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Convict me for I have failed.
So there we are teaching in a communist country that it is better to try and fail, than not to try.
This will startle you. But it is true.
Just about 4 fifths of the people in this world live under two strange notions to North Americans and Great Britain and their sister nations. Here it is and hit the drum roll: "if the state does not make it legal it is illegal". And the second is this; "if you are duly accused you are guilty until you prove your innocence".
What!? And I am dead serious here. India and China live under those precepts. So does France, Mexico, all of Africa and 99% of the middle east and all the Russian and Slovic Nations. (this probably has exceptions that I missed - let me know in comments, we love to learn here)
Take a breath. And absorb those notions. They do not truly have inalienable rights given by a creator of their lives.
Americans will continue to die to defend your freedoms.
Yes I taught that class in a developing communist country.
The new workers there had to learn the notion that we can fail. And they had to learn that failure is just as often the result of trying hard as is success. And that is just fine! In a land that is known for productivity, the USA, about 44% of new businesses are not even in existence 4 years later. Those statistics come from the U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics.
Marriages also fail. The idea that it is at 50 percent is kind of weak minded. But for sure it is around 30 percent. And so while a marriage may end in divorce it may be fair to say that a ten year marriage is a success. But the real interesting factor is that there are less marriages percentage wise now than there used to be. And that probably is not good. And from this writers observation the main reason for not getting married is that the marriage may fail. It would seem that a proper determination of the success of a marriage is not if it ends in divorce, but rather if the couple is happy and loving while married. It seems very strange that we would see to miserable people married and call that a success because they do not get divorced.
So to the point of longevity being a test for success or failure we may want to make that only one factor. Certainly a war is not determined success or failure based on such notions nor are building projects or sports competitions.
Success in riding a bull is measured in 8 seconds.
So should you convict yourself for failure?
Probably you should not. I think it was Thomas Edison who said to the effect when asked about inventing a light bulb: "I tried two thousand times and each time learned another way how not to do it".
And yet if we take the faith notion of convict we see things differently. When a man says "I am convicted in Christ", he is speaking of a conviction in the sense of convicting and convinced. So what we want to do is be convinced of our ability to succeed and produce and not be convicted by our failure.
In other words regardless of past failures we cannot remain convinced that we are failures. We must remain convinced that we are winners. Any failure is a mere stepping stone to our next success.
I just love the saying that I believe comes from Alcoholics Anonymous that says "one day at a time". I suppose they are saying that they must stay sober and not fall into their addiction one day at a time because the whole of a lifetime is just to huge a proposition. But in that the program as I understand is about living life on life's terms it may be more appropriate to view the idea of one day at a time to mean, "today I will succeed!". And the great promise there is that if we fail today we have tomorrow to succeed. We are not convicted into our failure but to the hope and faith in a new day.
Are you living in a past failure?
Has a failure held you back?
Do not let the self doubt snake bite you!
I just thought I would throw this book your way, duck or catch it, I suggest it is fun to catch.
So you can convict me for failure.
I think most folks like to read and hear about failure. It is one of those "one upmanship" deals where you feel better because you did not fail. Just the opposite of survivor's guilt. One of my absolute favorites is the guy who never risks anything sitting in his LazyBoy easy chair saying these wonderful words: "I told you so". That is just so precious and totally disgusting and unamerican, Yet sadly the tune being taken at this time in this great nation.
Did you know that nowadays most Americans would rather have money for retirement than money to start a new business with in their account. That notion just blows my mind. My mom who was a depression baby pretty much held that view. Although she did well in life she never ever invested in people or an idea, only in things.
Equity in your home is a very interesting idea. I remember "burning the mortgage" growing up. What a celebration to have no one else hold any interest in your home. Did you know that more wealth is transferred in America by way of inheritance than by way of labor? Interesting stuff don't you think.
Let us put some pajamas and a nightcap on this hub and put it to bed.
You may go right ahead and convict me for failing. That might even be your calling in life, to go around pointing fingers at projects that fail. There are lawyers who sue people for failing with other people's money. And there used to be a debtor's prison for such folk. Now we call it bankruptcy.
A note on folks that own their homes free and clear for personal feelings of security. Do not get in a serious car wreck. You see if you owe the bank on your home to a serious percentage of the equity and someone sues you for one million dollars and you only have 100 thousand in car insurance they cannot take your home to satisfy the judgment they get against you because it is the banks' equity and not yours. And conversely (except for a homestead concept) if you own it outright they can take it outright.
So I ask you please - go out and take some risks, you need to do it. It is good for the soul. And while I may convict your for failure, never ever ever convict yourself!