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Can People Actually Change
Making an effort
People have many reasons to change; we may want to fix a relationship, boost confidence, land that promotion, become more adaptable to society or it could be health related. The problem is that sometimes we find it hard to make that change or stay consistent. We are constantly battling with temptations, which will bring us right where we started. We face mini battles every day that will decide whether or not we will be able to make that change.
Are you going though a change?
Why the sudden change?
One of the most common obstacle people faces, which may cause them to give up, is the reason behind the change. Who can benefit from this sudden change? Will this change boost your confidence, will it make your relationship stronger, or maybe it’ll make you live longer. Do you even want to change? Get by yourself and write down the pros and cons of the change. How can this change benefit your life?
Change can be scary; it’s like going to a foreign country, you don’t know what to expect. It will seem scary at first, but over the course of time you’ll get use it. It won’t seem as difficult, in fact it will become second nature to you. You should expect to take some risk and some emotional pain, but you’ll be much stronger for it. If you’re really serious about the change, take it one step at a time (a little bit will go a long way).
You may be determined on the change you decided to undergo, but your surroundings make it difficult to stay consistent. For example, you may have decided to give up smoking, so it wouldn’t be wise to hang around people who smoke. Our environment is most common reason people turn back to their old ways; eventually you’ll find yourself giving in by temptation. Try to surround yourself with people who support you decision to change; Find people who will motivate you to keep going.
Where to begin?
Some people simply don’t know where to begin. You want to control your temper, but you don’t how to effectively control it. You may use the internet to find some cheap easy way out, but reality is that it’s not as easy as some simple 1-2-3 step you found online. If you want to make a change, you need to know that’s it’s going to take hard work and consistency. Other than just simply going on the internet and finding some simple (and sometimes outdated) solution, try asking around for advice on your problem. You may run into someone who went though what you're going though. There is no shame in admitting you have a problem and need help.
You’ve seen those commercial where they show you the effects of smoking. Most people don’t decide to make a change until something bad happens. Not overcoming this obstacle can have very negative and in some cases permanent side effects. For example, not being able to control your temper, you could end up losing your job or worse (lockup for aggravated assault). Eventually you will face an experience that will cause you to make an important decision to change. You want to avoid this feeling, because it maybe too late to make a change, so try to vividly see what would happen to you if you keep up with this bad habit for the next 5 years.
Change will bring on a new lifestyle; this may include more responsibility or a new change of pace in your daily routine. Sometimes we don’t want to leave our comfort zone, so we keep things the way they are. For example, you may have gotten a promotion at your job, but it will require you to work longer hours of the day. Some people hate change for the simple fact that the greater the change the more responsibility that comes with it. They also don't like the thought everything falls on them, so they would rather let someone else take the blame; but this change can only make you a better person in the end.
Change can be scary at first, but if carried though it could do a lot of good to your life. You will be able to expand your horizon with exciting new adventures and challenges. So if you want to improve your life don’t be afraid to take that first step to better your life.