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Build Your Self-Esteem

Updated on May 8, 2010

Happiness begins with you

Don't Worry! Be Happy!
Don't Worry! Be Happy!

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Are you tired of the way things are going in your life?  If you’ve answered yes then I have the solution for you.  You can achieve a better you in just seven days with determination and perseverance.

It is really funny to walk into any store and pick up the scandal sheets, these are the magazines such as People, and The National Enquirer that my grandmother named the scandal sheets, and read about how tragic some celebrity’s life is.  I mean seriously, come on.  I really do feel bad for them; I mean it must be rough having all that money and no personality.

It seems though that most people look to the movie stars and other famous people and think about how nice life would be with all that money.  At some point though we need to get our heads out of fantasy land and realize that life can be a hard reality.

If you stop and think about how easy it is to lose yourself in delusions of grandeur you’ll realize that when those fantasies don’t become a reality you can lose your self esteem.  Fantasies are great tools for writers but when you lose control over those same fantasies it can really mess you up.  In order to combat these delusions you have to set realistic goals and work toward achieving those goals.  In doing this you won’t lose sight of who you are which, is a pretty great person.

You may think, “How can I change my life in only seven days?”

In seven days by performing the following steps you can build a lifelong foundation for success and feelings of self worth.  Like all self improvement techniques it starts on day one.  Let’s look at a daily breakdown of what you need to do.

Day One:


Know what your purpose is.  When you have no direction it is easy to get side tracked and you leave yourself to feelings of inadequacies.  You wander from task to task without really accomplishing anything, or you sit around thinking about the things you should do.  Set daily goals, weekly goals, monthly goals and up.  Once you set the goals work toward achieving those goals.  When you achieve one goal set a new one.  I recommend you reevaluate your goals often to prevent them from becoming stagnant or you getting burned out.  Keep it fresh and exciting and you’ll start feeling better on day one.  Just remember that goals will set your course and that sometimes starting on those goals can be difficult.  There is always some small way to start making the difference.  I like to start new routines on a Monday as it is a proven fact that this day has a higher survival rate among new routine start days.

Day Two:

Know what your values are.  For me it is easy, the Army tells me what my values are but what are yours?  Some of the greatest values out there are loyalty, honor, integrity, courage, respect.  These five values can be a foundation on your own core values.  Be loyal to family and friends, be honorable, show integrity with yourself and others (be honest), display courage to try and do new things, and above all else respect yourself and others.  These core values are great but now let’s talk about what you value.  Most people value security, freedom, and family.  While you value these things it is important to set your goals from day one in parallel to these values.  If you set a goal that doesn’t match up, revisit that goal and change it to fit into these criterions.  Adaptability is a great tool to happiness, while you’re working on improving your self-worth work on developing your adaptability.

Day Three:

Know what you need.  When you fail to meet your personal needs you can become distant to what you desire.  This simply means, take care of you.  I am not referring to eating and bathing, of course those are important but I am talking about the things that make you happy.  Some of us have a need to be in control of things, or to be heard and seen, and everyone has a need to be loved.  By ensuring your own personal needs are met you can combat stress and depression.  Just remember the most important thing you can ever know, you are responsible for your own happiness.  In order to accomplish the task for day three you need to write down four or five of your personal needs and get them met today, it may be too late tomorrow.

Day Four:

What are you passionate about?  You should know your passions and what it is that you enjoy doing in life.  Me, I love to write…stories, poems, notes it doesn’t matter.  Whatever your passion is or passions are, pursue them.  When you succeed in your passions your become happy, even just working on or completing a project will make you happy.  This day does not just mean what your passionate dreams are; it can be what you love and are passionate about doing.  If you are passionate about reading them curl up with a good book for awhile.


Day Five:

Get in touch with your inner child again.  Have you ever noticed how calm and relaxed people who say very little are?  That may be because they regularly reflect on their thoughts in silence.  We all have an inner voice, take a few minutes to listen to what it is saying to you.  Go to the park and enjoy nature for a few minutes, study the soothing sounds Mother Nature provides us with.  Now if you live in a busy city with all that noise, dim the lights in your room and play some classical songs or better yet some nature sounds, there is nothing more calming then the sounds of the ocean.  Let it pull you into relaxation.

Day Six:

We are almost there.  On this day you should highlight your strengths.  What is a positive thing about you?  Do you have any special gifts or talents?  Whatever they are list them, at least four things about you.  Think about what you do well, maybe you paint or write; maybe you can fix anything or are great at telling jokes.  Once you get four or more strengths listed find ways to emphasize those traits.  The best way to feel better about yourself is to share your strengths with friends or family.

Day Seven:

Now that we have made it through the self improvement week you should already feel pretty good about yourself, but the task isn’t finished yet, you have one more thing to do.  By serving others you make an impact on someone else’s life.  We human beings are social by nature so why not harness that natural quality and use it to make yourself feel good.  Being connected with our fellow humans gives us a sense of liveliness.  There is nothing more profound than helping out a stranger, and sparking up a friendship through that one small act of kindness. 

In Conclusion


Do you now believe you can change your life in seven days?  If not you at least have the foundation firmly cemented in your daily schedule. 

Remember that self improvement is always a worthwhile thing to do.  The power to affect your situation always lies within yourself with a desire to change for the better.


© 2010 by Wesley Cox. All rights reserved. Copying without permission is illegal and will be prosecuted.

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    • wesleycox profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from Back in Texas, at least until August 2012

      Thank you for reading embee77, I am glad that you enjoyed thi one and it is very important and possible. Thank you.

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      8 years ago

      This hub is great - full of positivity and helpful ideas. Yes, it CAN be done! I am an example. Strategies that especially worked for me were following my passions, knowing myself, focusing on others, and --one you don't have -- getting professional help. I found I couldn't get through the positive self talk without someone looking over my shoulder to make sure I did it. Check out my take on the issue in my new hub. Hope to hear from you!! And Thanks!

    • wesleycox profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from Back in Texas, at least until August 2012

      Hey Kim, thanks for reading, and you are right those two are super important to self worth.

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      Kim Harris 

      8 years ago

      Great hub! Thanks Wesley. Purpose and values are so important.

    • wesleycox profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from Back in Texas, at least until August 2012

      Thanks for reading rajinder.

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      8 years ago

      very good attempt to solve one of the biggest problem of modern times.

    • wesleycox profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from Back in Texas, at least until August 2012

      Thank you billy, I am glad that you enjoyed the message of this hub. So many people are constantly overcome with the belief they need to measure up to celebrities it isn't even funny. Thanks for reading and commenting.

    • billyaustindillon profile image


      8 years ago

      Wesley I enjoyed your hub and so important a reminder that we as individuals can do it with purpose, values and passion. We don't need movie stars et al as role models - amen to that!


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