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A Celebration of Life, Not a Mourning of Death

Updated on December 28, 2013

Remember them as they were

A traditional funeral service with black suits and quiet church music and people gathered around a casket or urn, is okay for some, but it is not favorable for many people. Sometimes mourning a life just doesn't feel right. Life should be celebrated. It is a special day when people who loved a person gather together and celebrate their life, happily, and remember the person as they were...alive, and vibrant.

Each person is different - has different passions and different loves - so why should every funeral be the same? Look to their life for ideas on how best to celebrate it.

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Planning a Celebration of Life, A Simple Guide for Turning a Memorial Service into a Celebration of Life

If you are planning a celebration of life rather then a somber funeral, you will want to pick up this book. It tells you all you need to know.

Planning a Celebration of Life, A Simple Guide for Turning a Memorial Service into a Celebration of Life
Planning a Celebration of Life, A Simple Guide for Turning a Memorial Service into a Celebration of Life

This book is full of unique and creative Life Celebration ideas that will help you creat a memorable and personalized celebration. Including: Activities like dove releases and candle lighting ceremonies, remembrance poem and song collections, flowers, food and drink ideas, parting gifts, remembering and coping ideas, a guide to scattering remains, 10 ideas for creating a memorial to keep the memory of your loved one alive.

 

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Video Clips

View some celebrations honoring the lives of loved ones.

Dealing Creatively With Death: A Manual of Death Education and Simple Burial

Dealing Creatively with Death: A Manual of Death Education and Simple Burial
Dealing Creatively with Death: A Manual of Death Education and Simple Burial

Now in its 14th edition, this classic book has sold more than 300,000 copies in earlier editions. It is a small encyclopedia on death-related problems; social, emotional, philosophical and practical. It is written simply and sensitively, drawing substantially on direct experience. It is thoroughly updated from previous editions. Topics include Death Education; Living with Dying; Bereavement; The Right to Die; Simple Burial and Cremation; Funeral Consumer Organizations; Death Ceremonies; and How the Dead can Help the Living.

 

Concentrate on how they lived, not on how they died

Remember The LIFE They Had

Sometimes death is a sudden tragedy, and sometimes it is a long expected one. Do not let the death of a person impede on the circumstances of their memorial. Celebrate their LIFE.

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Not sure you can celebrate?

If you are not sure whether you can celebrate, then you need to come to grips with the fact that death will come. It is inevitable. It may be sudden, or well foreseen. Either way, death is a time to remember life. If you think you will not make it though a celebration of life memorial, or you need to help someone else who is not ready, pick up one of these books, to help you through.

"Don't cry

because it's over.

Smile because it happened."

-Dr. Seuss

Africa Celebrates

Final Celebrations: A Guide for Personal and Family Funeral Planning

He Was a Good Man, But Now He's Gone - by M. Ward

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      Johna88 2 years ago

      Very interesting subject , appreciate it for posting . All human beings should try to learn before they die what they are running from, and to, and why. by James Thurber. cgaekcfbdcdd

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      Vortrek Grafix 3 years ago

      Yes, by all means - better to remember the dearly departed in a happy context. It's better for the soul to celebrate life, rather than mourn death. Our loved ones who have passed on understand that we will grieve but they would want the best for us, and they know prolonged sorrow is not a good thing. Going forth in life a better person for having know the departed is a grand way of honoring them

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      Meganhere 3 years ago

      What a great topic! When my father died we didn't have a funeral, we just had a wake, where all of those who knew and loved him got together, had some food and drinks and remembered him. It's what he wanted, so we honoured that.

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      Anja Toetenel 3 years ago from The Hague, the Netherlands

      Great topic and Lens Kab! I would never want people to be sad when I'm gone. It should be a party! With nice food and drinks and cheerful music or so. We all will be dead one day. I'm not afraid to leave this body. And who knows... we might come back or so. At least I think there is more between heaven and Earth, what this "more" exactly is and/or looks like? I have no idea. But I'm sure life doesn't end after leaving the physical body. And in the worst case there is nothing... well, no problem too, we won't know it then... So no reason for black suits etc. You gave us some great suggestions! Thank you!

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      mina009 3 years ago

      When a sudden death comes or a death at a very young age I am not sure whether especially the closest people will have as a first thought in their mind to celebrate life or would even think what style of funeral would be better. Still, I understand your concept.

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      anonymous 3 years ago

      I am trying to find out if my sisters urn needs to be present at a celerbration of life?. She has left no plans but does want her ashes scatered two places but my mom wants a sevice at a third location. Also mom is paying for everything and has some notition she will be paid back.

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      Girlwiththorns 4 years ago

      A great topic that is so often taboo. I definitely want my funeral to be a celebration for my loved ones left behind...

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      netwriter4hire 4 years ago

      Your lens is uplifting! I love your spirit concerning grief. I think you might like my view of grief. squidoo.com/past-grief I think that death should be a celebration.

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      happymonkeyz 4 years ago

      thanks for the informational lens.

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      javis007 4 years ago

      great lens

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      aylsbillones1 4 years ago

      Thank you for sharing this lens..An eye-opener

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      redtailvision 4 years ago

      It was good to see your lens on this! Death is not the end, only a new beginning.

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      ChroniclesofaWa 4 years ago

      Great lens, very well said. When I die, I would like them to celebrate that I lived and not mourn about my death. You just gave me a wonderful thought to ponder on. :)

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      Interesting. I like the Dr Seuss quote aswel. We should actually celebrate life and death, not because someone died, but in some cases, because they are not suffering anymore.

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      gottaloveit2 4 years ago

      excellent article.

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      Chris-H LM 4 years ago

      The Dr Seuss quote is one of my favorites.

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      CristianStan 4 years ago

      Mourning should be because you miss the psychical presence of the person

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      PassionatelyCur 4 years ago

      Wonderful, wonderful lens! : )

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      Sheila 4 years ago from Omaha, NE

      Squid Angel blessings to you on a lovely lens. Well done. I feel the same way, that life should be celebrated, not mourned... I never consider death "goodbye" but instead, "so long for now."

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      great lens :)

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      Thank you.

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      Lori Green 4 years ago from Las Vegas

      The best funeral I have been to was not a funeral. It was a memorial and the body wasn't even there in any form. Nobody sat around crying. We all got up and spoke funny stories about the person. I left that day with a good feeling and decided I never want a funeral. At the memorial we released butterflies and then later on some of us went to a mountain top to sprinkle the ashes. The ashes blew up toward the sky and sparkled. Then again so did the person.

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      Tea Pixie 4 years ago

      I love your Dr. Seuss quote. I am so with you on this. Thank you so much for creating this article - I believe in celebrating life, before and after death.

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      Smashbooks LM 4 years ago

      Great lens, thank you.

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      JuliaAnnPayne 4 years ago

      nice lens on death and dying...

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      Rose Jones 4 years ago

      What an amazing and touching lens. I could not stand to watch all of the videos, as my sister is dying, but what I saw tells me that you picked very well. blessed - because you have blessed so many publishing this lens.

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      Leah J. Hileman 4 years ago from East Berlin, PA, USA

      Celebration of life is such an important perspective to hold. We who are Christians are in fact commanded to not grieve as though we are hopeless because we hold the hope of eternal life through faith. But even people who do not have faith or are unsure of the hereafter can (and should) do their best to appreciate life and memory of those who go before us.

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      TwistedWiseman 4 years ago

      I am grateful that my granddad died a painless death, no suffering or illness.

      We should celebrate life not moan about death.

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      Laychee 4 years ago

      Thank you.

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      TheUndertaker LM 4 years ago

      great lens! you inspire me!

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      SteveKaye 4 years ago

      It's better to make the most of the moment that you're in because that's where you are.

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      gaser983 4 years ago

      Awesome lens, nicely done!

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      Trixiesmom2u 4 years ago

      I really liked this thoughtful lens, especially the Dr Deuss quote.

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      A life should always be celebrated, I totally agree. It makes living much more enjoyable than mourning. ~ Blessed again!

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      gadgetchecker 4 years ago

      Really nice lens, something which is often cloaked in sorrow and loss, which is right, but really as you say needs to capture the person, celebrate the life and remember the happy times. the loss and sadness remains for a long time though...

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      cmadden 4 years ago

      The Dr. Seuss quote says it well!

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      Sara Krentz 4 years ago from USA

      Wonderful lens!

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      I think that having a celebration makes the loss a lot easier because you are focusing on the positive things in the person's life. The tears come when you remember that you lost them but then you can smile when you remember the good times you had with them. Great lens - thanks!

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      myamya 4 years ago

      Great lens,nicely done! Squidlike

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      MissMissylue LM 4 years ago

      Thank you for sharing your story. I am currently dealing with the loss of a loved one and was glad I found your article during a search. I loved the Dr. Seuss quote.

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      Kathryn Beach 4 years ago

      I read the NY Times obituary for Elizabeth Zimmerman, an imaginative and inspirational knitter. The young person who wrote it didn't know how to knit but researching EZ's life prompted her to learn, and she included one of EZ's knitting patterns in the obit. I'm aiming for that...and a lot of singing and laughing. Oh, and thanks for the thumbs up on my new lens, much appreciated!

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      madnessmerritt 4 years ago

      100% right on. I have attended more then my fair share, each different and each based on the person. I have started a list of suggestions I know emotion can cloud judgement so helpful tools are great to akaken the joy that you were apart of their life.

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      ITWorksInc LM 4 years ago

      Definitely agree with you and CountrySunshine-a person's passing should be mourned with a celebration of that person's life.

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      Country Sunshine 4 years ago from Texas

      I've always believed that a funeral or memorial service should be more positive. When my husband died, we had a somewhat traditional service. But we released helium balloons afterwards, and then had a BBQ. Time enough to feel sad later!

      A really nice article... and the Dr. Seuss quote says it all!

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      awakeningwellness 4 years ago

      Lovely lens!

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      RuralFloridaLiving 4 years ago

      Beautiful thoughts

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      psoriasistreatment7 4 years ago

      We should celebrate everyday of our lives and then others can celebrate our lives at our funerals!!

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      Stephen Bush 4 years ago from Ohio

      Thank you for this celebration of life. Perhaps the celebrating should start sooner rather than later (as in before death).

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      oiloflife 5 years ago

      Terrific lens! Thanks for all of the other lens references and online resources.

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      "Don't cry because it's over. Smile because it happened." What a wonderful thought. May we celebrate life!

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      Darcie French 5 years ago from Abbotsford, BC

      I love the Dr Seuss quote - indeed all aspects of life happen so thus are worthy of celebration. This includes death.

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      KateHonebrink 5 years ago

      A well-lived life deserves to be celebrated! Thoughtful, insightful lens. Great job!

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      Miha Gasper 5 years ago from Ljubljana, Slovenia, EU

      You are absolutely right. We should celebrate life, death is only part of it. thanks for beautiful lens!

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      Mary Crowther 5 years ago from Havre de Grace

      I hope that everyone can think this way! Angel Blessings!

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      bechand 5 years ago

      beautiful way to think of things. I work in a nursing home and I can see how this outlook could really help people.

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      Does anyone knows when did obituaries start to appear in newspapers? I would also like to know about wedding and birth announcements?

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      great topic. thanks

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      wonderful piece indeed, thank you for sharing.

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      I loved the text at the beginning! You put in simple words a very complex idea which I think should spread! Funerals as we know them shouldn't exist anymore!

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      Sharon Berry 5 years ago from Michigan

      Very nicely done. I share your thoughts about celebrating ones life. Remember, we will always have the memories.

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      pcgamehardware 5 years ago

      Great video, and a great topic.

      I just lost a five week old granddaughter and this lens hit close to home...

      A Like and A Share and A Blessing by big Joe.

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      SecondHandJoe LM 5 years ago

      New Orleans always had the right idea. I do both though mourn. . . then celebrate! Loved the videos and the article!

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      pajnhiaj 5 years ago

      i love this lens! beautiful! thanks! Life is supposed to be a beautiful memory.

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      nyclittleitaly 5 years ago

      really great message and a great lens

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      Terrie_Schultz 5 years ago

      Nicely done, thank you!

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      fullofshoes 5 years ago

      Your lens sends a great message. I really enjoyed reading this.

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      Ram Ramakrishnan 5 years ago

      We grieve at someone's death primarily for ourselves - not for the departed. If we were to shift our focus - as it ought to be, then the occasion could indeed be a celebration - perhaps a little muted, but still one.

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      In some of our traditions, death at a ripe old age is much celebrated. And according to many teachings from the ancient scriptures from India, birth is to be abhorred and death to be celebrated, for the liberation of the soul. Nice thoughts and well presented! :)

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      CanInsure 5 years ago

      I love the Africa video. It's important to focus on a lifetime of memories rather than focus on the event of death. I've lost a few loved ones and I always try to remember the good times. Thanks for sharing.

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      Tamara Kajari 5 years ago from Zagreb, Croatia, Europe

      I honestly dislike the tradition of wearing black and mourning after a loved one passes because I don't think neither black clothes nor the sad funeral really stands for what's in people's hearts. The version with music and "celebrating" the fact of knowing that person seams more natural in a sense that live goes on.

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      mrducksmrnot 5 years ago

      Well done. As a loved one or friend passes on Life still goes on. How the departed helped us and touched our life lives on in each of us. How we keep their spirit and love alive is left up to those still living. What we do with that Love keeps our departed alive in everyone. Life is Beautiful. Share it with love, compassion and understanding as those who have departed would want us to do. Thanks for remembering the Love of Life itself.

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      RaintreeAnnie 5 years ago from UK

      You have done a wonderful job with this lens. Not always an easy subject to discuss bit a necessary one we all need to cope with. I love the idea of a celebration of life and I like the Dr Seuss quote. Thank you.

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      Lovely lens. I've also sort of discussed this topic with my madcap funeral songs lens. You are most welcome to visit.

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      moonlitta 5 years ago

      As far as I can remember I've visited and blessed your lens already, but I'm doing it again, I believe my previous one has expired. A very difficult subject to talk, write, or even think about, you've done it wonderfully here.

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      viscri8 5 years ago

      Blessed -- because I like it!

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      viscri8 5 years ago

      I actually made my Happy Coffin -- as I relate the same way to the important moment in one's life that one's own funeral is. I even have a lens about the Happy Coffin -- which is an artwork with an eventual functional purpose. I also think that that the past on person's personality should be celebrated and remembered for how it was -- one should not become the same with others -- just because it;s one's funeral.

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      creativeinc lm 5 years ago

      Great lens! I prefer to celebrate the lives of the departed.

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      WorldVisionary 5 years ago

      Excellent lens! Thanks for putting together such an uplifting lens - thumbs up and an Angel blessing for you. I also have a lens in this niche, called Condolence Message called Condolence Message Sample

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      EMangl 5 years ago

      I only know the "sad kind" but would enjoy more to go once to a funeral with music and dancing (alive surely!)

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      Jim Sterling 5 years ago from Franklin, Tennessee

      Well said, thank you for the reminder.

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      Kathryn Grace 5 years ago from San Francisco

      I agree. It is far better to celebrate the life and love shared when one of our own passes. May all who suffer grief be comforted, wherever they may be. Thank you for sharing this, for the Requiem video, and for the tips.

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      TapIn2U 5 years ago

      This reminded of somebody who passed away that I terribly miss. It's true that although we can't help but feel sad and grief over someone's passing, we should remember how they lived and celebrate it. Be happy that you were able to share a moment with that person here on earth. Fantastic lens! Sundae ;-)

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      GypsyPirate LM 5 years ago

      I love this. And, while I can never manage to not be sad at a funeral and wake, I do always try to remember why it is that I am going to miss the person and to celebrate that. Thanks for giving me a wonderful reminder!!

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      Our whole business is centered on this celebration of life. Make videos that we will securely store and distribute (email) on confirmation of your death. Tell friends and family your final thoughts and perform your own Eulogy at your funeral! www.MyLastVid.com

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      Nicely written. Another unique and touching way of celebrating someone's life is by collecting the voices of families and friends who call into a toll-free number and record toasts, tributes, memories and stories. This can be done through a service found here:

      http://www.lifeonrecord.com/Celebration-Of-Life-Id...

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      TheRosemaryComp 5 years ago

      Beautiful and well written. Thank you for sharing with us.

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      I am awaiting the passing of my mother who is only 66 years young. Her health is failing due to several unfortunate illnesses. Recently my wife gave birth to two beautiful twins girls. I had hoped that their birth would have spurred a bit more will to live and fight, but her desire to continue on has passed. When last i saw her, she asked if i would play her the song, Take my hand precious lord, as she wishes to be able to be free from her suffering and pain and this song is her way of asking God to help her pass.

      While I am having a very hard time accepting this as she is the only parent I had and the memories of our time is very powerful, we have spoken before about me not mourning her, but celebrating her life and all the things she did and accomplished. Yet I find it difficult to see much of anything but loss as because she will not be a part of her granddaughters lives.

      I pray that I find something in these books which helps me do as she asked, for she deserves this and so much more.

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      We must begin to "Celebrate the Life, Not the Loss." Many families have too many preconceptions of what a memorial should be. If religion or spirituality brings one comfort, than stick with tradition so that the beliefs or heritage are truly incorporated into the heart of a celebration. If tradition doesnât hold any appeal, then reinforce the freedom we have to find a new way to express the spirit and personality of the one you have lost.

      Event planners who specialize in "funeral planning" and celebrations of life are beginning to emerge and it doesn't hurt to seek one out if only for a consultation.

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      You said it well, death is a celebration of life, look at what the person left behind, memories whether they were good or bad, they can be of great value. We choose how we celebrate those who have gone on. Thank you! I really enjoyed this. Have a wonderful week.

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      dexter yarbroug1 5 years ago

      Good information. I appreciate your perspective.

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      grifith 5 years ago

      Very Nice Lens

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      blessedmomto7 5 years ago

      Great lens.

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      JackNimble 5 years ago

      I want people to throw a rip roaring party when I die. I might even start a saving fund to pay for it so no one else has to spend any money. Wouldn't that be cool to try to give in death as well.

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      Rajkumarsingh 5 years ago

      Really this is very Positive and devoted..

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      Mary Crowther 5 years ago from Havre de Grace

      Very positive lens!

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      Virginia Allain 5 years ago from Central Florida

      A neighbor had a Celebration of Life luncheon after her husband's death. Several people had prepared memories to read, so it was a touching event but less dreary than a traditional funeral.

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      CarynJSwift56889 5 years ago

      great lens, and I really want to learn something from your len

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      Jerrad28 5 years ago

      Great lens! Thank you

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      AigulErali 5 years ago

      This lens is devoted to an important topic. Thanks for putting this together. Thumbs up!

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      MalcolmH 5 years ago

      I wholeheartedly agree with celebrating the life of a loved one, rather than being solemn and mournful.

      I also find it helpful to reflect on why we die. If there was no death, the Earth would soon be fully populated with plants and animals. Then there could be no birth, no new life to celebrate. And on this Earth, there could be no carnivores, and the herbivores could only eat parts that did not kill the plant. There would be no deadly diseases either, and so no disease organisms. This greatly simplified ecosystem would probably be unstable!

      Taking this argument a step further, if nothing ever died, there could be no change. Evolution to meet the challenges of natural variations in climate and living conditions would cease. And so, paradoxically, without death of individual organisms, life could not exist.

      So death is the well-spring of life.

      For a fuller discussion of these points, and a description of how the Findhorn Community celebrates the deaths of loved members, see my blog at http://www.humansolutionsnow.com/on-the-fear-of-de...

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      pimbels lm 5 years ago

      Very nice lens. I hated going to my husbands funeral. It's much easier, I find, to grieve but also celebrate that he was part of my life for a few years.

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      I like this lens its very inspriational we had two deaths recently the first was my mother-in-law which we aretrying to come to terms with as she died at home with us so everyone in the family experience death up close. Some weeks later we recently had to grapple with the death of my sister's fiancé which my wife and I witnessed as well in the hospital as we were there when he took he very LAST breath. On reflection we agree that both individual should be remembered as having gone on to someplace better which we will ultimately join them. Thanks for such a good lens this one truly hit home.

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      smithlights 5 years ago

      Great lens. My niece died a few weeks after she was born, and we talked a lot about this... sort of. Everyone was treating her like she was dying rather than being alive. I really challenged my brother and everyone else to treat her as alive as long as she was alive. It made a huge difference in how they viewed her and the memories they made of their daughter.

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      Mishael A Witty 5 years ago

      It really is a good idea to celebrate the life a person lived. You're right. Grief is a natural response to the death of a loved one, but we shouldn't let it stop us from remembering the wonderful life our loved one lived. My husband and I just took part in a celebration service for one of the members of our church. It was really beautiful!

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      dschandar 5 years ago

      Really like your lens and makes some motivation in life

      Celebrating the life of a loved one is a deeply personal opportunity

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      LouisaDembul 5 years ago

      Even though it can be very difficult, remembering the way they lived is probably the best!

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      Linda Hahn 5 years ago from California

      Good lens subject. Death is right beside us.

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      Nice Article. I want a celebration when I go. Don't be sad for me because I am free of this life. My Wife, I am going to have to work on I think to get her to complete this task.

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      anonymous 6 years ago

      Thanks nice lens.

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      ScalpItchTips 6 years ago

      Very informative thanks

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      tssfacts 6 years ago

      Great article. Long time ago my parents told us kids exactly what they wanted when they passed on. One of their requirements was that we were to have a steak dinner with "the works" in celebration of their "home-going". I remember when Dad passed Mom and I did just that. Before Mom passed a couple months she reminded us of those instructions. It was a wonderful way to celebrate their lives. Couldn't leave with out giving a blessing from a SquidAngel.

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      ChemKnitsBlog2 6 years ago

      Thank you for providing this resource. I'm at a point where many of my family members are aging to a point where I'm likely to experience a lot of loss in a short period of time. When someone lives until 102, it is certainly something to celebrate.

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      lens4Him 6 years ago

      I totally agree, when my wife died after a long battle with cancer we asked people - well basically ordered them :) - not to wear black at her funeral (which she and I had planned together in advance)

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      viscri8 6 years ago

      Exactly. I made my Happy Coffin, a coffin painted by me. It is an artwork with a functional final purpose. It is supposed to be my final special outfit as I always like to wear things that are unique and suit my body and personality. Why should it be different when I last participate in an important event? I should be remembered as I used to be! But till then, keep well!

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      SylviaRolfe 6 years ago

      Celebrating life is an excellent idea. I never was fond of funerals and the idea of mourning someones death. I would rather remember them for who they were and what they meant to me.

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      UKGhostwriter 6 years ago

      Many of us are selfish in letting go and celebrating a life passed

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      Obscure_Treasures 6 years ago

      It is difficult stick to this philosophy still this should be the ideal philosophy of life - celebration of life!

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      priscillab 6 years ago

      Often we do mourn death and forget to celebrate the life that was. I think sometimes it can be justified when the person is taken tragically or the shock is too much to bear. I do believe in a celebration of life whenever possible. The whole process of "saying goodbye" is for those who are left behind. Turning it around and making it about the person who died by celebrating their life is a beautiful tribute.

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      walkwithme 6 years ago

      Every death is different and the circumstances surrounding the way a person departs from the world also affects those who remain here.

      A celebration of life ceremony usually occurs when there has been advanced warning such as an extended illness. For some,however, the parting of a loved one can be a shock and no time has been given to say the "goodbyes". The immediate family deals with

      the situation quite differently than friends who did not have that closeness from birth and childhood. It is still gut wrenching - no matter what. We had advance warning when my son passed away at 4 1/2- and the church was full. But then the people all went home and we returned to a home with a room where one son no longer slept and we had to comfort a surviving son and another baby was on the way. Memorials and celebrations are

      not for everyone. The surviving immediate families need far more community support

      than is often given - particularly the children. All the holidays are harder to celebrate

      after a loved one dies.....Each time it happens our hearts grow wider with compassion for others who have experienced a death and gone through some trauma. Light a candle.

      Say a prayer and grant that this year there will be more responsible drivers on the road

      and more words of peace in the home and hearts of humankind.

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      WindyWintersHubs 6 years ago from Vancouver Island, BC

      Congrats on your Purple Star! I agree! Life is a celebration!

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      jackieb99 6 years ago

      I most definitely agree with you!

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      lasertek lm 6 years ago

      Great lens! I totally agree that we should celebrate rather than mourn when death comes.

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      jlshernandez 6 years ago

      I totally agree that death is really a celebration of a beginning and not the end of life. Thanks for sharing a great lens. Blessed.

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      sugunalinus 6 years ago

      Event he heading is very inspiring. Good work.

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      DoctorBobbie 6 years ago

      Great insights! Couldn't agree more!

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      anonymous 6 years ago

      I wholeheartedly agree!

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      LadyJasmine LM 6 years ago

      Very nicely done. Blessings in your direction, and I'm going to add this to my grief resources on the lens about the warehouse fire in New Orleans. :-)

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      Mary Norton 6 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      Live well and celebrate life...yes, passing on is a celebration.

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      scar4 6 years ago

      "Don't cry

      because it's over.

      Smile because it happened", is my motto since I read it a couple of years ago on a magazine, just enjoy the philosophy between the lines.

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      vitar 6 years ago

      Nice lens, good job!

      When you have time please visit my lens Funeral Thank You Notes.

      Thanks ;)

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      anonymous 6 years ago

      Life or death is the same, it just happened.. and when you can smile in death you'll be able to smile in life forever.. just my penny.. :D

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      Petstrel LM 6 years ago

      You are absolutely right. Death is an inevitable occurrence, we should treat it as such.

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      AlisonMeacham 6 years ago

      I recently went to a funeral which was an amazingly celebration of my friend's life. It was a very inspiring experience.

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      SofiaMann 6 years ago

      When it comes to the sudden death of a young person whom you love (son, brother, etc.), shok is so strong that you take time to celebrate his life.

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      GrowWear 6 years ago

      I prefer celebrating the life, and it's much easier to do so with some deaths. ...For the loved ones snatched away, it's so much harder for those left behind to deal with it.

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      ccgala4 6 years ago

      The memorial services should be a way for us to celebrate the life of a loved one. When you set this kind of tone to the service, it can be very encouraging to the family members and at the same time, pay a special tribute to the one who passed. Thanks for the lens!

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      anonymous 6 years ago

      Great advice and wisdom shared here, that is for sure. Although, I miss the people who have passed from this life; it is much easier to remember and celebrate the time we were given to share. I hope that when my time comes that those who loved me will get together and celebrate the love, friendship, and living we had together. Love the Dr. Seuss quote! Ringing my little Squid Angel bell with a blessing.

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      Laura Schofield 6 years ago from Chicago, IL USA

      The slogan says it all. I'm glad I came across this today as I just lost my grandma yesterday and this helps me to put it in a different perspective. I hope my funeral is a party someday! Fantastic job!

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      elmikeo 6 years ago

      This is a great lens. It is strang eot think that while our society fears death, many cultures welcome it as a part of life and while they are still sad to see others go, they seem to be able to accept it easier. Maybe that is just people on an individual level. Thank you for the lens.

      Mike-http://elmike.wordpress.com

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      Tarra99 6 years ago

      Your lens made me cry :o( ...about 6 months ago I lost my best friend...not your typical best friend, he was 48 yrs my senior...but he was brought into my family about 15 years ago when my father passed and his wife passed and he met my mother and sister at a bereavement group. Due to the timing of my chemo I was unable to attend his funeral...but I'm not sure I could have even if I wanted to...I have such a hard time with the idea of it being "A Celebration of Life, Not a Mourning of Death" ...because I get so sad at funerals...I really like the Dr.Seuss quote though, it made me smile. :o)

      Thank you for creating such a wonderful lens...and thank you for visiting my bucket list...creating marble from scratch is quite the task on your list...let me know how it goes ;o)

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      Mary Beth Granger 7 years ago from O'Fallon, Missouri, USA

      Wonderful lens....it shows how to do a celebration with respect...very important.

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      Mrsdivagurl79 7 years ago

      I love your page and hope to aspire to the great outline it shows.

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      Spook LM 7 years ago

      I see where you are coming from. I think it depends on the person involved. Blessed by an Angel.

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      Brewsterboy 7 years ago

      You've built a great lens and I agree completely. I've had a few close calls myself in the last couple of years and it got me started on my newest lens, https://hubpages.com/family/burial-on-a-budget

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      anonymous 7 years ago

      Thank you for setting up such a wonderful website. I am a Funeral Celebrant, trying to change the way people think about the celebration of the life of their loved one. I am going to link your website to mine. As more and more people learn that they can and should celebrate their loved ones unique life, the sooner the healing process of grieving will happen. Great material here. Thanks for sharing.

      www.betweenyouandme.org

      Memories are the one thing no one can take from us - let them bring smiles to your lips.

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      anonymous 7 years ago

      The majority of people believe funerals are for the deceased. In fact, funerals are for loved ones and close family and friends. Funerals are a way to remember, celebrate and rejoice in the life of the recently deceased.

      Toronto Funeral Services

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      Imsred 7 years ago

      [in reply to jesscee88]

      I completely agree. I recently lost my grandfather and the family was so shaken that we decided that we needed some help. We hired a service that plans everything. We gave them our wishes, made some decisions and they did the rest. I don't think that we could have gotten through this and had such a lovely event without them. If anyone needs this kind of help, I would absolutely recommend them, www.4celebrationsoflife.com . They were really great during a difficult time.

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      LifeAdviceSite 7 years ago

      I love this. It's touching and meaningful. Death is only a new beginning and never an end despite how final it might seem.

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      hlkljgk 7 years ago from Western Mass

      totally agree. if not at services, at least in time. we lost my brother when he was young and my mother still can't recall any happy times, which i find so sad.

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      Suzie-Shine 7 years ago

      My lovely grandfather, Pops, died recently and we did our best to celebrate his life. I found it hard on the day of his funeral but afterwards, once everyone got talking about him, we were actually laughing at all of the fun times he had given us. I still miss him though.

      Suzie

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      anonymous 7 years ago

      People rarely talk about death in a realistic manner. It's either morbid or dramatic. But it happens, there's nothing we can do to avoid it. You are right that it should be planned to celebrate a life lived of a person who made his/her mark in our lives. Thanks!

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      gurum 7 years ago

      In spirituality there is a way to celebrate the life and death also

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      Snozzle 8 years ago

      I agree about celebrating a life but sometimes it's a hard thing to do. I think it depends partly on how the person died.

      Mike

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      karen550 lm 8 years ago

      I love this concept, and I agree. I have always tried to celebrate life rather than dwell on the other. Thank you so much for your thoughts.

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      anonymous 8 years ago

      Thank You

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      anonymous 8 years ago

      Nice job on your lens, also thanks for featuring my book, Planning a Celebration of Life many have found it very helpful. Your viewers may like these eco friendly plantable heart cards, they are personalized cards and when they are planted wildflowers grow in memory of your loved one. They are becoming very popular for life celebrations, you can find them here http://nextgenmemorials.com/seedcardheart.html

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      Joan4 8 years ago

      Absolutely wonderful lens and so very true!! Hopefully we are moving away from the somber dark events and more toward celebrations of life. My father used to teach us "death is a part of life". He was right!

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      Laraine Sims 8 years ago from Lake Country, B.C.

      This is a very nice lens. Our family holds an Open House for friends and relatives after our Memorials. We relate funny as well as sad things which will always remind us of our loved ones who have died. I always find that it helps to heal the hurt I feel. 5 stars, favorite, fan and lensrolled.

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      religions7 8 years ago

      What a great topic for a lens. 5* for sure.

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      anonymous 9 years ago

      This is the best site I have found yet in my search for guidance as I try and plan a service for the life of a dear friend.

      Thank you.

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