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Coping with the loss of a friend

Updated on August 24, 2011


Untimely death

It is never easy hearing of the passing of a family member or a friend. You are never prepared to hear the sad news and for most of us it always comes as a shock we are not expecting. I still am trying to come to terms with my father's tragic and sudden passing. As I was grieving for my dad when I first learned of his untimely death I had the love and support of my family and friends which really helped me get through a very painful and difficult time. I will always remember one of my friends who helped me and was there for me. He reached out to me and offered his condolences and I was truly appreciative. We spoke and he helped ease my mind. He called me on a Friday night having learned about it that very day. Thursday was when it happened and I was in need of a friend to talk to and Moises was there for me.

Sadly today, a Thursday I learned of the tragic and unexpected passing of my friend Moises. He was a great friend with a wonderful family. He had a beautiful wife and a beautiful little baby girl. He always beamed with pride when he talked of his wife and daughter and I always enjoyed when I got to spend time with him. I am so very sad learning of his untimely death. Words can not truly reflect the sorrow and pain I feel. I look at Moises as one of those special friends who really was a sincere and caring person and I feel richer for knowing him. He made me realize the importance of friendship and the value in leaning on someone for comfort. The world is a sadder place today without my friend Moises. I pray for his wife and baby girl that they will be strong and able to get through this extremely difficult and very sad time. I think of his precious little girl now having to grow up without a father. It really makes me very sad. Our initial instincts after learning of one's passing is to reach out to the family and offer our condolences. We may not know what to say but we have good intentions and wish to offer our prayers and sympathies.

I was fortunate to meet Moises mother, his brother, his wife and his little girl. They are a tight knit family and they are always there for each other. I remember talking to him about our kids. I would proudly talk of my son and he would show me pictures of his precious little angel in her cute dress and matching shoes. He and his wife always had a beautiful gift for my son for the Christmas holiday and we would find something cute for his daughter also. It was nice to have such a friendship and it meant a lot to me. I sometimes wonder why good people have to die so young. Moises will always be a friend to me and I will cherish the wonderful memories. He had a love of music and he would always burn me a cd with some really cool music that made my drives more exciting. I will miss him very much because he was really a great friend to me and he always made me feel welcome.

For family it is so very hard to come to terms with the loss of a loved one. It will take time to heal but the loss will be deep and the pain may subside but it will never really go away. How could it? Losing someone so very close to you is never easy and living to face another day is now done without that person and that is a very difficult thing to have to deal with. We all have our ways of trying to deal with it as best we can but it will take a really long time and we will have a rocky road to traverse along the way.

It just goes to show you that life is so very unpredictable and we must live each day of our life with a sense of urgency because we don't know what tomorrow will bring. We need to also realize that our families come first and spending time with our children is a number one priority. We need to always be thinking of preparing them for their future and must be there to help them along the way. Children bring us great joy and it sometimes is very hard to explain to a child such difficult things such as death. How do you explain to a child that they will never see their daddy again. That is such a hard thing to have to share with a child but it is something that sadly has to be discussed. Sitting with a child to relay such sad news is very heart breaking and for a parent to have do this will take a lot of strength because the parent is also grieving and trying their best to come to terms with the painful reality also. A child will know something is wrong when they see their mommy crying and that their daddy is not around. I really feel for a family who is going through such a painful time as grieving for a parent.

There is no greater pain then that of a parent having to say good bye to their child. For a parent their child will always be their "baby" no matter their age and for a parent who grieves the loss of their child even though they have reached adulthood, that pain is very real and it is something they wished they never had to face. Most parents feel they are not supposed to have to bury their child but sadly it is a very common occurrence. The younger the child the harder it is. We all need to live our lives and truly appreciate each and every day because we just don't know what lies ahead and we have to always have hope and love in our heart and be grateful for all the people in our lives. We all have the capacity to touch others and we are all touched in our lives by others.

As I think of my friend Moises I will cherish the times I shared with him and his family and I will never forget what a great guy he was. I extend my condolences to his beautiful wife and baby girl and to his mom and dad and his brothers and their families. Moises, you died so very young and I pray for you and know you are missed deeply. May your family be strong during this sad and most difficult time and may they be comforted knowing you are at peace and in heaven now. God Bless you and may your family be comforted by God's love. I miss you, my friend and wish you well and your family the strength and courage to face the day, weeks, months and years ahead. You will always be a great friend to me. Thank you. Rest in peace, Moises.

Edward D. Iannielli III

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      ediann 6 years ago

      Thank you for the comforting words. Moises was one of a kind and he had loving family and many friends. He was a great friend to all and a wonderful family man. God Bless him and his family.

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      Thomas Silvia 6 years ago from Massachusetts

      It is always very sad when we lose family or friends to death, and i pray that your great sorrow will pass soon and just the good memories will be remembered of your good friend and your father.

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      Patty 6 years ago

      Thanks for sharing. Moises will be missed, such a great person, an excellent father, a caring friend. My prayers go to his family.

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      ediann 6 years ago

      Thank you! My heart is heavy as I try to come to grips with my friend's untimely death. Moises was a very special person and he leaves behind a beautiful wife and baby girl. I am so very sad. I pray for my good friend and wish his family the love and support they will need to go on. Rest in peace Moises. You will be missed. I will pray for you and your family.

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      robertsstiles 6 years ago from FSD

      nice story...keep it up

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      adipex 6 years ago

      Thanks for sharing this story.

      God Bless you.

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      PETER LUMETTA 6 years ago from KENAI, ALAKSA

      This is an expression of an emmotion we have all felt and endure. A beautiful story of freindship and a heartbreaking loss for all. A great tribute to your friend Moises, Thanks for sharing,