because of this closeness I became a preacher man. Because of a greater awareness of others my business has improved.
And now because of this time spent daily in reflection and health and seeking I have become a much better writer, husband and father, and I hope friend. I learned to listen, not only to others but to myself and to quiet.
So because of a deadly disease my cycle of growth and learning and understanding took on more vigor and love. So in essence the disease was the greatest gift I have ever had.
Rudyard Kipling wrote: "If you can meet triumph and disaster and treat those two impostors just the same".
That quote along with a collage of me hiking with my children was given me a a gift. Funny that. Have you ever received a death gift? Yes, my buddies gave me that as a good bye gift. I tricked them, I stayed alive.