- Death & Loss of Life
Dear Dear Lord, Why?
I write tonight with a heavy heart. I grew up in Navarre MN. I went to high school at Mound Westonka High. This week alone, my little town of mound has lost three mound friends. I wanted to write to help me heal my newly woven wounds. I feel so much better when I talk or write down my feelings, and that is why I so love hub pages.
I lost an old friend, Tony Shanley this week. He died of a massive heart attack. He is only 48 years old. He leaves his kids and wife and all of my city of Mound that loved him. Tony was always smiling and loved his sports. He used to date one of my best friends in high school. Her name is Kim. Kim later married a wonderful man name Joe. Joe and Kim had a girl Molly. In fact, my twin sister Linda and I sang for their wedding which was such an honor. Sometimes life is so confusing and scary.
This week I learned that Kim's daughter Molly had died. My heart felt like it was going to burst. Molly is only twenty three years old. The even tougher piece of this ungodly news is that Molly had just gotten a dwi and then took her own life. As I write this, I still do not know any details, but my heart is so heavy. I will be attending her funeral this Sunday. I feel scared because what does one say to a parent who has lost their child? I do not think any words are appropriate. The bond between mother and daughter and father and daughter is so delicate.
I feel sad all the way around, but what I cannot fathom is how tough it is and must be for parents to lose their children. They joined a group they would never want to join. The fact that Molly committed suicide makes the grief even worse.
Suicide is the second leading cause of death among people between ages 14 and 25 in the U.S. The number is most disturbing. We need to educate our youth that suicide is permanent and lasts forever. Every 100 minutes, a teen will have killed themselves. The statistics come from the recent survey of college and high school students by the CDC.
27% of high school students had thought seriously about killing themselves in this past year. 80% of high school students said they had tried to kill themselves. 10% of college students admitted serious thoughts of committing suicide and 7 % had a plan.
1 in 10 teens ages 14-25 suffer depression. Many parents excuse depressive symptoms from their teens by thinking it is the normal ups and downs of life. Female teens attempt to kill themselves twice as often as male teens.
WARNING SIGNS OF DEPRESSION THAT CAN LEAD TO SUICIDE
- Inability to feel pleasure
- Withdrawl from friends and family
- Excessive Chemical Abuse
I feel so numb and I really cannot stop thinking about how they will deal with such a tragic loss. Lets all help in the fight against suicide among the youth. Please pray with me for this family and all the friends that this sad death is affecting.
© Laura Rogers Arne