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Choose your life, don't let you life choose you

Updated on April 13, 2016

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How to create the life you want

If you have been reading my blog for some time you've no doubt read about some of my strategies when it comes to creating a success for yourself. Success though is relative and has nothing to do with money, but more so if you are achieving the goals that you've set out for yourself or are working to do so. Creating the kind of life you want to lead is easier for some than for others, but regardless it can be achieved by everyone. In order to craft your life how you want to live it, you have to have the right tools to become the craftsman of your life.

Five tools needed to craft your life

  • The first tool you need in crafting your life is vision. The ability to see where you want to go or what you want to be in the future. Think about it, every big business or every big accomplishment known to mankind, has started with someone having a vision for what they wanted to accomplish. Even if some of the minor details haven't been hashed out yet (which most aren't when you are envisioning a future) you can still look to what you want to accomplish by seeing in your mind yourself achieving your goals.
  • The second tool you need in crafting your life is a good set of plans to build from. Without a reliable guide for your life you will be left wandering aimlessly doing the same thing, in the same way, everyday
  • The third tool you need is Proper Mindset. When your mindset is tuned into your goals, this is when you will become unstoppable. Having a great mindset is akin to hiring the right employees to accomplish a job. When you are positive and focused on what your goals and executing your plan than you won't let anything or anyone come in between you and accomplishing your goals. Let's say you wanted to lose weight, it doesn't matter if you buy the right foods or exercise equipment if you haven't made the personal determination to lose weight, you wont do it.
  • The fourth tool you need is a support system. No one can craft the life they want alone. It takes many interactions both positive and negative to shape your future self. The negative interactions you will face in your life will prepare you with how to deal adversity, and how to think when you have people trying to divert you from your goal. If you are prepared in advance and determined to not let anything or anyone stand in your way, you will have a higher resolve when you have to deal with negativity. The best way to combat negative forces in your life, other than building up your mentality is to keep positive people around you who support your vision and want to see you succeed. You MUST avoid energy vampires and rub elbows with people who are visionaries and who value achieving personal goals. This subset of people will be the shot of adrenaline you need to be energized on a regular basis to accomplish your goals. You have to go where these people go, invite them into your space (I can hear all the worlds introverts collectively scream, silently of course) and show them what you are working on so they can know how to support you.
  • The fifth tool you need is reverse engineering. I get it, what in the world are you talking about? Well, you kind of have to work backwards to figure out where you want to go. Let me explain. Let's say you want to buy a house in five years, in order to get that house you want you realize you have to credit qualify, save money for down payment and other expenses and you also have to know what type of house you want. Now let's say that your credit score is 525, you make 40k a year and only have 5k in savings. If you want to buy that house you have to get your credit score up to at least 640, have 20k in savings and have planned what kind of house suits your needs. Reverse engineering is working backwards to figure out what and how you have to work everyday to accomplish your goals. When you are crafting the life you want you have to figure out what the end game is, what do you want to do, where do you want to live, who do you want to do it with and how you want to do it. This requires you to self test yourself and answer questions honestly about where you currently are. Only when we first admit where we are in our life can we attain the life that we want.

What life is supposed to be like

This may come to a surprise to you but there isn't one way to enjoy life or one kind of life to live. Many people whose lives aren't going how they would like them to go say "life isn't supposed to be like this", well, let's consider. Life is a culmination of the small choices we make on a daily basis. Unless there is a complete shift in life events that can side track us, we have to take time out to live the life we want in the future today. Even when bad things happen, or problems set us back, the wonderful thing about tomorrow is that it always starts fresh. You have the chance to write whatever story you want for the next day. What life is supposed to be, is a focused effort to work hard towards our goals and dreams that elevate us to live the life we want to live.

Here's to your success,



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