Covert Narcissism Vs. Inverted Narcissism (Malignant Self-Love Revisited)
The term covert narcissist is another description for a closet narcissist (a term originally coined by James F. Masterson), although it should be noted that there is a recognized and very significant difference between a co-narcissist or inverted narcissist (as coined by Sam Vaknin) and a stealth, closet or covert narcissist which, despite common belief and misinformation, are definitely and undoubtedly not the same thing.
It's important to understand that covert narcissism (closet/stealth) and inverted narcissism (co-narcissism) are extremely similar to each other yet very different - they each have their very significant differences.
It's also just as important to understand that many writers, health professionals, academics and people who study the Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) have, over the years, proposed many subtypes and variations of the personality disorder, as well as attempting to distinguish the differences between them.
An inverted narcissist, or co-narcissist, is a co-dependent narcissist (of which co-narcissist is a compound word or abbreviation); usually filled with high levels of self-doubt, despite their grandiose fantasies, desires and ambitions, and so they never go on to achieve what they are truly capable of in life.
Inverted narcissists see themselves as being inadequate and inferior due to their self-doubt, which limits their capacity to achieve, and therefore they compulsively and obsessively seek security via dependence upon a classic narcissist who they can turn to, in order to attain their inverted narcissistic supply.
They are not simply just a co-dependent, they compulsively and obsessively seek out a co-dependent relationship with a classic (or overt) narcissist to manipulate and control (i.e. abuse) them - they are a compatible, consistent match and therefore Vaknin's label of inverted narcissism is probably the most accurate and appropriate term, rather than the term co-narcissism which causes confusion between the terms co-narcissism and covert narcissism, which are often at opposing ends of the narcissistic spectrum.
Unfortunately, despite being considered such an authority on the subject, Sam Vaknin has either been misinformed, has misunderstood or has been misled on the origins of the actual terms. As aforementioned, it was James F. Masterson who coined the term closet narcissism which is now more commonly referred to as covert narcissism.
It was Alexander Lowen and Elan Golomb who coined the term co-narcissist to describe co-dependent narcissism and not the term covert narcissist, as Vaknin claims.
A covert or stealth narcissist is of a much more predatory nature than the inverted narcissist and seeks out a victim who they can coerce into a co-dependent relationship.
Although the covert narcissist identifies the vulnerabilities in their victim, these are not the usual sort of emotional vulnerabilities one would expect. Instead, they look for vulnerabilities such as bad financial standing or a previous drink/drug/gambling habit, a vulnerability which they can exploit in the future, to their advantage.
An inverted narcissist would not seek out these traits in a partner, but would rather seek out a controlling narcissist, who can cater for these traits which may be present in they themselves (the inverted narcissist).
However, just as with inverted narcissism, covert narcissists also experience high levels of self-doubt and inefficiency and therefore they also rarely to go on to achieve their true ambitions and desires. Covert narcissists keep their narcissistic traits hidden, behind the scenes (i.e. in the closet).
Covert narcissists work under-cover, off the radar of human perception, to manipulate their victim(s) into a situation they can seemingly never get out of but the abuse is often so well disguised and on such a subliminal basis that it's nearly impossible to consciously perceive.
Narcissists have what is often referred to as a super-human capacity for manipulation and can easily outwit even the most intelligent of us. Whilst the inverted narcissist is willfully abused by a classic narcissist willingly allowing them to exploit their weaknesses (e.g. Fifty Shades Of Grey), the covert narcissist is the abuser and is the dominant one in the relationship.
- Sparkster Hubs is the author of the eBook Know Your Enemy: Reflections Of NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder)
© 2013 Marc Hubs