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Cows Have Feelings Too

Updated on July 18, 2013

Just because I'm fat, doesn't give YOU the right to be rude!

Inevitably, some person will come up to me and utter these words, "You're Fat!" No! Really? I had no idea! I just thought this roll around my middle was an innertube left over from last summer!

Why do some people feel it is their right to tell me that I'm fat? Do they think I could possibly not know this fact? I mean, I do own a mirror. I buy my own clothes and dress myself everyday. I am the one breathing hard as I go up the stairs and climb a hill. I actually can feel my own body and I know that that roll of fat around my belly and on my ass is big and bulky!

Is it because I don't look like you that you figure it's your duty to inform me? And why is it that you only do this to FAT people? I don't see you going up to the bald guy next to me and telling him, "Hey, your bald!" Nor do I see you going up to the lady with too much facial hair and saying, "Hey you have a mustache!"

Once my aunt was visiting and made the remark, "You have such a pretty face, you just need to lose weight." How many times have I heard that one? I proceeded to ask her why she thought it was okay to say something like that. She thought it was a compliment. I'm sure she meant well. So, I asked her what she would say if I was a "normal" weight but was butt ugly. Would she tell me i have such a beautiful body that I should have cosmetic surgery on my face? Once she thought about it, she understood where I was coming from.

I've heard people make comments when I'm out at a restaurant and order dessert. A couple with their children were at the next table and the mother was loudly telling her children the perils of overeating and being fat. "She certainly doesn't need to eat that! No wonder her ass is so big! You see kids, that's why I don't let you eat desserts and junk all the time. That woman obviously can't control herself!" I ate my dessert and when I got ready to leave I stopped by their table and made this comment: "You are soooo right. Being able to control what you put into your mouth is important. But, far more important is being able to control what comes out of your mouth."

Is it Bullying or Just Rude Behavior?

When did it become okay for people to be rude? Why are we tolerant of such behavior? It's the same thing as being bullied in high school. It wasn't okay then, and it's not okay now!

What is bullying?

Bullying is a form of aggressive and harrassing behavior. This antisocial behavior occurs across geographical, racial and socioeconomic segments of society. Bullying prevents its targets from enjoying a safe, stress-free living, learning and working environment.

Who is a bully?

A bully is someone who is mean and attacks other people with words or actions. They use teasing, threats or strength to pick on, frighten, or hurt someone or take what they want. It can be a fellow student, co-worker, neighbor, relative, or a complete stranger.

How can you stop bullying?

Stop being a bystander. Bystanders hold the balance of power in their hands. A bully wants the victim to feel alone and afraid. But, if you as the bystander will speak up and say something to the bully, you throw the bully for a loop! Now the victim doesn't feel alone, and the bully is trying to figure out what is happening.

I am not one to stand by and allow myself or others to be bullied. If I see someone being bullied, I will open my big mouth. Do I stand the chance of being bullied myself then, by calling attention to myself? Well, of course I do. But, if we stand together and stop letting people push us around and put us down, then we will make the world a better place for everyone.

No one has the right to make you feel bad for the way you look, act or feel! It is not okay for someone to say rude things or make rude gestures to you! Be proud of who you are! BECAUSE BABY YOU ARE SOMETHING ELSE!

If you are a bully...stop and think about what it is that is really bothering you. You can't possibly be that upset about my ass being fat. It has to be something else inside you. Maybe you were bullied yourself as a child. I don't know. But, look around you...everyone is different. We were all made as unique individuals. No one is better than the other. And that includes YOU!

If you witness a person being bullied...OPEN YOUR MOUTH AND SAY SOMETHING! You may just save someone's sense of self-worth, spirit, or life!

I feel beautiful today! How about you?

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      Kenneth Avery 6 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      Hello, Lisa! FAN-TAS-TIC read! Absolutely beautiful. Voted up, useful, intersting, awesome and beautiful. Your points on bullying are dead-on correct. Not a flaw. Thanks for tackling this monster of a problem. I was bullied as a child and I still remember the howls of laughter from the low lifes that called me names because of my asthma. And these kids were upstanding kids. Yeah, you bet. Anyway, Lisa. I am now a fan and follower, if that is okay with you. Sincerely, Kenneth Avery, from a rural town, Hamilton, in northwest Alabama that looks like Mayberry, where Andy and Barney lived.

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      Deni Edwards 7 years ago from california

      Excellent hub, Lisa! I completely agree with you.

      I should pass this on to my sister-in-law, but it seems that since her butt got bigger, she has refrained from making rude comments about others.

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      Lisa Smith 7 years ago from Coupeville, WA

      Scarlett My Dear, LivingFood, and bubblegumkisses, thank you all so much for reading this hub and for your thoughtful words and insight. I wish you all many blessings and a Happy Thanksgiving!

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      bubblegumkisses 7 years ago from U.S.A.

      Interesting hub, I think there are a lot of people out there with low self-esteem who take out their insecurities on others. For someone to actually say such hurtful things to your face is unbelievable! I can't believe there are people like this out there. It's really sad. I love the ending sentence! :)

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      LivingFood 7 years ago

      You are right...they are troubled inside and they feel they need to take it out on someone else. I am glad you stood up to the folks in the restaurant, and I would have loved to see their faces...

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      Scarlett My Dear 7 years ago from Missouri

      Ignorance breeds Fear, and grows comfortable with Hate.

      Fear is their weapon of choice,

      embraced by the small and the arrogant.

      Love instills confidence, empathy, kindness.

      I choose Love.

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      Lisa Smith 7 years ago from Coupeville, WA

      Thank you lisa.bom It is great to hear from you. I agree with you that these people have problems of their own and they are taking it out on the rest of us. I can only hope that others will see it for the bullying that it is and stand up for others who are being hurt by these people.

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      lisa.bom 7 years ago

      Great hub. thanks for sharing. I have seen these people you speak of and heard what they say. I think they have problems with their own lives and want to feel better about themselves. Yes it is bullying. It needs to stop. You are a beautiful person.

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