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"Breaking from The Past" by Rolly A. Chabot

Updated on April 8, 2015
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What more can I say about today other than Brrrr ! We are getting it good today, a light snowfall and some high winds and the roads are in the process of getting crazy out there.

"No Rolly you need to rethink that last statement. Maybe it is the people driving on them that are getting crazy." Why is it when you are driving 50 miles an hour there are those who insist they can do the standard 70 miles per hour or even better. We have become a society who cares little about our own safety or even worse the safety of others. The best thing that can happen is see these people a few miles up the road buried in snow and hopefully they are not hurt. At least off the road is where they belong.

Come along and get settled in now that I have ranted and lets look at a few things that cause frustration and anger. Have a cup of coffee, tea or better yet a hot chocolate... hugs to all and know that you are loved.

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Anger

Anger can be deep seated, accumulated over many years, often the cause is so buried in our memories we have lost sight of it. All we know is we have this unsettling feeling deep within we have learned to live with.

The inner voice reminds of of it and yet we carry on like there is nothing wrong in the eyes of those whom we face daily. After a period of time it just is and we accept it. That is until something stirs a spark and it surfaces again and rears its ugly head.

It is then we say and do things which are against the very nature of who we portray ourselves to be. General the real us comes into play wit those whom we love such as family and close friends. It is to those people we lash out.

Why them is the question. Generally the reason is because we know we are loved and it seems OK because we know we will be forgiven. Once we do so it becomes easier to lash out at strangers. That is until we are confronted them we back away but still hold onto the anger.

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Can We

Is it possible to be this way at all times. Yes with a little help and some hard work on our parts. It is all about how we view the world we live in. Is the glass half full or half empty has always been a question.

For years I had a much harder outlook on life. I blamed the world and everyone in it for all of the issues I faced. No matter what happened I could point a finger at someone and say it was their fault. That was until I met a wise old Indian man. I laugh now when I think of the first few months he listened to me go on about all the problems.

One day we were sitting high above a river valley. I so admired his peace he displayed at any given time. After a particular whining and complaining session he turned to me and spoke a few simple words. "Maybe it is you who created all this pain."

Again the old anger surfaced even though I said nothing. He spoke again and said "What is it that you can do to change things." He went on to explain that the anger I was seeing was coming from within. "Lay your life out my friend on a sheet of paper and accept what is yours."

His words that day started a change within that is still evolving today. He said "When we point at another there are always three fingers pointing back. We point out their downfalls because we see them in ourselves. Maybe if you take the time to look at yourself things will change." Good advice and advice that can apply today as well as it did in those days.

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Life Is Hard

Rose coloured glasses have been around for a long while. Woodstock is where I first found them. You see they painted a new world, well with the help of some extras like electric lettuce and mushrooms and other additives readily at hand everything looked much better. Glad those days are over...

It is hard enough to live life today with all the pressures we find ourselves under. The demands are great. Maybe we need to look at all we are doing and ask ourselves why and evaluate the reason we do them. Is it possible the demands we are under are ones we place upon ourselves.

What can we trim to lighten the load for us to sit long enough to watch a beautiful sunset or sit and listen to a friend or better yet take the time to help others. All things that are so very important in life and can take our minds off our own woes.



I find great peace

" S..T..R..E..S..S "

Stay under this umbrella long enough and you will burn out. You will crash and burn and be no good for anyone or for that matter yourself. Have you ever been there?

I have a few times and thankfully the last time I was able to see the signs early enough to turn in the 24-7 phone and all the responsibilities and head for the hills. Knowing your limits is key. The more you do at your work the more that will be demanded of you. It is so very important to set some boundaries and say no.

Depression is something that we can associate with stress. It is that overwhelming feeling that we have failed Toss in a little anger, anxiety, depression and bitterness and you have a ticking time bomb. The bomb being the you in you.

Depression is fed by more depression. It changes who we are. It changes the way we look at people, at things and life in general. We need more negative thoughts to fuel the fires burning burning within and it becomes a vicious cycle and one that is hard to break.

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Medicate

Medications we have today are great in some cases but they can often only prolong the inevitable. You see our worlds only keep piling it on. We are burdened with guilt thinking we are not doing enough and we take on more. The economy we have in North America has driven many to doing far more than they should for what they are getting paid. This of course adding to the stress. The medications to fight depression and anxiety give us a sense of well being and yet are we any better off. Just count the side effects of some of these drugs and weigh the benefits. Read the fine print and do your homework.

Nothing can beat a healthy lifestyle. Things like a good nights sleep, proper diet and plenty of exercise and most important finding a balance and setting healthy boundaries. Finance play a big role in who we are. Take a look at yours and consider where you are spending and or where you can trim. Take a look at the numbers it cost you to live each month and ask yourself what it will be when you retire.


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Answers

Answers I have none really other than what I have learned through being there and having done that. It is not a place I care to return too. You see I choose to sit and look at a sunset and reflect about something that is bothering me, praying about it and sort through it in a positive manner.

When it is all over I can sit back without anxiety and say thank you for the gift that is being given especially the peace and the blessings of the moment. My dear friends please take sometime today and over the next while and evaluate where you are. Take the time to look at everything positive and avoid the negative.

When you see another struggling take the time to come alongside and just listen. Take the time to lend a hand at a local charity serving others. The blessings you will get will come back to you many times over.

Above all know that you are dearly loved...

© Rolly A. Chabot

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      An excellent message, Rolly! Thank God for the time I took to find a degree of self-awareness. Without it I shudder to think of where I would be right now.

      blessings from Oly

      bill

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      Mary Gaines 4 years ago from Oak Harbor on Whidbey Island, Washington

      Hello friend and thank you for this, I so agree with you and would rather pray and enjoy a sunset instead of hold anger or bitterness. I've learned to give those things over to our Heavenly Father and when I do there is a peace that I feel that is indescribable.....thank you again and God Bless!

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      Jackie Lynnley 4 years ago from The Beautiful South

      Wow I thought I was gonna have to go get my sunglasses until I read past that smiley face, lol. All you say is true. Anger always hurts us more than it does anyone else and it is never pretty is it? There is always better things to do. Great write, glad I caught it so soon. Thanks for sharing along with your great weather! ^

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      Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Billy... must have been the same course I took... blessed to know you are such an accomplished graduate. So true what we can find within when we start to uncover what ailes us...

      Hugs from Canada

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      carol stanley 4 years ago from Arizona

      Life is not an easy journey. We do have those wonderful moments but also have to deal with life itself. No one gets through this life without problems, challenges, stress, fear..Great hub and we work at trying to understand ourselves and life.

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      Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Whidbeywriter... so true and thank you for stopping. To "Be Still" is so very important in this world that flies at such a pace.

      Blessings from Canada

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      Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Jackie... thanks for the share and glad you found this. Like always a blessing to have you visit.

      Anger is like a cancer in many ways as it just continues to grow as it infects first the mind then the heart and before long you are overcome with many of the other emotions it consumes.

      Hugs and Blessings from Canada

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      Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Morning Carol... Yes you are so right... I like to think of the challenges and the hard times as being a time when we grow and learn from the past. In the past people would just bite the bullet and get on with it and never really deal with the issues at hand. I like to think the world is evolving and not willing to do the same. It is far easier to stop and fix it before it becomes to big and causes all the pain.

      Hugs and Blessings from Canada

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      Eric Dierker 4 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Rolly thank you for writing such an important piece. Even though I have been working on this for years I must admit,, I am really angry that I cannot write such great work. Happy MLK day!

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      Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Ericdierker... I beg to differ with you my friend... you are a great writer and never let anyone tell you different... Thanks for the comment and the visit...

      Hugs from Canada

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 4 years ago from Southern Illinois

      Hello Rolly, Thank you for writing this today. We have so much to be thankful for, yet, sometimes we forget to say, " Thank you. " Stay well and happy Dear friend.

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      Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Always... good to see you again and yes you are right. Sometimes the greatest remedy for a day we feel a little down is to just slip out to a quiet place and begin to pay attention to what is good...

      Hugs and Blessings from Canada

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      Eiddwen 4 years ago from Wales

      A great hub Rolly and so much food for thought.

      I am a great believer in that something good comes from everything bad and isn't in an honour to be able to interact and with each other as we do on here and oh yes we must at times take stock and count our blessings..

      I vote up,across and share all around my friend.

      Eddy.

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      Mark G Weller 4 years ago from Lake Charles, LA.

      Thank you Rolly, this is a message we all can use and learn.

      mark

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      Joanna Chandler 4 years ago from On planet Earth

      Hi Rolly Happy New Year to you and your family. May the Good LORD of heaven bless and keep you.

      Interesting hub you hit a bit of everything in one. Ummm hmmm hating others only consume us and then we can barely see ourselves. Our biggest enemy is OURSELVES.

      Jesus has the answers yet we fail to go to Him for help at times.

      Stress and depressions are two demons that have been used to destroy mankind. I too find myself being depress when i should not the song writer said : we should never be discouraged TAKE IT TO THE LORD IN PRAYER i fail to do that sometimes but i am working on it this 2013.

      Thanks for sharing and keep good

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      Karen Silverman 4 years ago

      i love your 'rant', Rolly - may it never end - or - let it end when the world is a better place!

      Your words ought to be read - by many...and often!

      btw...can i have whipped cream with my hot chocolate please? lol..

      voting up and sharing forward, my friend..

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      Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Eddie... Thanks for stopping and oh yes there is always something that can come from the bad but I do think it is something we need to learn. Thus the quiet time to sit and reflect on what has taken place and sort through what has been said and sone and take the blame if we are at fault. I would sooner keep a friend than loose one over something silly.

      Hugs, Blessings and love from Canada

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      Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi Mark... thanks again for stopping... glad you were able to come around and bless us all...

      Hugs to you

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      Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi LadyFiddler... Thanks for the words you have shared here. Trust me you are not alone in your struggles and failing to turn to where our real love is. It is an ongoing battle we all face... best to you and yours in 2013 and may He guide and direct all your ways....

      Hugs and Blessings from Canada

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      Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi ImKarn23... welcome to the Fireside and great to have you here. Thanks for reading the "Rant"... lol... Happens every once in a while.

      Whipped cream double helping with a sprinkle of cinnamon and some chocolate shavings, a warm snuggly blankie and if needed a pillow. Warning watch Quigley the dog... she is a whipped cream addict... lol

      Hugs from Alberta

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      Pamela Oglesby 4 years ago from United States

      This is great advice and I have found it necessary to sit still and take an inventory from time to time. Honest self evaluation is very helpful. Sometimes it is so easy to get caught up in our problems that we forget to be grateful for all the good things of life. Hope you and the family are staying warm. Give Quigley a hug from me as he sounds like a treasure.

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      Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

      HI Pam... thanks for the comment and you are right. Not only ou own problems but the problems of others we love and those who we do not even know when we hear of terrible tragedy.

      Hugs for the visit and Blessings back to you and yours.

      Rolly

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      drbj and sherry 4 years ago from south Florida

      Hi, Rolly. That Indian fellow you met really knew what he was talking about: "Maybe it is you who created all this pain." Would that we all had this intelligent insight. Thanks for the meaningful reminders.

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      Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi drbj... yes he certainly was a neat man. Johnny was the Chief of a tribe who still lived as they did years ago and that was off the land and without any government help.

      It is far to easy to blame another when we should be looking within...

      Hugs from Canada

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      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      I'm so sorry, Rolly, don't know how I missed this one.

      It is exceptional! Anger and its destructive power is enslaving and can rot the bones, but then a heart at peace gives life to the body. Which, of course, all of this is from scripture. Your hub reminded me of these truths.

      Excellent write

      Hugs and love to you, Faith Reaper

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      Deb Hirt 4 years ago from Stillwater, OK

      Nothing like inspirational words to get us through our hectic life. Nell wrote a piece on you, so she sent me to see you.

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      Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi gain Fait Reaper... sorry I have been so long in getting back to you on this one. You are so right, anger is one of those hidden dangers that is far to prevalent out there in society. It is like an infection because once it becomes active and alive it poisons in all directions... What I have found to be so true is that it can be stopped with love and understanding... especially in ourselves once we undertand the triggers and the root cause.

      Hugs and Blessing from Canada

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      Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi aviannovice ... welcome to the Fireside and thank you for the heads up. Oh that Nell... she is such a sweetheart. I will slip over and have a peek.

      I must thank her for sending you over... I joined up with you as well, love your style and what you are doing... awesome.

      Hugs from Canada

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      Patricia Scott 4 years ago from sunny Florida

      You nailed it when you said that often our anger is vented to our loved ones because they do love us. Even though the anger has nothing to do with them.

      There are so many factors that could pull us down. But you have pointed out so well the alternatives.

      Finding your writings is a good thing....reading your words offers one more cup of inspiring thoughts for my day. Sending many Angels your way this morning :) ps

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      Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Morning pstraubie48... so blessed to hear that something here has touched you. Over the years what I find ironic, is people hold grudges for so long neither really knows what it was all about in the first place. I see it often in families. Sometimes the best thing to do is bite the bullet and accept the blame for what ever and start to mend the differences...

      Hugs and Blessings

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      Patricia Scott 4 years ago from sunny Florida

      Yes, Rolly, take time to smell the roses. Seeing the glass has half full may make a Pollyanna out of us but it sure defers the stress. And worry and fussing and complaining and whining has never changed a thing.

      Thank you for sharing this wise thoughtfilled passage with us.

      Angels are on the way to you this morning :) sp

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      Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

      Hi again pstraubie48... so right and no matter what there is always a bright side... blessings are always there if we take the time to look...

      Hugs from Canada

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