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Forgiveness Heals - Young Man Forgives Criminals
"When a deep injury is done to us, we never recover until we forgive" says Alan Patton, a South African writer. Forgiving a person releases a burden to allow peace and to heal mind and body, following a transgression or crime. Why forgive?, If we do not forgive, the hurt remains in your mind and eats at you until sometimes it becomes so magnified that it is far from the original misdeed. You will learn about barriers to forgiveness, a story about a man who forgave criminals who killed family members, forgiveness in friendships, and the release that forgiveness allows you in cleansing your spirit.
Barriers to Forgiveness
The ability to forgive varies, depending on your own self-esteem, personality, and degree of the transgression. Forgiving ones self must happen before a person can forgive another. Forgiveness for a crime may be the most difficult for anyone to forgive. A person who lacks a support group may never find a reason to forgive, as that person has no place to express feelings. The victim may dwell on the transgression and never think about forgiveness. A person surrounded by others can bounce the situation off these people and may forgive and move on, unless it is a serious transgression., A highly sensitive person may have the perception of a misdeed when, in reality, none exists. The individual who does not forgive may suffer in body and mind with feelings of anger, depression, panic attacks, and physical illness. The person who is so involved in hurt, often destroys his own life, never realizing the achievement he could attain through freedom from pain. It takes courage to forgive someone, and then freedom reigns.The following examples show the power of forgiveness.
Man Forgives a Criminal
A young man in Oklahoma City forgave the criminal who murdered his wife after the criminal wrote to apologize for his drug-induced crime. He later presented a speech about the freedom it gave him to move on with his life and remarry. Forgiveness does not mean that he or anyone else condones what a person has done. In a huge catastrophe, it would be difficult to condone misdeeds.
Another Crime Forgiveness
Young Man Forgives Criminals Who Killed His Parents
A young man finally forgave the criminals who killed his parents. The crime was horrendous and of such a nature that it would be very difficult to forgive the perpetrators. However, this man suffered severely, his life, his marriage; other relationships crumbled so that his life took a path of ruination. Many years later, he decided to forgive, so he could heal and get his life back. He did heal, turning away from the bitterness and hatred, and with passage of time, landed on his feet. Imagine a windstorm swirling him around without allowing him to land. When he tried to land, he could never reach the ground until forgiveness was within his grasp. Forgiving does not mean forgetting, but the memory eventually may creep from the deepest part of thinking into an area where a glimmer of light prevails.
Stock Market Catastrophies
The stock market and mortgage industry catastrophes in 2008 brought pain and financial ruin to millions of people, and thousands of people postponed retirement. Peace of mind disappeared, and the masses leaned on other for support and comfort. Criminal behavior sent people to jail, stress consumed society and suicide became widespread. The minds of the victims became overloaded due to the severity of these misdeeds, along with any additional burdens in their personal lives. At the time, the future looked bleak. Can recovery, freedom, and forgiveness actually happen with such a breakdown in society?
Forgiveness and Freedom
Forgiveness and freedom are possible in all circumstances. It may take a long time, as people cautiously move on from catastrophes, taking time to excuse others for faults. Mankind is resilient , a fact that brings hope that suffering can decrease over time in our society, and victims of misdeeds can more quickly find a light in the darkness to release them from their chains, bring them love, the ability to forgive others, and finally, freedom from pain.
Friendships and Forgiveness.
The end of a friendship for one reason or another could be another situation that might require forgiveness. Some friendships last for a little while, and other friendships last for a lifetime. The reason friendships end is often never known. Individuals may be devastated by the occurrence, and only the passage of time can help the situation. The lifetime friendship is a cherished relationship, and the friendship that ends can be appreciated for the time it lasted. Once again, the person may need to forgive and heal the body and mind to avoid the trap of anger, bitterness, and physical illness.
Dr Gerald Jampolsky, author and psychiatrist, was a member of a panel discussion on MedicineNet.com where he spoke of asking yourself what the value is of not forgiving and the importance of taking responsibility for your own happiness.. Not forgiving is like putting yourself in prison. In the meantime, the offender may may go on with his life, never thinking of the event, while the victim remains prisoner of the transgression. Is it worth it? Everyone must make a choice, and the choices are happiness or being swirled in a windstorm, never reaching the ground. Alan Patton says we never recover until we forgive. Love. at some point, enters the picture. Finally. the windstorm stops and forgiveness heals mind and body.
Poll About Forgiveness
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Forgiveness Video with Vivid Photography
- Forgiveness -- the Greatest Healer - MedicineNet - Health and Medical Information Produced by Doctor
Best-selling author and psychiatrist Gerald Jampolsky, MD, will discuss forgiveness, a healing process that holds the key to health and well-being.
- Forgiveness: Letting go of grudges and bitterness - MayoClinic.com
Forgiveness and letting go can lead you down the path of healing and peace.