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Coping when there is no one to turn too

Updated on November 2, 2011

What do you do when you can't cope? When you have no one to talk too, you lay your feelings and frustrations out and get nothing back. No encouragement, no feedback of any kind.

 For me, keeping a journal has been a good resource to turn too but not helpful. You get to let your feelings out on a piece of paper for only you to see. But what if you need that other voice not the one inside of your head but some outside interference from a family member, a friend, an acquaintance, even a stranger will do for some of us. 

It's never about what they will say but just to be able to open our mouths and speak the words that represent our feelings instead of bottling them down into the pits of our beings. Though we write hundreds of words, feeling up notebooks time and time again somehow we are still holding everything in. The more we bottle our feelings up, the more pain we endure as a result. 

Communication has always been key to the survival of any relationship. The most important relationship we could ever be in is the one we have with ourselves. The lack of communication within ourselves speaks volumes of us not being able to face the truth, face reality so that we can cope with the issues that surrounds us. 

Falling back into a black hole where the light at the beginning becomes dimmer as we fall further into an abyss of darkness and loneliness. Nowhere to go, no one to turn to. Some argue that prayer is the key, the answer to our troubles and it very well could be. 

I have been in some dark places hell I am in one almost every day. I would pray and ask for some kind of sign to show me where I'm going per the path that I am on.  I can admit  that's the one thing I know for sure that has opened my eyes and that's the belief that signs are every where. You just have to know where to look for them, call it intuition. 

When I can open my eyes to really see what's in front of me, or to block out all sounds but the sound I am meant to hear then I know those are my answers to the questions I have pondered over. 

Whenever there's a feeling rising within you telling you that you won't get through the battlefield you are fighting in, tell the devil he is a liar. If not having anyone to talk to during your time of need turn to the open communication lines of reaching out to those that you know have traveled down the road you're on. Don't have high expectations of others to fill in the gaps or answer the questions that only you know the answers to. 

Trust yourself enough to know that when you are at your wits end and there is no one to talk too, you can pull from within to get the answers you need. Our memories of loved ones helps us through bereavement. Knowing who we are and what we are good at, what makes us happy, helps us cope during a time where we have lost our job and thought it was the end of the world.  

Having no one to turn to just means there's no one around to make us feel better about ourselves. If that's the case why not care for yourself just as much to know that if you can't lift up your own spirits to see how great a person you are how can anyone else see it and pove it to you? 


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      4 years ago

      I turn to sleep , it helps me not have to deal with what's actually going on. Even though what's actually going on isn't that bad, it's mainly in my mind I think.

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      7 years ago

      This is truly an inspirational article. Really made me think. Much of anything is how we perceive it. Is the glass half full, or half empty.

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      Donnetta Williams 

      7 years ago from jacksonville

      Thanks for reading

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      7 years ago from Kenya

      I have never been able to keep a journal myself...but i find prayer quite therapeutic...Thanks for sharing


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