Coping With Heartbreak
Everyone Deals With it Differently
In life, heartbreak happens to us all and many different situations are the cause — from the death of someone we love to a breakup and to the loss of something important. We all experience these things in life, yet we all handle it differently.
When someone’s heart is shattered the pain can be unbearable. In fact, it can be so unbearable that the person focuses their attention on one thing (or multiple) that brings them the slightest bit of comfort, and they latch onto it and it becomes an obsession.
People do this because it’s a coping mechanism and it can be hard to break at the beginning especially.
For example, one person I came across on Twitter looks to be obsessed with tarot readings. They scroll through twitter looking for any tarot reading that is being handed out.
I gave them two tarot readings and also offered a little advice. However, I could tell the advice didn’t really stick in their mind but the reading did because it gave them hope that their situation would get better.
It’s only natural that we want to find any sort of comfort during dark times, for example: working out, being around friends and family, learning a new skill, or even binge-watching movies are all different ways of coping.
And it might be easy to judge people for coping a certain way, it might even be frustrating that somebody isn’t coping in the way you think is “right” but the beauty of humans is that we’re all different, and the only thing we can do for each other during moments of sorrow is offer support and comfort, and just hope that they’ll find their way out of the darkness.
When we find a little piece of comfort during moments of pain it can be just enough to keep us going a little longer. And day by day the pain subsides and eventually, we will start to feel better or “normal” again.
Life isn’t always an easy path to travel, but as the moments pass us by, good or bad, the next thing comes around and grabs our attention. And even though we either wish a moment won’t ever end or we believe that it actually won’t ever end, in reality, it always does.
That’s the beauty of life though, painful as it is, everything comes to an end eventually. It’s bitter-sweet and beautiful and feels much too short.
We all seem to forget the limited time we have here until something reminds us of how fragile it all really is.
So, cope how you want to cope — just as long as it isn’t harming you or others — and remember to eventually start living life again because as I said: it’s too darn short.