Dealing With a Chemical Pregnancy
What is a Chemical Pregnancy?
A chemical pregnancy is essentially a very early miscarriage. It is generally a term used when a miscarriage occurs before the 5 week mark, i.e. the woman's period arrives within one week of it's due date (or even on it's due date).
It is understood that there are many pregnancies that are not recognised because of such an early loss and it is likely that you will only know that you have experienced a chemical pregnancy because you are closely monitoring your cycles. Most people will just experience a late period and think nothing much of it.
The main way of telling that you have had a chemical pregnancy is that you will have got a positive pregnancy test (it can be quite a faint line on the test) before your period is due.
For some people who get a good line that can easily be distinguished on the test, this may be a big shock and disappointment to them as they will firmly believe that they have become pregnant and will not be expecting it to end so quickly. Others (including myself) may be more philosophical about it as the line on the pregnancy test was never that dark and so they didn't really expect a viable pregnancy to come from it. In any case, you need to deal with it in your own way depending on your circumstances as it is a loss like any other and there will be massive disappointment.
Having said all of the above, just because you get a very faint line on a pregnancy test does not mean it will definitely be a chemical pregnancy.
Are Chemical Pregnancies Common?
Chemical pregnancies are very common and, as described above, can happen to many people without them even realising it as their period may just be a few days late and they may just pass this off as nothing.
Just because you have a chemical pregnancy does not mean that you cannot go on to have a viable pregnancy the next time you get pregnant, there is usually nothing wrong with you to cause a chemical pregnancy.
My Chemical Pregnancy Experience
As I had been trying to get pregnant for a year and had already suffered one miscarriage at 2 months, I was monitoring my cycles pretty closely so I knew exactly when I ovulated. I was also testing pretty early as I had plenty of cheap pregnancy tests so I did not mind using them up just to see if there was a line there.
At 12dpo (days past ovulation) I took a test in the evening and it had a very faint line. I took another test later and there was another faint line. This continued for a couple of days until 15dpo when my period was due. I had been having cramps and my breasts were slightly sore (which they never usually are) and I was starting to feel really tired, which was a symptom that I had with my pregnancy, to the point where I had to have a nap during the day for 3 days in a row. However, at 15dpo the test came up blank so I thought my period should arrive as it was due on that day.
However, my period was 3 days late and it arrived after a few more days of cramps. As my ovulation date was obvious from the temperatures on my chart I figured that something had happened and along with the other symptoms and the lines on the tests a chemical pregnancy seemed to be an obvious answer.
Although it was a massive disappointment, I could still take the positive out of it that the sperm and egg had met and had started on the fertilisation journey. I am hoping that the rumour about being more fertile after a miscarriage or chemical pregnancy is true (after all this chemical was 3 months after my other miscarriage) so will keep my fingers crossed for the next few months.
How Do You Deal With a Chemical Pregnancy?
It is entirely up to you how you deal with this situation. For some people (and I have seen people go through this), they get a positive pregnancy test and are very excited, and then all of a sudden they are shocked because their period arrives. This can be a very devastating experience as you are not expecting it and can take some getting over, so just give yourself some time.
I also know others who have had a similar experience to me where they have got faint lines on tests that come and go - they may even go to the doctor to get blood tests - but at the end of the day there is nothing that you can do to stop a chemical pregnancy.
Just take your time and if you don't want to go back to trying to get pregnant straight away then take a month or two off before trying again. Unfortunately for some people like me time is of the essence and so taking any time off is not a possibility.