Cows Have Feelings Too
Just because I'm fat, doesn't give YOU the right to be rude!
Inevitably, some person will come up to me and utter these words, "You're Fat!" No! Really? I had no idea! I just thought this roll around my middle was an innertube left over from last summer!
Why do some people feel it is their right to tell me that I'm fat? Do they think I could possibly not know this fact? I mean, I do own a mirror. I buy my own clothes and dress myself everyday. I am the one breathing hard as I go up the stairs and climb a hill. I actually can feel my own body and I know that that roll of fat around my belly and on my ass is big and bulky!
Is it because I don't look like you that you figure it's your duty to inform me? And why is it that you only do this to FAT people? I don't see you going up to the bald guy next to me and telling him, "Hey, your bald!" Nor do I see you going up to the lady with too much facial hair and saying, "Hey you have a mustache!"
Once my aunt was visiting and made the remark, "You have such a pretty face, you just need to lose weight." How many times have I heard that one? I proceeded to ask her why she thought it was okay to say something like that. She thought it was a compliment. I'm sure she meant well. So, I asked her what she would say if I was a "normal" weight but was butt ugly. Would she tell me i have such a beautiful body that I should have cosmetic surgery on my face? Once she thought about it, she understood where I was coming from.
I've heard people make comments when I'm out at a restaurant and order dessert. A couple with their children were at the next table and the mother was loudly telling her children the perils of overeating and being fat. "She certainly doesn't need to eat that! No wonder her ass is so big! You see kids, that's why I don't let you eat desserts and junk all the time. That woman obviously can't control herself!" I ate my dessert and when I got ready to leave I stopped by their table and made this comment: "You are soooo right. Being able to control what you put into your mouth is important. But, far more important is being able to control what comes out of your mouth."
Is it Bullying or Just Rude Behavior?
When did it become okay for people to be rude? Why are we tolerant of such behavior? It's the same thing as being bullied in high school. It wasn't okay then, and it's not okay now!
What is bullying?
Bullying is a form of aggressive and harrassing behavior. This antisocial behavior occurs across geographical, racial and socioeconomic segments of society. Bullying prevents its targets from enjoying a safe, stress-free living, learning and working environment.
Who is a bully?
A bully is someone who is mean and attacks other people with words or actions. They use teasing, threats or strength to pick on, frighten, or hurt someone or take what they want. It can be a fellow student, co-worker, neighbor, relative, or a complete stranger.
How can you stop bullying?
Stop being a bystander. Bystanders hold the balance of power in their hands. A bully wants the victim to feel alone and afraid. But, if you as the bystander will speak up and say something to the bully, you throw the bully for a loop! Now the victim doesn't feel alone, and the bully is trying to figure out what is happening.
I am not one to stand by and allow myself or others to be bullied. If I see someone being bullied, I will open my big mouth. Do I stand the chance of being bullied myself then, by calling attention to myself? Well, of course I do. But, if we stand together and stop letting people push us around and put us down, then we will make the world a better place for everyone.
No one has the right to make you feel bad for the way you look, act or feel! It is not okay for someone to say rude things or make rude gestures to you! Be proud of who you are! BECAUSE BABY YOU ARE SOMETHING ELSE!
If you are a bully...stop and think about what it is that is really bothering you. You can't possibly be that upset about my ass being fat. It has to be something else inside you. Maybe you were bullied yourself as a child. I don't know. But, look around you...everyone is different. We were all made as unique individuals. No one is better than the other. And that includes YOU!
If you witness a person being bullied...OPEN YOUR MOUTH AND SAY SOMETHING! You may just save someone's sense of self-worth, spirit, or life!
I feel beautiful today! How about you?
Do you think a Bully can change?
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