- Mental Health
Count Your Blessings
Today I am...content.
I looked up that word and it means, " a source of satisfaction". And I am satisfied. I have all the basic creature comforts for my life. I have a home, actually 2 homes, that my husband and I are able to pay the mortgage on without struggling. We have no other debt-no car payments and no credit card payments. We pay cash for all of our purchases and have adopted the philosophy that Dave Ramsey teaches, "If you can't pay cash for it, you don't need it." There is a big difference in what you need versus what you want. I need air to fill my lungs so I can continue to breathe and live. I want a Lamborghini to drive. I need clothes to cover my body so when I go outside I am not arrested for indecent exposure. I want to buy the newest fashions from the runway.
I have a loving husband who would love to shower me with all of the latest and best articles that this world says that I need to be happy but being happy is not what I want. I want to be contended. And I am.
Happiness depends upon happenings. I want joy and to be blessed so I have started a joy and contentment journal.
I try to write just 5 items every day that I am thankful for. They do not have to be anything extravagant like winning the lottery-that would be nice but it is not realistic. I also try not to repeat the same 5 things every day as well.
My first and foremost thing that I am thankful for is Jesus Christ. This is not meant to be a religious hub because I am turned off by people that want to hit me over the head with their philosophy. I believe that Jesus Christ was the only perfect man who was born of a virgin, lived a sinless life and died for me and rose again on the third day so that I would live forever when I die. He would have done this if I was the only person on this earth, He loved me that much. Am I perfect? NO WAY!!! But I do have the right to go to Jesus and ask for His forgiveness for my sins and He will forgive me of them and wash them and remember them no more.
I am thankful for my parents. If you have read any of my other hubs, you know that I was adopted by a couple that were unable to have their own natural children. My parents raised me with a Christian upbringing that taught me to follow the Ten Commandments and to love my neighbor as myself. Did I always obey them? NO!!! Did they stop loving me because I did wrong? NO!!! Were they sometimes disappointed in my actions? YES!!! Because I am human and that's what humans do-we try to get away with sin. They disciplined me when I did wrong to teach me what I could and could not get away with.
I am thankful for my husband. We will be married nine years this May. We knew each other as young teenagers and then were separated by distance and grew up into different people. We carried on with our own separate lives and I married the wrong people three different times. We came back together and are very contented with each other. We know each others weaknesses but we do not exploit them for our gain or to embarrass each other. We know each others strengths and will brag on these to other people. When we are concerned with life's circumstances, we go to God in prayer and we talk things out and come up with a solution that will turn into a win-win situation for all involved.
I am thankful for my children. I was not able to have any children pass through my body but I do have a 24 year old step son that I do love as if he were my own. He doesn't live with us or even live close by but I am his mother as much as if I gave birth to him. I also have a 21 year old son who was a foster child of my husbands. He has cerebral palsy and is living in South GA. He calls me "Mom" even though he has a mother. He loves me as if I gave him life so I got the best of both worlds-no pregnancies but I do have children.
And I have friends. I am on facebook and "only" have 134 friends... compared to some people who have over 500 friends. That number, I find, is exhausting. First of all, how much time are you spending on facebook with that many people? If you write something on every one's wall, how do you have time to have a job or raise a family? I actually have about 15 real friends. The ones who drop everything just to help you. See Tracy Lawrence's Find out who your friends are. Those are true friends. I have one friend for the past x years...more than 10 less than 40. I can call her at anytime and she will pray with me, cry with me, laugh with me or give me suggestions. Not too many people like that left in this world.
What I am suggesting is this-start a gratitude journal. Keep it for one month and every day commit to writing down 5 things to be contented about. Maybe something simple like the sun came out to he proposed! Then when you're down and discouraged, pick it up and read it. Guarantee it will turn your day around for the best!