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Coping with Discouragement

Updated on May 4, 2018
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Devika enjoys sharing her work with a friendly community. Writing is a big part of her life. Online work has improved her lifestyle.

Encouragement makes you feel positive

Being able to adapt to another lifestyle had brought on greater challenges toward me.

I had faced up to discouragement from negative people occasionally.

What happened when I felt discouraged?

I still thought positively to avoid that different feeling of feeling down.

I did not want to feel down it was not something I had not grown into or born into.

The whole negative life problems did not affect me because my past life was so happy and always filled with great positivism.

If you don't know how to manage or cope with discouragement you can fall very hard.

Everything around you will feel like its crumbling or falling apart from a little discouragement.

It is normal to feel that but when you don't have a clue of how to get up from that fall the changes can affect you horribly.

People have their own opinions I don't mind listening but considering their opinions was not what I had in mind, and still I don’t think about it in my life.

There is no reason for me to take on the extra pressure from negative people.

At some point in your life you must have experienced discouragement.

When faced with an obstacle you can feel down and out.

You lose enthusiasm and confidence.

Your sense of direction can feel weak and your capabilities won't show properly.

People feel discouraged with any part of their lives. I did so too.

Some of my first moments in meeting the different people did make me feel discouraged. Listening on certain conversations made me feel negative in certain ways.

I did not hang on to that discouraging talk. I moved on.

Discouragement affects you if you hold on to that thought.

You can be damaged emotionally and feel helpless if you take to heart the discouraging conversations.

For example:

If your partner cheats on you that alone can make you feel discouraged.

You won't feel worthy enough to your partner and would want to make some change to still be with your partner.

Certain situations can drag you down.

Discouragement is faced in all families.

Sometimes individuals feel discouraged by their lives and can end up suicidal.

From unfaithfulness to suicidal, and with all that negative activity, you are bound to feel at your worst.

What are the signs of Discouragement?

The feeling of restlessness.

When you feel thoughtless like absentmindedness and the often weariness.

You are filled with worry about some incident.

The lack of sleep is another important sign of discouragement.

The lack of eating is called Complacency.

For example:

When you haven't eaten for the day and don't feel like eating at all.

The negative thoughts can drive you to suicide.

Evil attacks one's mind when feeling discouraged. Many individuals are affected by discouragement which can take full control of their minds.

  • Discouragement is as follows:










No sense of direction



Negative thoughts

You can carry yourself through all times, through all challenges, and with all works of life.

Challenges allow you to break down or be that strong and fulfilled person. You are discouraged and encouraged through all trials of life.

I know that from all of my experiences.

I did not know where I came to and had to learn from that experience.

Learning more and more about Croatia had taught me how to see my life in a different way.

The struggle does not stop it is a continuous line with no stop sign.

They way you choose to handle your discouragements shows you your true self.

My life changed and I am not grumbling about it instead encouraging myself each day to have a greater life.

Mentally, and physically, care certain aspects of life that can get out of control. You can feel tired of the same old routine or feel guilt through most conversations.

Most important is for you to think about the best of your life and take it from there.

Giving up is not an option!

What had made you feel discouraged?

Some people enjoy discouragement.

Do you feel like quitting and feel like it is not happening for you?

Overall what is Discouragement?

Feel fatigued.

Everything else about you starts to spiral downward.

Noticed when you have a cold or flu your body feels sore and just getting to bed feels like a great effort. Physically you feel drained and emotionally you feel exhausted.

You feel lower than you actually are in those moments.

Ever felt frustrated?

The task you want to complete is not getting to the end. You can become irritable or frustrated with the project. The goal you want to achieve is slipping away. When frustrated you do feel discouragement.

What about failure?

When you fail at your goals all your world comes tumbling down.

You tend to blame others for what you could not get right it does feel like the right way to fix those moments.

You feel sorry for yourself and don't how to react.

Everything happens for a reason and when you feel all is coming right for you and then suddenly everything goes the wrong way.

I felt that way many times before I got up on my feet. I felt like everything was taken away from me and that I couldn't get up so easily. Over time, I got the hang of it and knew I can't sit down and feel discouraged. I had to get up and do for myself. With failure comes success.

You fear of criticism when you feel discouraged is another obstacle for you.

Taking responsibility for your actions is often not what you choose to do.

Do you know what to do to feel better when discouraged?

Remain calm!

Take a break and feel relaxed.

Make your body feel relaxed with peaceful surroundings.

Be organized and make the necessary changes to get a different look at your life.

The wrong approach can make you feel discouraged.

Pray and heal from within.

Remember the choices you make can affect your life in the future as is discouragement a choice. If you let that take over your mind the force of discouragement will put you on another side of life and you wouldn't to want to go there.

Overcome what can take you down and hurt you.

Override your weaknesses with your strengths.

People experience difficult times and passing through such times can take you in.

All experiences have a hold on your life.

I chose to be positive and strong through my changes in life.

I enjoy being me and that is one of my greater choices to be that kind of person.

My personality is unique and I choose to feel good daily on my own. I don't wait on others to make me that happy person.

Happiness avoids the evil from rushing into your life.

I have happiness and in that way I avoid negativity.

If you prefer to be indoors for most of the week certainly you will have some issues with yourself.

Interact with friendly people to make you heard to others. Your existence should not be blocked off the outside world.

You miss life when you don't interact with others.

Be energetic and connect with life to avoid discouragement.

Blame is not an option here.

Focus on what you know is the best for you.

You are not complete without a smile.

Be yourself and be able to show yourself to others freely.

There is no reason for hiding away from others. Face up to your challenges.

Life at times can be havoc try to avoid taking on everything for the day.

Share your chores and be relaxed.

Discouragement can take a hold to any one the way you dandle such situations plays an important part of your life.

I enjoy living a positive life daily to avoid all the bad stuff.

You too can do that for yourself.

I write to share my experiences in a positive way. I know what it is like to come from a positive lifestyle to a not so positive lifestyle.

The path to less Confusion

Beautiful in Positive minds

Be strong and Positive

''Never Give up on life''

''Think Positive and you will do Positive''

Be Grateful

Always be Confident

''You got to crawl before walking tall''

''Never Fear Challenges''


What had made you feel Discouraged?

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© 2014 Devika Primić


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      Devika Primić 

      3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      VioletteRose thank you for stopping by your comments are always valuable to me.

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      3 years ago from Chicago

      We all feel discouraged sometimes, but moving forward with positive attitude is so important as you say. Thanks so much for writing about a really important topic!

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      Devika Primić 

      3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Vellur move on is the way to a positive and better life thank you

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      Nithya Venkat 

      3 years ago from Dubai

      Very positive and inspiring write. I have noticed some people discourage just because they do not want the other person to succeed. We just have to brush it off and move on.

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      Devika Primić 

      3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      FlourishAnyway thank you very much for stopping by. I appreciate all comments from you.

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      3 years ago from USA

      It is natural to sometimes suffer discouragement, but I like the fact that you keep on getting up to try, and try again. Continue to persist in all you do.

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      Devika Primić 

      3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      denise.w.anderson great words from you thank you for stopping by.

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      Devika Primić 

      3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Thank you Eiddwen. Have a pleasant day.I appreciate the vote up and shared.

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      Devika Primić 

      3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Shyron E Shenko, Thank you very much for stopping by.I appreciate the vote up, UABI and Shared.

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      Devika Primić 

      3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hello D.A.L. glad to read another comment from you. Thank you for the vote up, useful and interesting you are too kind and thoughtful.

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      Devika Primić 

      3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      AliciaC, thank you very much

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      Denise W Anderson 

      3 years ago from Bismarck, North Dakota

      Discouragement can be difficult to overcome, it can really drag us down. Like you have so aptly put it here, it can be a downward spiral. We have to do something. I like your statement that the way we handle discouragement shows our true self.

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      3 years ago from Wales

      Great pointers and advice here Devika. Voted up and shared.


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      Shyron E Shenko 

      3 years ago from Texas

      Devika, wonderful hub about discouragement, but you turned it aound to b full of encouragement.

      Bless you dear friend.

      Voted up, UABI and shared


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      3 years ago from Lancashire north west England

      From reading your hubs, this and your many others on Human emotions, I feel you are now in a much better place,your confidence shining through the murky times of past experiences. Discouragement is a blow to self confidence and self esteem. The great thing about HP,is {I have found} full of encouraging people,you yourself being very much so. Great read and a great help to anyone feeling a bit low that can only find a mode of encouragement from this article. Voted up,useful and interesting.

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      Linda Crampton 

      3 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      Life can be very unhappy when we're discouraged. Thanks for sharing your suggestions for overcoming discouragement, Devika.

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      Devika Primić 

      3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi billybuc thank you for stopping by.

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      Devika Primić 

      3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Harishprasad thank you for the vote up and shared so glad you came by and shared such a wonderful comment. You are dead right!

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      Devika Primić 

      3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi always exploring, changes have taken place and I have coped well and feel stronger I am fine now thank you.

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      Devika Primić 

      3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      word55 I am encouraged and override the discouragement with my positivism. Thank you and well-said.

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      Devika Primić 

      3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi RachaelOhalloran "I write to share my experiences in a positive way. I know what it is like to come from a positive lifestyle to a not so positive lifestyle." That is so true. I have become more positive than before due to my great challenges in a foreign country. Sometimes I think and feel good about my life and there are those times when I feel very down. I try not to be taken by any negative energy as that can happen very fast here. Lifestyles are different coping with everything can be a drainer at times. I have found encouragement at HP and with my own life personally. Thank you very much for sharing your encouraging comment I appreciate your comments.

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      Ruby Jean Richert 

      3 years ago from Southern Illinois

      I think we all get discouraged sometimes. The key is to put one foot in front of the other and go forward. Having a loving family and friends keeps my spirit up. You seem to be doing well after your move to a new country, good for you!!

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      3 years ago from Chicago

      Hi Devika, Every morning that you wake up is encouragement from the Heavenly Father to get up, live and work according to His Will. That's most of the encouragement needed to get through the day. His encouragement never changes. Shun the discouragement as it seem that you do and keep turning it into positivity. Thank you for bringing up the subject and be encouraged!

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      Rachael O'Halloran 

      3 years ago from United States

      You said "I write to share my experiences in a positive way. I know what it is like to come from a positive lifestyle to a not so positive lifestyle."

      Your statement implies you came from a positive lifestyle and are in a not so positive lifestyle now.

      It is very hard moving to a new place, not knowing anyone, not having friends and having to start over creating a life and making new friends. Sometimes you don't know how to "take" someone upon meeting a new friend and it takes a while to puzzle it out to see if it will be a good friendship.

      Aloneness - even if we are living with family members - is always present. We left behind something familiar and moved to something totally unfamiliar - to us - even though those we moved with might call it home.

      I know this in my own life, because we move every few years, often to a place where life is not like what we left behind. Encouragement comes from the least expected corners sometimes, (for me it is online and with a few close friends).

      If we keep positive in our own mind, we will attract the same to us. If we exhibit negativity, we will attract negativity.

      I hope you are moving toward a positive lifestyle now. I know you find encouragement here on HubPages and I hope you have someone there at your new home who encourages you as well. Take care :)

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      Harish Mamgain 

      3 years ago from New Delhi , India

      Devika, the stuff you write makes us to ponder our own lives. I think, if we know our real worth in our own eyes, we need no approval, recognition and support of other people. Only such people are discouraged who are bereft of belief in themselves.

      If we are sure of our inner strength, we can surmount the hardest hurdle on our way. When I read your writings, I sense such power, faith and determination in your personality. Since you have discovered your self in true light, you reflect a real wisdom to live your life.

      I love your writings that are so thought provoking and motivating. Voted up and shared.

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      Bill Holland 

      3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Always great words of wisdom. Well done my friend.

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      Devika Primić 

      3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi peachpurple I so agree with you about discouragement from family members that can be hurtful too. You should not take everything to heart just be yourself and think positively, always. Thank you.

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      3 years ago from Home Sweet Home

      i get discouraged by my own family members but a lot of encouragement from hubbers instead


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