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Convict me for I have failed.

Updated on February 14, 2014

So there we are teaching in a communist country that it is better to try and fail, than not to try.

Seriously some folks do not have a right to fail at business.
Seriously some folks do not have a right to fail at business. | Source

This will startle you. But it is true.

Just about 4 fifths of the people in this world live under two strange notions to North Americans and Great Britain and their sister nations. Here it is and hit the drum roll: "if the state does not make it legal it is illegal". And the second is this; "if you are duly accused you are guilty until you prove your innocence".

What!? And I am dead serious here. India and China live under those precepts. So does France, Mexico, all of Africa and 99% of the middle east and all the Russian and Slovic Nations. (this probably has exceptions that I missed - let me know in comments, we love to learn here)

Take a breath. And absorb those notions. They do not truly have inalienable rights given by a creator of their lives.

Americans will continue to die to defend your freedoms.

Yes I taught that class in a developing communist country.

The new workers there had to learn the notion that we can fail. And they had to learn that failure is just as often the result of trying hard as is success. And that is just fine! In a land that is known for productivity, the USA, about 44% of new businesses are not even in existence 4 years later. Those statistics come from the U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics.

Marriages also fail. The idea that it is at 50 percent is kind of weak minded. But for sure it is around 30 percent. And so while a marriage may end in divorce it may be fair to say that a ten year marriage is a success. But the real interesting factor is that there are less marriages percentage wise now than there used to be. And that probably is not good. And from this writers observation the main reason for not getting married is that the marriage may fail. It would seem that a proper determination of the success of a marriage is not if it ends in divorce, but rather if the couple is happy and loving while married. It seems very strange that we would see to miserable people married and call that a success because they do not get divorced.

So to the point of longevity being a test for success or failure we may want to make that only one factor. Certainly a war is not determined success or failure based on such notions nor are building projects or sports competitions.

Success in riding a bull is measured in 8 seconds.

A rider might spend 10 hours driving to an event and if on his one ride he lasts only 6 seconds he is a failure?
A rider might spend 10 hours driving to an event and if on his one ride he lasts only 6 seconds he is a failure? | Source

So should you convict yourself for failure?

Probably you should not. I think it was Thomas Edison who said to the effect when asked about inventing a light bulb: "I tried two thousand times and each time learned another way how not to do it".

And yet if we take the faith notion of convict we see things differently. When a man says "I am convicted in Christ", he is speaking of a conviction in the sense of convicting and convinced. So what we want to do is be convinced of our ability to succeed and produce and not be convicted by our failure.

In other words regardless of past failures we cannot remain convinced that we are failures. We must remain convinced that we are winners. Any failure is a mere stepping stone to our next success.

I just love the saying that I believe comes from Alcoholics Anonymous that says "one day at a time". I suppose they are saying that they must stay sober and not fall into their addiction one day at a time because the whole of a lifetime is just to huge a proposition. But in that the program as I understand is about living life on life's terms it may be more appropriate to view the idea of one day at a time to mean, "today I will succeed!". And the great promise there is that if we fail today we have tomorrow to succeed. We are not convicted into our failure but to the hope and faith in a new day.

Are you living in a past failure?

Has a failure held you back?

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Do not let the self doubt snake bite you!

There is nothing worse than self doubt.
There is nothing worse than self doubt. | Source

I just thought I would throw this book your way, duck or catch it, I suggest it is fun to catch.

So you can convict me for failure.

I think most folks like to read and hear about failure. It is one of those "one upmanship" deals where you feel better because you did not fail. Just the opposite of survivor's guilt. One of my absolute favorites is the guy who never risks anything sitting in his LazyBoy easy chair saying these wonderful words: "I told you so". That is just so precious and totally disgusting and unamerican, Yet sadly the tune being taken at this time in this great nation.

Did you know that nowadays most Americans would rather have money for retirement than money to start a new business with in their account. That notion just blows my mind. My mom who was a depression baby pretty much held that view. Although she did well in life she never ever invested in people or an idea, only in things.

Equity in your home is a very interesting idea. I remember "burning the mortgage" growing up. What a celebration to have no one else hold any interest in your home. Did you know that more wealth is transferred in America by way of inheritance than by way of labor? Interesting stuff don't you think.

Let us put some pajamas and a nightcap on this hub and put it to bed.

You may go right ahead and convict me for failing. That might even be your calling in life, to go around pointing fingers at projects that fail. There are lawyers who sue people for failing with other people's money. And there used to be a debtor's prison for such folk. Now we call it bankruptcy.

A note on folks that own their homes free and clear for personal feelings of security. Do not get in a serious car wreck. You see if you owe the bank on your home to a serious percentage of the equity and someone sues you for one million dollars and you only have 100 thousand in car insurance they cannot take your home to satisfy the judgment they get against you because it is the banks' equity and not yours. And conversely (except for a homestead concept) if you own it outright they can take it outright.

So I ask you please - go out and take some risks, you need to do it. It is good for the soul. And while I may convict your for failure, never ever ever convict yourself!

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      Brian Prickril 3 years ago from Savannah, GA

      Well, damn, Eric...you really knocked this topic out of the park! I really enjoyed it. I think too many people play it safe and end up with a nice, boring, little life. Gross! Go out and shake things up a bit. You don't have to be a damn fool about it, but be courageous. I love hearing older folks talking about what they "really" wanted to do in life. Well, what the hell was stopping you?

      p.s. Fear and Loathing is one of my desktop "bibles."

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      My dad told me once, and repeated it many times after....always move forward. Mistakes have been made...move forward. We stumble....move forward. I have never forgotten that and it has served me well. Have a great weekend my friend.

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      Kathy Carr 3 years ago from Chicago, Illinois

      Good Read. I would like to think that I took a risk in my writings, to expose my self to the public, for them to either love what I wrote or make snide remarks about it or just ignore it all together. In which case it helps me to grow as a writer. Good work.

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Brian we are too alike and better never get together with a Monkey Wrench Gang plan or a trip to Vegas. I think everybody should face death at least twenty years before the big call. A bucket list to me is what I did yesterday!

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Bill Holland, Thank you. But let me tell you a short story. I was down to 135 lbs during cancer and had not the energy to get to a swimming hole the whole family took off to. I big old brother knelt in front of my chair turned his back to me and said "get on, if we don't make, we will not make it together" He piggy backed me one mile to the swimming hole where I basked watching my children and nephews play. I damned well made the walk back on my own.

      So your comment rings true, but the fact is you carry many of us on your back. Muchas Gracias mi amigo.

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Kathy, it is a fine pleasure for me to have you comment. I am just a writer and not yet successful at it.

      You really make a great point about us writers. Dang, if we do not fail at least once a day, we ain't writing.

      I think that is awesome.

      I fish. Mostly catch and release unless I am hungry. But I just love a day of casting without catching nothing. I am going to go make sure I follow you.

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      John Hansen 3 years ago from Queensland Australia

      Great hub Eric, your opening paragraph really hit a chord with me. Our Queensland Government is in the process of turning this into a police state...you don't believe this could happen in a country like Australia...well read this article: http://www.brisbanetimes.com.au/queensland/queensl...

      It is illegal for bikers (or potentially any other group wearing a uniform with an organization name on it) to meet in a group of three or more in public. Lots of innocent people have been arrested already. The idea is to crack down on biker related crime. They are no longer allowed to run or have any association with tattoo parlours either and bikers in prison are forced to wear pink uniforms so they stand out and are humiliated. They are also making prisons "no smoking", imagine being locked up with a lot of other prisoners suffering withdrawal symptoms. Crazy stuff.

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      My goodness, here we have bikers for Tots and Biker fundraisers for Veterans and huge rides for Sobriety and for support of firefighters and I even heard of a biker for Catholics deal.

      I am still waiting for my clearance to go spread love in prisons. Kiros is the group. Jodah please grab my shoe as I float away from this crazy ass world for I can do it in my mind and not return.

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      Chris Mills 3 years ago from St. Louis, MO until the end of June, 2017

      I really appreciate the idea that failure can and should be a stepping stone to something better. I have experienced this several times in my life. At the time I can't see it. But hindsight shows me that the failure led me to a higher place. Thanks for a great hub Eric.

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Oh my man cam8510 you are one of those dudes that I just rejoice in any failure that ended up bringing you into my life. You enrich and carry us forward from where we were before.

      In my little world we say Amen to you.

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      Shannon 3 years ago from Texas

      Awesome message, and one I agree with. Lord knows I've had to start over way too many times. But, life goes on and there's always hope. As long as there is hope, there is a possibility of letting go of failures, learning from the, and moving on - not necessarily in that order, though it is my usual sequence.

      By the way, since I haven't seen an email address for you. . . thought you might enjoy this: http://countrymusicnotes.blogspot.com/2014/02/cana...

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      Shelley Watson 3 years ago

      Excellent read and a great message. Thank you for knocking this on the head! Up, awesome, interesting and useful.

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thanks much Shelly I am smiling away. I am very happy you liked it.

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Shanmarie Thank you and sorry for not responding sooner but I ran off to musicnotes and forgot to come back. A failure on my part ;-) Yes I have to actually start moving on and let the lesson soak in before I can start learning from it.

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      Shannon 3 years ago from Texas

      No problem. Haha. Guess my interview bored you rather than interested you, huh? ;) It was his thoughts on the "one of these days" concept that made me think of you, given your reaction to a hub I wrote a few months ago that expressed similar thoughts.

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      No I really liked the interview. And find http://countrymusicnotes.blogspot.com to be a delightful fun place. I going to tell my son to pull his country from https://www.facebook.com/HopiAstronaut

      And send it to you for review.

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      shanmarie 3 years ago

      Sounds great. If he's got country, tell him to feel free to send it over.

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thanks Shanmarie, watch for it.

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