Body Image Obsession. STOP IT
Music to the ears, by Steve Maraboli
The following is an excerpt from the inspirational self-improvement book entitled, "Life, Truth and Being Free." It's author is Steve Maraboli, popular Speaker, best selling Author and Behavioral Science Academic:
"You are beautiful. Your beauty just like your capacity for life, happiness and success is immeasurable. Day after day, countless people across the globe get on a scale in search of validation of beauty and social acceptance.
Get off the scale! I have yet to see a scale that can tell you how enchanting your eyes are. I have yet to see a scale that can show how wonderful your hair looks when the sun shines its glorious rays on it. I have yet to see a scale that can thank you for your compassion, sense of humor and contagious smile. Get off the scale because I have yet to see one that can admire you for your perseverance when challenged in life.
It's true, the scale can only give you a numbered reflection of your relationship with gravity. That's it. It cannot measure beauty, talent, purpose, life force possibility, strength or love. Don' t give the scale more power than it has earned. Take note of the number, then get off the scale and live your life. You are beautiful."
What are your thoughts after reading Steve's quote? How do you sincerely feel about what he has said? Take your time and reach down deep. Be completely honest with yourself.....no one need know but you. If standing face to face with this gifted Speaker, what would you say to him in response to his words?
Kick back.....View this Video
Continue to contemplate and explore your feelings as you relax and take a few moments to view this video........
Mirror, mirror.....Do you see what I see?
Feeling better, stronger more confident?
Having read Steve's lovely quote and watched this video packed with common sense and realistic facts about how our brain translates all that comes through our senses...take hold of your true thoughts.. As unique individuals, don't each of us see a different view, hear an alternate sound or taste another flavor? Of course we do. How else can we explain the diversity in humans?
The annual Multi-Billion Dollar Business.
They cater to those of us who have been brainwashed into a slanted, cockeyed concept of our body, in large part from the media. This image we have is false but we did not get there alone nor voluntarily.
Granted, some of the billions of dollars come from those who stand to make the most money by fostering these lies... professional models and actors under contract (and threat of career loss) to maintain near-perfect bodies from head to toe. These people are not the focus here. The focus is you and me, our friends, family, co-workers and neighbors. All the marvelous, diverse, basic yet extraordinary human beings who simply may not accept that they're lovable, wonderful and fascinating, just as they are.
Do you ever seriously wonder why this is? Perhaps we should take a look at just a couple of the possibilities.
We see, hear and follow like sheep.... "Brainwashing."
The epidemic of dangerous eating disorders does not often make headline news. We may know they exist, but it doesn't happen to anyone we know. Not in our town. Never in our family.
Take a look at those stick figures walking the Fashion Industry runways. Women like the waif in this photo. Look closely at her sad and helpless eyes.
What do you really see? Are you horrified? I see the image of Obsession. The result of lies told and ridiculous images created. Images we are brow-beaten into believing are those of a "real woman and true beauty." Greed mongers and liars who create an industry to swoop up our young and mold them into the female of every man's dreams. Be the envy of your peers, strive to be the center of attention.....yes, be model-like.
Sadly and proof be evident, this works. It has worked well for decades and will continue. How do we stop the obsession?. Surely there exists a need to reject what amounts to nonsense at best and self-loathing at worst. Learning to love and accept one another as the beautiful, gifted creatures we were made to be is not a futile hope, is it?
Follow the Rules!
The reality is that it hasn't always been this way. But just like any trend that begins with seeds planted and the media taking off with the newest and greatest of what now is "In," the masses will devour like vulchers looking for the attention and envy celebrities hold.
It may be difficult for people who are not easily deceived by false illusions that flood from Hollywood, to understand. A literal war exists between what rational minds can understand and what the powers behind the plots will tirelessly force feed a vulnerable public.
We need to ask ourselves why eating disorders, anorexia and bulimia have soared in numbers, the vast majority teen-aged girls, who so desperately need to be accepted, loved and most of all, noticed.
What needs to be profoundly understood is the excessively high level of obsession that drives the individual to such drastic measures. It becomes a method of control, but it begins with an idea. An idea planted as a seed, in the mind of those sucked in by the hype and hoopla.
What can be done to combat the pressure of seeking a false perfection? Can we protect the innocents from getting caught up into yet another fantasy belief in who or what they must be to be "someone?"
Being the Best YOU is the Perfect Gift to offer.
When all is said and done, somehow it always boils down to what really matters in life. In the end, it will not matter if you carried the ideal number of pounds for your height and frame. It will matter that you had the inner strength to carry your burdens with hope in your heart. The statistics of your curves are not as impressive as the value of your compassion. A number on the scale,cannot with any accuracy,reflect your nature-given talents and intellect.
It is within our power to stop the obsession for physical perfection and begin to focus on being fit and healthy in both mind and body. We can learn and teach the beauty of self-worth and confidence. Why would we not make it a point to tell others how beautiful they are by their expression of pure love for humanity. A life of health and happiness and strength becomes the example we should want to pass on to our children.
We all are beautiful in our own way and have abundant worth. Those who attempt to paint us all with the same brush or mold us into one-size-fits-all, do this based upon shallow thinking and selfish motives of greed. We know better. And because we know better, we must do better.
This message has, in the last decade or so, begun to take shape and has been spread by individuals and groups of consumer advocates, educators and experts in health fields. Finally the justifiable objection to the mass adoration of the rail-thin woman is being proclaimed. A more sane and realistic message has taken root and is sprouting results that can be applauded and supported.
The emphasis on physical activities and involvement in fresh air athletics has spread across the Nation. Young people need to understand how to take care of the one and only body they have. Anti-bullying campaigns have cropped up everywhere and best of all, it's working. The greatest gift we can give one another is the validation that our worth is unconditional.
It's about time. I know you join me in supporting these efforts and spreading the news.
You are loved, respected and appreciated, just as you are.