Dealing with losing a parent in death.
What Now ?
"Time and unforeseen occurrences befall us all" (New world translation of the Holy scriptures).
Death comes in many forms but quite often it comes unexpectedly. Survivors of the death of a loved one are left with mixed emotions and questions.Many do not know what are the next steps to take.A child who has lost a parent in death is left with decisions and the reality of no longer having parental guidance.What to Do?
For Children and teens your situation is not hopeless,their is a way.Will you face Challenges? Most certainly,but there a ways in coping with such circumstances.
A battlefield of emotions
For Adolescents & Teens it will be the hardest battle in your life to take control of your emotions."The brain continues to change throughout life, but there are huge leaps in development during adolescence," (Sara Johnson-Johns Hopkins University professor, 2009).As an adolescent your emotions are already on a roller coaster because the body is developing and going through significant changes.Such changes involve mood swings and mixed emotions which can impair decision making.On top of that dealing with the death of a parent can really be a burden.
The best way to cope with such difficulty is to "TALK".Speak to a mature friend or family member about how you are feeling.Express your thoughts in detail,and don't be afraid to cry. In fact a study was shown that “Suppressing tears increases stress levels, and contributes to diseases aggravated by stress, such as high blood pressure, heart problems, and peptic ulcers.”(PBS.org).So by all means cry your heart out !!!
By talking to a close relative or a confident you can better reason on the decisions you make in life. That is why it is beneficial to establish a support group of people who you can talk to.Make an actual list on a sheet of paper of friends or family members with their contact information.Doing this will help in avoiding isolation and making decisions based upon emotions.
Yes the road ahead will be a challenge but not impossible. " Stop worrying about the next day for each day will have its own anxiety"(New world translation of the holy scriptures).Take one day at a time and don't worry yourself about tomorrow.Develop a support group,express your emotions in detail,if needed seek medical attention for your anxiety.Their are ways in dealing with losing a parent in death,so seek help and know that you are loved.