- Mental Health
"Breaking from The Past" by Rolly A. Chabot
What more can I say about today other than Brrrr ! We are getting it good today, a light snowfall and some high winds and the roads are in the process of getting crazy out there.
"No Rolly you need to rethink that last statement. Maybe it is the people driving on them that are getting crazy." Why is it when you are driving 50 miles an hour there are those who insist they can do the standard 70 miles per hour or even better. We have become a society who cares little about our own safety or even worse the safety of others. The best thing that can happen is see these people a few miles up the road buried in snow and hopefully they are not hurt. At least off the road is where they belong.
Come along and get settled in now that I have ranted and lets look at a few things that cause frustration and anger. Have a cup of coffee, tea or better yet a hot chocolate... hugs to all and know that you are loved.
Anger can be deep seated, accumulated over many years, often the cause is so buried in our memories we have lost sight of it. All we know is we have this unsettling feeling deep within we have learned to live with.
The inner voice reminds of of it and yet we carry on like there is nothing wrong in the eyes of those whom we face daily. After a period of time it just is and we accept it. That is until something stirs a spark and it surfaces again and rears its ugly head.
It is then we say and do things which are against the very nature of who we portray ourselves to be. General the real us comes into play wit those whom we love such as family and close friends. It is to those people we lash out.
Why them is the question. Generally the reason is because we know we are loved and it seems OK because we know we will be forgiven. Once we do so it becomes easier to lash out at strangers. That is until we are confronted them we back away but still hold onto the anger.
Is it possible to be this way at all times. Yes with a little help and some hard work on our parts. It is all about how we view the world we live in. Is the glass half full or half empty has always been a question.
For years I had a much harder outlook on life. I blamed the world and everyone in it for all of the issues I faced. No matter what happened I could point a finger at someone and say it was their fault. That was until I met a wise old Indian man. I laugh now when I think of the first few months he listened to me go on about all the problems.
One day we were sitting high above a river valley. I so admired his peace he displayed at any given time. After a particular whining and complaining session he turned to me and spoke a few simple words. "Maybe it is you who created all this pain."
Again the old anger surfaced even though I said nothing. He spoke again and said "What is it that you can do to change things." He went on to explain that the anger I was seeing was coming from within. "Lay your life out my friend on a sheet of paper and accept what is yours."
His words that day started a change within that is still evolving today. He said "When we point at another there are always three fingers pointing back. We point out their downfalls because we see them in ourselves. Maybe if you take the time to look at yourself things will change." Good advice and advice that can apply today as well as it did in those days.
Life Is Hard
Rose coloured glasses have been around for a long while. Woodstock is where I first found them. You see they painted a new world, well with the help of some extras like electric lettuce and mushrooms and other additives readily at hand everything looked much better. Glad those days are over...
It is hard enough to live life today with all the pressures we find ourselves under. The demands are great. Maybe we need to look at all we are doing and ask ourselves why and evaluate the reason we do them. Is it possible the demands we are under are ones we place upon ourselves.
What can we trim to lighten the load for us to sit long enough to watch a beautiful sunset or sit and listen to a friend or better yet take the time to help others. All things that are so very important in life and can take our minds off our own woes.
I find great peace
" S..T..R..E..S..S "
Stay under this umbrella long enough and you will burn out. You will crash and burn and be no good for anyone or for that matter yourself. Have you ever been there?
I have a few times and thankfully the last time I was able to see the signs early enough to turn in the 24-7 phone and all the responsibilities and head for the hills. Knowing your limits is key. The more you do at your work the more that will be demanded of you. It is so very important to set some boundaries and say no.
Depression is something that we can associate with stress. It is that overwhelming feeling that we have failed Toss in a little anger, anxiety, depression and bitterness and you have a ticking time bomb. The bomb being the you in you.
Depression is fed by more depression. It changes who we are. It changes the way we look at people, at things and life in general. We need more negative thoughts to fuel the fires burning burning within and it becomes a vicious cycle and one that is hard to break.
Medications we have today are great in some cases but they can often only prolong the inevitable. You see our worlds only keep piling it on. We are burdened with guilt thinking we are not doing enough and we take on more. The economy we have in North America has driven many to doing far more than they should for what they are getting paid. This of course adding to the stress. The medications to fight depression and anxiety give us a sense of well being and yet are we any better off. Just count the side effects of some of these drugs and weigh the benefits. Read the fine print and do your homework.
Nothing can beat a healthy lifestyle. Things like a good nights sleep, proper diet and plenty of exercise and most important finding a balance and setting healthy boundaries. Finance play a big role in who we are. Take a look at yours and consider where you are spending and or where you can trim. Take a look at the numbers it cost you to live each month and ask yourself what it will be when you retire.
Answers I have none really other than what I have learned through being there and having done that. It is not a place I care to return too. You see I choose to sit and look at a sunset and reflect about something that is bothering me, praying about it and sort through it in a positive manner.
When it is all over I can sit back without anxiety and say thank you for the gift that is being given especially the peace and the blessings of the moment. My dear friends please take sometime today and over the next while and evaluate where you are. Take the time to look at everything positive and avoid the negative.
When you see another struggling take the time to come alongside and just listen. Take the time to lend a hand at a local charity serving others. The blessings you will get will come back to you many times over.
Above all know that you are dearly loved...
© Rolly A. Chabot
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