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Discovering the Real Happiness

Updated on September 30, 2015

Where can I get the real happiness? That is the question that many people ask themselves and get no real answer. The poor believe that happiness is in riches and the riches look for real happiness from their money. Money can only give you fun. Fun is not happiness. Infact, my teacher used to caution me. He used to tell me that the word fun is a short form of funeral reason being that it does not last for long. In this article, I have identified and explained the only true ways that will bring happiness in your life.

Discovering happiness


Never hold a grudge


Never hold grudge

The main problem with people is that they still angry about someone or something that did not gothe way they wanted. You made a mistake in the morning and you are angry at yourself. You have kidnapped your emotions. Anger is controlling you. Someone wronged you several months back, you are still holding this in your heart. The bad thing about holding a grudge against a person is that that person may have already moved on from the situation but you are still feeling the pain. You are a slave my friend. Forget and move on. This way the pain will just disappear and you will discover the true happiness.Learn how to forgive; fighting, hating or begrudging someone will not bring the real satisfaction. It may even add more and more trouble. It is like adding salt to an injury.

2. Be genuine and trustworthy

I understand that every person wants the very best from whatever he or she is doing. That is the true human nature. Use the right means to get that thing that you need. Corruption corrupts your mind. It is like when a Trojan horse or a virus accesses the files in your computer. It ruins everything. It may even force to format your computer. But for human beings this is not possible. It means that you have to carry the tag. The burden is all yours. When you get implicated in one case of corruption or dishonesty, your personal image is destroyed from that instant. Your every move will look suspicious. You can never get the full peace of mind. As long as your mind is in the right state, you can always get what you want through the genuine ways. Be satisfied with the little you are getting but work to get what you want.

3. Be helpful and generous

A happy heart is a giving heart. You discover the real happiness by changing the lives of other people.The word helping does not always mean using your money as some people do understand. You can morally support a person with a broken heart. You can offer some free services to the children’s home near your home. Seeing others succeed or get the very best will make you happy. Helping a poor man get a solution to nagging problem. A giving heart is a cheerful heart. You will receive a bigger reward when you give than when you receive. Giving will open for you new opportunities.

Learn to trust others


4. Learn to trust and appreciate others

The world is not all about yourself. What would happen if you find yourself alone in the your estate leave alone a state or country?. You can never survive. You need your neighbours. They play an important role in your well being and success. You therefore have to find a good way of living with them. Trust them if you expect to be trusted. You can never do all the work in your office or your company. You have to get assistance from others. Trust them with some of your work, your money, your car. Do not be the kind of a person who thinks that he or she can be everywhere all the time. It is impossible. Appreciate the good work or effort. It will help your heart get the true satisfaction.

5. Be positive

There are some people who always want to see the negative side of things. They see poor work from others. They sometimes criticize themselves negatively. Criticism even at personal level is good as it helps you identify the areas which you can work on but, excessive personal criticism will only add pressure and low self esteem in your life. See the positive side of yourself. You can get that best position, You can be what you have always wanted to be as long as you put the right effort. If you are a manager, your position does not mean that you always criticize your workers negatively. There are so many positive things about them. Identify them, mention them and live a happy life.

Express your emotions


6. Do not hide your emotions

A good number of people live a fake life. Externally they are this way but things are totally different in their inside. If you are not happy or not satisfied about something, let your opinion be heard. Do not just hide that pain in your heart. Share whatever that is ibn your heart with others. Do not carry the burden of the bad feelings about others. If you hide the true feelings, they may never understand what is in your heart. It will relieve the pain in your heart even if that person does not understand you.

Have confidence

Yes, you can
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7. Be proud of yourself

You are fearfully and wonderfully made. There is no exact replica of yourself in this world. You have some unique abilities. You are not a failure. It is only a matter of time before you get what you have always wanted if you are working towards that. Treat yourself nicely. Never abuse any part of your body because it is your greatest asset.


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      Nancy Yager 2 years ago from Hamburg, New York

      I once held a grudge for 20 years. I had totally moved on to a better place and situation and then one day I realized that this grudge was hurting only me and not the other person. What wasted energy!

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      Vladimir Karas 2 years ago from Canada

      Happiness, like love cannot be defined by listing all that it does in our life. It's that divine and mysterious source in us, an expression of our true self that shines through the clouds of ego.

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      peachy 2 years ago from Home Sweet Home

      if you live your life like a kid, alays happy never hold grudges, you will live 100 years old