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A Compliment Is A Great Gift
One evening, I sat down to eat a delicious Szechuan meal. I had vegetable Moo Shoo which consisted of chopped Chinese cabbage, thin strips of Chinese black mushrooms, thin strips of fried tofu (which tasted like chicken), and thin slices of carrots. I ate this meal heartily and it was delicious.
Since it was a take home meal, I was unable to tell the cook at the restaurant what I was thinking. I could call up and speak to the receptionist, or I could leave a message on their website. Or I could make sure I go there often, so they can tell that I like their food (by buying it often). Or I could write a review in a blog or some other source. What I was thinking was that this food is very tasty, and very plentiful as well, since I can not finish it all at once. I could tell them, You did an excellent job with all the right spices. Or, I could say, Your service was excellent! I will come here often! The last comment would probably be the best one to use. This compliment would generate more business, which is what they wanted to do in the first place. After the meal was completed, I opened up the package of condiments (soy sauce, duck sauce) and found two fortune cookies. I open up my cookie, and instead of finding and ancient Chinese proverbial prediction, I found a COMPLIMENT! It said, "You are original and creative." So thus, the contents inside my fortune cookie has inspired this HUB!
COMPLIMENTS START AT HOME
I had a very honest Mom and Dad. They told me when I did wonderful in school. They praised me for my success in the musical arts. They always made sure to let me know if I was dressed well (or not), and as they have gotten in their elder years, my parents have shown more of their appreciation verbally. To hear an appreciation verbally is so important in a healthy maturation of a child. The self esteem increases, the encouragement of a child through compliments increase the desire to succeed and the desire to learn more and do more. The compliments on a young person's looks, especially when they are in the preteen and teen years will encourage the feeling of self acceptance.
COMPLIMENTS FROM THE TEACHER
I saved all my papers from my high school Creative Writing teacher and from all my teachers in Bible College. The comments made me so happy. The fact that they loved my writing skills encouraged me to do more. So you can thank all my educators that complimented me on my writing; they have been an influence on my desire to be a writer today.
If a teacher does not give your child compliments, though, I would suggest that a parent teacher conference should ensue. I only hope that everyone's education system would produce educators who find it is important to praise a child for what a child is worth.
The worst film I ever saw about an educator who did not believe in complimenting young students is "The Breakfast Club". This American film by John Hughes, in 1985, depicts a day in which five high school students were called to detention for eight hours. The school principal does nothing but say demoralizing things to these young people, and they are left to sit and discuss amongst themselves their sad experiences of how their parents do not compliment them either. The dialogue, I personally feel, is pathetic, and although the young actors do an excellent job in their portrayals of deviant teens, the lives of the characters are sad and demoralized. Only one student stands up in the face of the principal to express their human rights as individuals, but never waits around for him to change his mind, which could have led to complimentary attitude.
Their are several films that I have seen that portray teachers and their students in complimentary fashion. One in particular that stands out in my mind is "Akeelah and the Bee". This is a film by Doug Atchison in 2006 in the United States. He developed this story about a ten year old girl who wanted to be a participant in the Scripps National Spelling Bee. She meets an educator who fosters her a winning attitude and encourages her to the success in winning. Even when he wanted to quit as her tutor, in this story, Akeelah's enthusiasm and determination gave him the ability to continue to provide her with the support to move on.
COMPLIMENTS IN RELATIONSHIPS
Is your mate complimentary? Does your mate express what is liked and/or disliked about the other? Can you take disapproval or criticism as well as a compliment? Well, this is a challenge to a relationship of any kind. Compliments can provide more joy and satisfaction to a relationship. So I would encourage anyone to put compliments in a daily routine when wanting to improve on the communication of any relationship.
Since my marriage has been on the mend, I find that my spouse has been more willing to verbalize compliments. I find that I have been more verbal with expressing what I have enjoyed in my husband as well.
COMPLIMENTS IN WORSHIP
Finally, I just wanted to share with you how much joy I have received spiritually through Praise and Thanksgiving to Our Lord and Savior. Giving Thanks is giving a compliment to Our Lord God. So doing this often reaps much joy in the heart and also reaps answers to prayer and to healing to the body, mind and spirit as well. Giving daily thanks to our Lord even for hardship and trials and acknowledging His Greatness through His blessings is also a compliment to God. When you can not receive compliments from people and when you can not receive positive feedback from others despite a compliment, you can always receive positive feedback from God. He has given us so much in life to enjoy! We must not take our blessings for granted. You can not receive without giving. When God gives answers to prayer, and when he gives us Grace it is because of our compliments to Him. Just acknowledging Him in Prayer is enough. He gave us His Only Son so that we could receive His Eternal Life and blessings. Isn't that compliment enough?
Compliments are wonderful things. Have you complimented someone today? Try it. You'll like it. Therefore, I want to thank you for reading this Hub. You all have been excellent hub followers. Although I can not see beyond your profile picture, may I compliment you on well you appear on my profile page! I enjoy having hub readers. If I follow you, may that be a compliment to you! Good Day and God Bless!!