Cervical Cancer and a will to live
Mam, you are a drug seeker
Audrey, my granddaughters other grandmother had gone to the Emergency Room 26 times last year due to unbearable pain. She couldn't pin point the pain for it radiated up her left side. Audrey was unemployed due to her pain, had no insurance and was about to lose her house. She went to the Emergency Room because with no Health Insurance she had no Primary Care Physician. At the age of fifty-four she was in the same shoes as a lot of people. No job due to cutbacks where she was laid off, no insurance and did not qualify for any Medical Benefits such as Medicaid or any Government assistance. For Two years Audrey suffered.
Finally, I went with her again to the Emergency Room and demanded they do an MRI to find out what the problem was. They hesitated because she had no insurance but gave in after I said if there is nothing wrong with her, I will pay for it.
They did the MRI and found a Mass on her Cervix the size of a large orange. They sent her home and told her to go see a Gynecologist's the next day. Audrey called the Gynecologists office to set up her appointment. She had to have two hundred and fifty dollars to be seen. She did not have the money so I took her to the University of North Carolina Women's Hospital in Chapel Hill the next week.
Audrey was diagnosed with Stage 2 Cervical Cancer March 31st of this year and was told they would treat her aggressively with chemotherapy and radiation and just pray for the outcome. They never asked for one penny, knowing her situation they had programs that would help her with everything.
I had watched Audrey suffer and age so bad in two years time. The cancer was Cervical but it showed even on her face the suffering, the pain, the hopelessness of dying without watching her grand-kids grow up.
I may have Cancer but I haven't been this happy in two years
University of Chapel Hill Women's Hospital put Audrey in a Holiday Inn close to the Hospital. I was the only person that was able to help her at the time and since she needed chemotherapy twice a week and Radiation two days a week they paid for her a room and provided transportation to and from the hospital, her meals were also included at the hotel.
I stayed with Audrey teh first three days and as we sat on the terrace and talked about it, she said "I may have cancer, but now I know what is wrong, I have a roof over my head, meals and people who are willing to make me well", I was stunned. Thinking to myself, "how could someone's life be so bad that cancer makes them happy?" Her answer made sense, she now knew what was wrong, she had been called a drug seeker becuase of her plights to the Hospital in severe pain. Her own family began to doubt her and thought she just wanted attention.
Eventually, the family came around, feeling as bad as they should have. They are now closer and respect their mother, as it goes you don't know what you got until you gone. Audrey had more will to live than anyone i have ever seen. Thru the pain, the sickness, the chemo she kept a good attitude. Her good heart tires me for she is not angry. She was approached by several lawyers to sue Scotland Memorial Hospital for refusing to give her treatment and referring to her as a drug seeker, she refused. She is alive she is happy. She went back for her check-up today and she is cancer free.
Always know that I am there
for we have something we have to share
our sweet beautiful baby Aaliyah