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5 Questions to Make Your Attain Goals Positive
Is too many goals self-sabotage?
Many people are attempting to change themselves in order to increase his or her value in themselves or their performance. Daily failures tend to strip us of our confidence little by little without our awareness. Coping alone with daily experiences are hard enough without adding personal change into the mix. Everyone is struggling to perform better in one form or another whether it is in a relationship, home life, parenting or career to make a positive change.
"Performance in life doesn't get better by chance, it improves through action and practice."
When people are trying to accomplish goals or improve their own life, many find that they are running into self-limiting and self-defeating barriers that stop them from achieving positive change. Personal barriers are issues which originate from inside us all. These personal barriers are not always visible because they are embedded deep within the subconscious. In fact a lot of us are not always consciously aware of self-limiting and self-defeating barriers. So people are asking themselves "why am I not achieving what I want?", "why am I stuck?" or “what is holding me back?”
What do I ask myself?
Here are some questions you might want to answer if you think you are stuck and under performing in your attempt to make the positive change you desire:
1st Do I set too many goals to complete any of them?
2nd Am I sabotaging myself by splitting my energy among all my goals?
3rd Do I overwhelm myself with too many tasks without being conscious of it?
4th Have I create the same barriers and resistance in my past attempts?
5th Am I reaching for perfection that is not attainable?
Am I sabotaging me?
Subconsciously we tend to set too many goals which produces barriers to success.
Say if we set too many goals or want to resolve too many issues in our life, what happens? We sabotage ourselves. Our focus and energy is split in too many directions. Let’s say we set four goals we want to accomplish. Therefore our energy goes in four different directions at one time, we get frustrated, unhappy and quickly give up. Why? It is because we run out of steam and motivation. With working on 4 goals at one time, we can only giving 25% to each goal or issue. We end up spreading our energy to thin, and it is a recipe for failure.
This is why New Year Resolutions get dropped by the end of January. Why? People generally set so many goals at one time that they become overwhelmed. They are mentally and physically divided in different directions causing a loss in desire, motivation and drive. Subconsciously we set our expectations too high. We end up becoming disappointed which manifests into poor performance therefore missing our chance at positive change.
If you desire real positive change and an increase in personal performance then you have to decide to work on one specific goal at a time. Define the goal to be realistic, measurable, specific and time lined. Ask yourself, what is the “one thing”, the "one goal", if I focus on 100% that would radically change my life?" Then target on that goal and put all of your energy on that one goal for 90 days and you will see a much greater success.
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Are you good at completing goals?
What else might be blocking?
So what else can I do? Don't be afraid to ask for help. Many fail because he or she attempt to do it all by themselves.
There is a new trend, life coaching. Seek out and hire a life coach, personal coach or executive coach to help you form an action plan to accomplish your goal. With a certified, trained, objective and skillful second eye, a life coach can assist you in cleaning up all the defeating core beliefs and make a solid action plan to unblock yourself and achieve your goal as well as be a support or a cheerleader along the way. Coaching can open your mind to a new path for a better future.
Is there something I can do on my own?
Yes, I have developed a self help web-based program called The Making a Positive Change 30 Day Challenge which is an online personal improvement program that will walk you through step by step to change your identity, find out what is blocking you and help you create whole new personal philosophy.
Using this life coaching method in an easy-to-use web-based system that is designed to help you focus, give you direction and will guide you through a step-by-step process of recognizing your blocks and teach you how to become successful. For more information on this product visit my website.
Do you feel that you are stuck in your life?
Is it my past?
There may be another reason you feel blocked. It might be the result of an event from your past that is driving your present behaviors, thoughts, feelings and reactions. No one gives enough credit to their past and how it affects his or her life today. I mention this because a lot of people I coach who are having trouble today when they find out that today's problems are the result of a past traumatic events he or she experienced growing up. Many say, “I am an adult and I should not be affected by what happened to me in my past. I worked through that.” Well you can't out run your past. It always catches up with you.
What is my barrier?
Let’s look at how your past experiences maybe a barrier today. The human brain is a very sophisticated recording device. It begins recording even before birth. A person does not remember everything that their brain has recorded and stored. Most of the recording called memories are logged into the long-term memory bank.
Now, here is the secret that most of us do not know. With every event a human experiences, a core belief is formed. A core belief is a belief or personal message that a person forms about themselves related to that life event. Also connected to every core belief there is an attached emotion for that event. For example; if a child runs home after a successful accomplishment (education, social or sports), excited to tell their mother or father. After telling the parent, he or she sees disappointment in the parent’s eyes or gets a negative response like “you could have done better” or “that’s all”, a core belief forms like “I am not good enough” or "I am stupid" along with a painful emotion of disappointment attached. The child suppresses the hurtful experience, ignores the defeating belief and does not make closure with the emotional pain. But the recording (memory) and belief is still alive and active in the subconscious mind.
Going further, the child then grows up and in a job where a promotion opportunity comes up. He or she never applies. Why? Because the situation is a trigger, an old rooted core belief surfaces from his or her subconscious into the conscious mind saying -“You do not deserve a promotion" or "you're not good enough”. Positive change or success at that point is blocked, no action is taken, and the opportunity is missed. Throughout the whole experience, the person is unaware of the effects his or her old core beliefs have had on the situation.
My past doesn't affect me
The next excuse I hear is my past events “don't affect me now; it happened so long ago” or “cannot change it now”. Those statements are far from the truth. A memory cannot be unrecorded, but yet they can be altered. The root cause or in this case the core belief can be changed or shifted to a positive belief. Also the associated emotion that was not dealt with back then can be diminished and brought to closure. Once the core belief is shifted and closure is made with the painful emotion, the brain no longer uses that event, belief or painful emotion as a barrier to success.
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The next excuse I hear is my past events “don't affect me now; it happened so long ago” or “cannot change it now”. Those statements are far from the truth. A memory cannot be unrecorded, but yet a memory can be altered with the right tool.
The root cause or in this case the core belief can be changed or shifted to a positive belief. Also the associated emotion that was not dealt with back then can be diminished and brought to closure. Once the core belief is shifted and closure is made with the painful emotion, the brain no longer uses that event, belief or painful emotion as a barrier to success.
The process of shifting core beliefs is very hard to do alone, because our logical mind stands in our way and blocks possible change. The logical mind blocks excess to the emotional mind or subconscious mind. You can complete the act of shifting old limiting core beliefs in your subconscious by learning new skills. Don't wait start your positive change today!