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Could You Spend One Whole Day Carefree?

Updated on June 26, 2017
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Val is a life-long student of psycho-philosophy of living, and a devoted practitioner of many techniques enhancing personal evolution.

Can You Imagine Yourself just Being Completely at Ease?
Can You Imagine Yourself just Being Completely at Ease?

It should Be Easy

I am actually in quite a friendly mood, so don't take me literally as I say how I am not about to save any punches, or duck from them myself for the same matter, while asserting that this challenge is a sort of degrading to us humans.

I hope you recognize those punches as I am proceeding, however, for a little hint, it's quite some wonder that we should find it challenging to spend one single day allowing ourselves a complete peace of mind from anything that appears to be a stressor in our life.

Please note that I said "allow ourselves", for, as we are about to see, those apparent stressors by themselves are totally powerless to do a number on our mood - it's all of our own make. Nothing short of a physical violence - from those unfriendly microbes, chemicals, bad foods, or someone kicking our ass - should be able to affect us in a negative way.

It Takes Recapturing that Mood just before Falling Asleep
It Takes Recapturing that Mood just before Falling Asleep

Our Bodies Know How - so why Don't We?

Let us see what mechanism in our nervous system would be involved in such an "outlandish" task. Do we really need some gradual conditioning with help of a special technique suggested by all those "relaxation gurus" on the market - or we could recognize that ability as already functional in our daily, or better - nightly routine.

Namely, every night we repeat the same routine of falling asleep to give ourselves some hours of uninterrupted sleep. Even we old-timers with less than perfect plumbing manage to sleepwalk from toilet back to that cozy, warm, and enchanting bed to drift back into oblivion, as if nothing happened. We may even continue with the same dream.

Now, have any of you folks ever asked yourself how that scenario of a total surrender compares to our daily being pissed off at life in all of its variations? I mean really. From the moment we wake up, many of us instantly dig out all those reasons from the day before - or years before - to spoil that relaxed feeling. As if now we have to mobilize all our defenses and summon all our generals to work out a strategy plan how to survive yet another day.

At those very moments after waking up our challenge should start with the realization how all the night through the same "problems" existed, and we nonchalantly pushed them aside to enjoy our whole eight hours of resting.

Who is really preventing us from continuing to relax our minds - while merely going through the motions of those activities which are mostly repetitions of something that we know how to do by heart?

We Never Get anywhere by Rushing in LIfe
We Never Get anywhere by Rushing in LIfe

Wound Up for Stress Response

What kind of sacrifice would it take on our part to accept this challenge of squeezing enough self-compassion from our stingy hearts to leave ourselves alone for one single day? As if out of some dark passion, we keep tormenting ourselves with appearances and behaviors around us, even borrowing those from another part of the world.

That also goes on those "better" days when nothing in particular gives us such a dark inspiration, like during holidays or parties - we just have to notice something "wrong", if for no other reason but to stay loyal to ourselves and our played-in ways.

I am not going to use the word more than this once, but "theoretically" speaking - if we could succeed to stay that one day completely oblivious to all stressors of our life without slipping back, the big chances are that our nervous system would be successfully re-trained for a carefree inner reality.

But even though such an achievement could only be possible in that word which I promised not to repeat, in practice we could still enormously benefit from that experience. We would have created a new pattern of being which would be easy to repeat in the days and years after.

You see, it's hard to start something in our minds for which we don't have a reference in our memory bank. For, in all likelihood most of us forgot from our childhoods what it felt like being carefree. We can merely recall it intellectually, but not bring it back as an experience. Too many layers of stressed out adulthood are pushing down the emergence of that blessed state of being.

Even only moments after making love, which in itself should be a total unloading of the life's burden, we quickly pick up all pieces of life's drama to continue where we left it off.

Zebra Has that Perfect Switch from Stressful to Calm State
Zebra Has that Perfect Switch from Stressful to Calm State

A Much Smarter Zebra

At least some of you may be wondering by now for how much longer I am going to mock the human race without offering some solution to it all. O.K., thank you for patience, there really is a simple and easy way to go on with accepting the challenge.

It is not a special "technique", but more of something very familiar that we can all relate to. However, let me give it a name as if it was a technique - I call it "dropping". Remember the time when you misplaced your car keys and you were already running late?

After so much cursing yourself for negligence and a frantic search, you finally found them - and that sensation of a sudden relief I call "dropping". Your nervous system just dropped the whole emotional charge allowing you to move on with your daily activities as if nothing had happened.

In a much milder form "dropping" is happening naturally in the dynamics of our experiencing, as we shift from one daily situation to another. We don't have to do it intentionally at all, it comes natural not to bring the same frame of mind of, let's say, driving your car into getting out of it and greeting a co-worker at the company parking lot.

My favorite illustration of dropping is involving a zebra, which, after winning a race for its life with a lion continues to peacefully graze as if nothing has happened - even not very far from the lying down and heavily panting beast that gave it up. Why can't we be cool like zebras, we wouldn't even have any lions to outrun.

Just like a Water Droplet  -  It should Be a Free Fall of Our Concerns
Just like a Water Droplet - It should Be a Free Fall of Our Concerns

Dropping Is Not Suppressing

Well, that's how easy the challenge may turn out to be - from the moment you wake up you can keep dropping the emotional load while saving only what is feeling good. Now, let's be a little more specific about what it qualitatively feels like to "drop". It's nothing like "suppressing". Remember my example with lost keys? You certainly didn't have to "suppress" anything after finding them. It was a sense of a relief, and dropping is to be of the same kind.

As your day of the challenge is progressing, you will have noticed something incredibly useful : everything is droppable, and very often it doesn't take more than a shift in attention. Someone said it right: "Whatever we give attention to - it grows stronger in us". Just by shifting it to something else we cut the energy supply to the unwanted emotion. It's all really that simple. Of, course, we could make it much more complicated than that - but why?


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      Austinstar 14 months ago from Somewhere in the universe

      I'm lost in a world of music by Prince. Can't believe he is gone. My care-free day will consist of listening to the great ones.

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      Vladimir Karas 14 months ago from Canada

      Lela - We are all so different, by our tastes, mind styles and life styles, and it's great that there are so many different ways to spend a care-free time. Enjoy yours. - Be well, my friend. Val.

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      Carolyn Fields 14 months ago from the USA

      I can totally relate to your hub. I loved the line, "Even we old-timers with less than perfect plumbing manage to sleepwalk from toilet back to that cozy, warm, and inviting bed to drift into oblivion - as if nothing happened. We may even continue the same dream." I thought I was the only one who did that. Ha!

      Anyway - I wanted to say that I like your tool of "dropping." I think I will give it a try.

      I sometimes use the "reframing" tool - where you take a seeming negative, and try to see how the situation actually has some good to it - like misplacing your keys, and finding something else you were looking for that you would not have found, had it not been for they keys.

      Thanks for the good hub. Enjoy your day!

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      Rachel L Alba 14 months ago from Every Day Cooking and Baking

      Hi Vladimir, A carefree day. Wow, that does sound good. I am trying to think back when I was a kid in the summer with no school. I remember being carefree then. I guess it really is a mental state. I would love to try it while "doing my everyday chores". After all, I've done them for so long I could do them without thinking about them. Thanks for sharing all this information.

      Blessings to you.

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      Vladimir Karas 14 months ago from Canada

      Rachel - Great hearing from you. Of course, the general idea would be to try revamping that spirit of careless youth. It may sound like much to undertake, but with your passion for cooking and enjoying what you cook, it should be that much easier. - All the best. - Val

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      Sharron Calvin 14 months ago from San Luis Valley, Colorado

      Great Hub! I have found that if I start my day with 30 minutes of yoga or meditation, the rest of the day is pretty carefree. If I don't, I usually pay the price with a kind of jumbled day. Thanks for another perspective on being carefree.

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      Vladimir Karas 14 months ago from Canada

      slcalvin - I used to do yoga at my young age. I was quite good at it, being able to bend backwards and touch my heels with back of my head. Maybe some day soon I'll start (carefully) doing it again. For some years now I have been doing qigong. Good stuff too, for activating chakras and for calm mind. In addition to my other meditation I do Small Universe meditation before doing Qigong. It makes me feel absolutely great, beside the point that I am trained in alpha practice, basically meaning that I produce blissful state at will. Thank you for reading my hub and finding it interesting. - Be well - Val

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