Caregiver Chronicles: Honoring Our Aging Parents
The first time I saw the YouTube video, “A Parent’s Love,” it reminded me to be more loving and patient with my mom; and the video also showed me that I had been lacking in both areas. I was immediately convicted because honoring our parents is a biblical principle, no matter how they may make us feel for whatever reason. Our love should be unconditional and patience should be a byproduct of that love.
I became reflective and put myself in mom’s place, remembering how she took care of me as a child and had been still actively supportive of me as an adult. I was deeply moved with a strong need to increase my love vibration and serve her better. A couple of months after serving as her caregiver through her stroke rehabilitation and heart complications, I experienced a need to view the video again and recharge my intention.
“A Parent’s Love” video is the portrayal of parents’ requesting, from their children, more patience and love when they become more childlike as old age comes.
A Parent's Love
God's Requirement and Sufficient Grace
It had been an extremely stressful and challenging journey since mom took sick in February 2014 because I was unexpectedly and suddenly propelled into the reluctant role of a full-time caregiver and manager of all her affairs. In addition, I was dealing with my own health challenges while striving to build a profitable business as a self-employed entrepreneur.
But God…, He encouraged me to hold on through testing times with songs of comfort and prayer support from my spiritual communities. My weariness created a need for an occasional attitude adjustment whenever mom's behavior was difficult and unloving. Therefore, I chronicled this journey to remind myself and encourage other caregivers that our parents absolutely deserve our time, love, and patience. It is a God requirement to honor our parents.
(Ephesians 6:1-3) 1“Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2“Honor your father and mother,” which is the first commandment with promise: 3“that it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth.”
(Mark 7:10) “For Moses said, ‘Honor your father and your mother’; and, ‘He who curses father or mother, let him be put to death.’”
I declared that I was a caregiver, who loves my mom and intends to honor and serve her with increased love and patience by God’s grace, strength, and mercy. I trusted that He would work out the details, in Jesus’ name, amen and so it is!
UPDATE: I initially wrote this article in April 2014, two months after the stroke. In 2017, God shifted me and filled my heart with a sweet precious love for my mom that washed away and coated me from the hurt and painful sting of her profane words and harsh unmentionable outburst that she forgot in the next breath. Now I just look at her in love and gratitude, thanking God she is still with me through it all.
Jo Anne Meekins
Inspired 4 U
Learning how to know God better in regards to who He is and His unconditional, immeasurable love for me taught me how to love myself and be a better caregiver.
© 2019 Jo Anne Meekins