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Updated on November 10, 2011

Do you need STRESS RELIEF?

Are you stressed? Is there something weighing on your mind? Is there some inner conflict? Is there something happening in your life and you don’t know how things will work out? You are not alone! At some point in time everyone experiences a certain degree of stress. Feelings actually lets you know that you are still here! A small amount of stress is actually healthy. It keeps you on your toes and motivates you to shift. Do you need stress relief?

Life today can be quite complex at times. There are many pressures on varying diverse levels, more so at times for some. You can actually worry yourself sick. To name a few stress affects your happiness, brings on acne, hair loss, weight gain, weight loss, high blood pressure, panic attacks, anxiety, impacts your sex drive as well as hampers your infertility. If you are experiencing a significant amount of stress don’t wait until you are completely over whelmed to find some relief. Conflict and stress are a normal part of life. If your patience is getting close to nil know; you are reaching your limit. Don’t wait until you explode and get really angry to express yourself. This will only further complicate the situation. While angry and out of control you say and do things that can be destructive. Begin to shift.

Stress is defined as; “Forces from the outside world impinging on the individual. Stress is a normal part of life that can help us learn and grow. Conversely, stress can cause us significant problems.

Stress releases powerful neurochemicals and hormones that prepare us for action (to fight or flee). If we don't take action, the stress response can lead to health problems. Prolonged, uninterrupted, unexpected, and unmanageable stresses are the most damaging types of stress.” medicine

When you are stressed it becomes difficult to respond properly. Many often become verbally or emotionally abusive. For some they respond physically, in an inappropriate manner when they lack proper coping skills. When stressed you can become tense, it may be harder to concentrate, you may even get a headache or your heart begins to race. This is a clear indication that YOU NEED to shift. Here is something that will help you. Imagine a cup of ice cubes being slowly yet gently poured over your head. Allow yourself to feel the coolness of the ice gently melting over you. Begin to Allow your anger to subside. Please! Think before you respond!







When the pressures of life begin to get to you it is important that you get a grip on your emotions. No, I am not saying go into denial! How you feel is important. Your feelings need to be validated. Depression will result if you don’t. Depression is anger turned inside! When it gets to this point you may need professional help! Seek out resources for anger management if you have “out of control behavior.” Quite often you have learned some unhealthy dynamics that need to be changed. It may be hard for you to just say how you are feeling without being so angry. Your anger is a clear indication that you are also hurting. This will often result in something or someone triggering your anger and setting you “off.” If this is the case know that you are being controlled by remote. Learn how to stay “on” track!

Here are a few ways to relieve stress.

If you are stressed? It is important to begin to spend some quiet time to unwind. Writing a letter to anyone who has hurt you is good. Express exactly how you feel. This is for your eyes only. Then tear it up and throw it away! You can also get an empty chair; imagine that the person is sitting there, and say to whomever has hurt you how you feel. Take control and release any anger, hurt, shame or disapointment! You are now beginning to take out the trash that has begun to weigh you down. Listen to some relaxing music, exercising, or just taking a walk helps. You now have decided to no longer let what has happened to sit on the shelf of your mind and ferment! You are now beginning to move towards letting it go. This also helps you move towards wholeness.

If your family is stressed? Set aside some quiet time aside from the television or any outside distractions and have a family “pow wow.” Allow those concerned to briefly talk about how they are feeling. Then have them talk about how things can be improved. It is helpful to have one of the children to moderate' you will be surprised. Your objective is to create a healthy, loving, open, nurturing, safe environment!

Is your marriage stressed? You need to set aside some quiet time where the two of you can calmly discuss what are the issues at hand. Rekindle that love that brought the two of you together! Restore the JOY of just being together. When two together row a boat it gets to the desired destination faster. Having a weekly date night is great as well! Remember you cannot change what has happened. But you can decide to go forward. Yes, you will probably have to revisit where you have been. But this is to remind you of where you do not want to stay or continue to go.

Is your job stressing you out? You need to make an appointment to talk to your supervisor, boss, employees or co workers and let them know how you are feeling. Make sure you are not angry when you do this. Find a neutral spot if possible. Writing down what you want to say will help you stay focused. If you feel that you may lose your thoughts or say something inappropriate reschedule. Graciously delay it until you are ready. The point is you want to take control not loose it. If they are not willing; it just may be better to begin looking for employment somewhere else. If you don’t at some point your health will become affected working continuously under such poor conditions. Please wait until you find another suitable position before you give them notice you are planning on leaving Remember life is important and you do not want to spend the majority of the time stressed... Take some time and think things over this may also be the very place that you must learn how to better deal with stress. It is always possible your boss and co workers may possibly learn to respect you...

Incorporating prayer and meditating on the scriptures will yield much peace in your life. Actively implementing the principles are key to resolving inner conflict and stress. The scriptures where meant to point us to a better way of life. To develop a personal relationship with God our Creator. God has provided a wonderful plan of salvation for all who are willing to accept Jesus Christ as their personal Savior. Jesus is able to save you from the power of sin reigning in your life! Jesus came to show us that better Way! To help you discover your true purpose in life!

Stress again is a normal part of life. Taking the time to communicate your feelings in a healthy manner means you care. Redemptively confronting what ever the problem is or however you are feeling is always much better for you and those around you. Everyone has a not so good day from time to time. Don’t major in the minors! Just make sure that stress has not become the theme for your everyday lifestyle. Life is too short and precious to spend the majority of your time stressed! It is important to begin to work towards having a healthier balance in life. Begin moving towards creating a warm, more peaceful, safe and loving environment! Learning coping skills and ways to manage stress will also result in a healthier outlook as well as becoming healthier spiritually, physically and emotionally.


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    • DeBorrah K. Ogans profile image

      DeBorrah K Ogans 7 years ago

      Stars, Great! You are so welcome! I hope this is helpful! Thank you for stopping by to share! In HIS Love, Peace & Blessings!

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      stars439 7 years ago from Louisiana, The Magnolia and Pelican State.

      Thank you for the wonderful advice. Stress is a very unpleasant condition to have. God Bless You Dear Heart.

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      DeBorrah K Ogans 8 years ago

      Waren E

      Thank you for taking the time to stop by...

      Again Thank You!


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      Waren E 8 years ago from HAS LEFT THE BUILDING............

      Nice advice there DeBorrah K. Ogans ,It was good read,

      God Bless!

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      DeBorrah K Ogans 8 years ago

      Dolores Monet,

      Thank you and I am glad that you found this helpful!

      Your suggestion of a Day of Rest is great as well


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      DeBorrah K Ogans 8 years ago

      Jessica Horn,

      You are so right! Thank you for visiting


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      Dolores Monet 8 years ago from East Coast, United States

      Very nice, well thought out article with lots of tips for fighting stress.

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      DeBorrah K Ogans 8 years ago

      Kimberly Bunch,

      Thank you and I am so glad this was helpful! Feelings are important and need to be validated. You can't take words back... Tearing the letter up and Throwing it away puts you in control and helps you to release tension. You are right about sending the letter.

      Thank you for visiting!


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      Jessica Horn 8 years ago

      Stress has been running my life & sometimes I just need to sit back, relax & enjoy the ride. Thanks for the reminder!

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      Kimberly Bunch 8 years ago from EAST WENATCHEE

      This is a great Hub and just the one that can help many. You mention one needs 'Proper Coping Skills' and also you give tips which are very helpful. I also like that you said to tear up the letter. The big mistake is when people send those letters! Great Job!

    • DeBorrah K. Ogans profile image

      DeBorrah K Ogans 8 years ago


      Thank you for sharing and your encouraging words. I am enjoying your wonderful hubs as well. It is so very important with so much going on in life, that we seek healthy creative ways to improve and live, richer, happier fuller lives! Thank You for visiting!


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      DeBorrah K Ogans 8 years ago

      Sarah m Marie,

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts and kind words. I agree we need to "put more time in rejuvinating our lives..." Thank you for visiting.


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      Maria Cristina Aquino Santander 8 years ago from Manila

      This is indeed a great article on stress. You emphasized helpful tips that should be considered by every person in the world in order to live a better and happier life. Thank you for sharing this article on Hubpages.

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      Sarah m Marie 8 years ago

      Wonderful words of wisdom. We all need to put more time into rejuvinating our lives rather than just depleting them. Thank you!

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      DeBorrah K Ogans 8 years ago


      Know that the Lord is with you and He Loves you! When it seems like the load is getting too heavy take a few moments, pause, and focus on something that reminds you of God's presence with you. It can be as simple as taking a deep breath, observing a flower or looking up to the sky. Then just give Him some PRAISE!

      Rememmber His promises "COME to Me all you who LABOR and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you WILL find rest for your souls. For MY yoke is EASY and My burdens light."

      May the Lord continue to Bless and Keep you!

      Thank you for taking the time to stop by. You are always welcome!


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      Betty Bolden 8 years ago from Bucyrus Ohio

      thank you for this, i stay stressful with all that is going on in my family and my life.

    • DeBorrah K. Ogans profile image

      DeBorrah K Ogans 8 years ago


      You are welcome! I am glad that this hub was helpful! No doubt these are some interesting economic times. I am sure you needed that payment yesterday or two weeks ago. Evidently your fleet manager is stressed as well by his choice words. He triggered a response in you. You can not change what has been said so don't camp here too long.

      The good thing is you are aware of how you feel and how others make you feel. That is a good thing. Each time is an opportunity to respond differently...

      When you think about it you have done all you know to do. Those who are expecting monies from you tell them you will when you can... In the meantime continue to find healthy ways to relieve your stress. Like pouring those ice cubes slowly over your head (L0L)

      This is not to make light of your situation it is to help you use this time while you are waiting to not let your emotions take you were you don't want to go.


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      Ireno Alcala 8 years ago from Bicol, Philippines

      Thanks, DeBorrah for this relaxing article. You see,I am in a stressful condition nowadays,because I realy need my leave payment from my maritime agency. It's been two weeks now since I signed off from my recent commercial vessel. When I emailed the main office of my agency, the fleet manager called me and said cuss words that I can't take. My emotiond welled up and I answered back matching his stern voice. (Sighs) Good thing I read your article. Salamat (Thank you in Filipino language).

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      DeBorrah K Ogans 8 years ago


      Welcome to Hubpages!

      I am touched by your honesty. It is wonderful wanting to help others! It is amazing how God works when we do what comes naturally.

      It is quite understandable that you are feeling moody at times. I can only imagine; I believe you when you say that having a brain tumor is stressful. Make sure you let your doctor know how you are feeling as well.

      I pray that everyday you find someone or something that continues to keep you encouraged! Make sure you find things you are able to do that are enjoyable! Continue to seek healthy ways to release any stress that you are aware of and be patient with yourself. As you continue to reach out I pray that the Lord touches you and that you feel His presence comfort and love with you. God is able!

      Thank you for sharing and you are welcome at any time


      I believe

    • DeBorrah K. Ogans profile image

      DeBorrah K Ogans 8 years ago


      Thank you and I am glad. Let me know if it helps?


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      Tracy711 8 years ago

      Hi, I'm a newbie and I actually started doing hub pages to try and help people out however I could but I noticed in doing so it also has been helping me. You see I have alot of health issues do to a brain tumor and one of the things is I have to take steroids and they make me moody and inpatient. That is not my personality but that's how they make me react. So this causes me stress, just the fact that I take steroids causes me stress, so i wanted to thank you for this article it really helped me. I look forward to readiing more of your hubs.

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      Traemae 8 years ago from boston area

      great article It will keep me thinking before I react

    • DeBorrah K. Ogans profile image

      DeBorrah K Ogans 8 years ago

      James A Watkins,

      Thank you for coming. Your encouraging words are most appreciated!

      Everyone one has a different temperament. It is important to be in tuned to what works best for you personally to alleviate any stress. Life is so very precious and at times fragile. Even when you try your best things still happen that are beyond your control... At times it can become overwhelming. It is during those times we must lean to the Lord. May the Peace of God rest on you and be with you.


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      James A Watkins 8 years ago from Chicago

      This is an outstanding and needful article. Stress is a killer. I find vigorous exercise really helps because, as you say, stress releases certain chemicals—fight or flight response—that confuse us if they have no release. I enjoyed your work here and your writing is excellent.

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      DeBorrah K Ogans 8 years ago

      Lady E,

      Thank you for visiting and I am glad that you have been encouraged.

      I think the picture will make a great screensaver so Enjoy!


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      Elena 8 years ago from London, UK

      This is a Hub one needs to refer to from time to time. The number of people having heart problems is rising and most of it is down to Stress. Thanks for your encouraging Hub. :)

      Ps. that pic is gorgeous, I will copy it and use it as a screensaver. Just looking at it is calming.

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      DeBorrah K Ogans 8 years ago


      Thank you for your kind words.



      You are so right having ways to relieve stress can be helpful!


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      DeBorrah K Ogans 8 years ago


      You are so right it is easier said than done. By becoming conscious of it rather than ignoring it or pushing it to the back of your mind is much healthier.

      Thank you I am glad that this will be somewhat helpful.


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      DeBorrah K Ogans 8 years ago


      Thank you and feel free to make and add any comments. You never know who it might help or encourage as well. You are always welcomed.


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      bengriston 8 years ago

      Stress can be tough sometimes and having a sure way to relief it is a nice outlet to have.

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      zyfwm 8 years ago

      Regulation a good mood, smiling face of all the people and things around you

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      annb106 8 years ago

      Stress is something that the most of us deal with. They say don't worry about things that you can't change but as we all know that is easier said than done. We all know that if we don't try and conquer it (stress) it will surely conquer us. This is a great article to help with it.


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      Alfreta Sailor 8 years ago from Southern California

      This is such a good hub, that I am going to bookmark it. I have so many remarks about what you said, however I won't make them, because you've done such a good job. However I would like to say that the tips that you began with about how relieve stress, the part about writing a letter to someone and tearing it up is something I use to practice on a regular basis, when I was younger. That way I kept a relationship with them, and most times they never knew anything about it. Oops, I said that I wasn't going to rewrite your article. Again, very good.

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      DeBorrah K Ogans 8 years ago


      Thank you for your comments!

      You are so right "STRESS is real!" I know too many that are going through. I have seen it take so many under. This is why its important to look out for the warning signs.

      I can not imagine Life without the Lord! I too am eternally grateful to know that He is a "very present help in time of trouble."


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      DeBorrah K Ogans 8 years ago


      Thank you for your kind words.


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      DeBorrah K Ogans 8 years ago

      Bk Creative,

      A few deep breaths, and a little laughter is good. You are utilizing healthier ways to cope with the stress rather than ignore it.


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      Robert E Smith 8 years ago from Rochester, New York

      Stress is very real as it presses down on a person. I really don't know how people hold up without the Lord and in fact many times they don't but just crack up. I am so thankful that the Lord is a "very present help in time of trouble." Blessings.

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      benny Faye Douglass 8 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thanks for the hub on relieving satress we all to do that sometimes. great hub. creativeone59

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      BkCreative 8 years ago from Brooklyn, New York City

      I felt a bit stressed - because I have a bill to pay - but then I said 'why aggravate myself and fall apart' - I'll hustle up the money and go on to something else. Stupid bill!

      Thanks for this reminder to chill out! A few deep breaths, a little laughter, some fun people - it's all good!

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      DeBorrah K Ogans 8 years ago

      The voice,

      Thank you for stopping by.


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      DeBorrah K Ogans 8 years ago


      Thank you for responding so quickly. I think acronyms are a great way to help us remember! I am glad you find this helpful!

      You are so right STRESS "in unmanageable doses" is not good, nor is it healthy!


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      thevoice 8 years ago from carthage ill

      Great powerful article mike

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      Barbara 8 years ago from Stepping past clutter

      Thanks for the acronym! I find it helpful. Stress is listed as a reason many come down with viruses like H1N1, so yes, while we need stress to move forward, we don't need it in unmanageable doses. Thanks for suggestions on ways to cut down.


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