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Drug Addiction And Failure To Launch

Updated on December 11, 2013

What Is Failure To Launch?

There are many reasons that a young person will stay in their parent's home way too long or return to their parent's home after trying to be independent.

The process of a young person not leaving home is termed 'failure to launch', and while there are many reasons for young people who are not addicted to drugs to stay at home, drug addiction and failure to launch go hand-in-hand.

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Drug Addiction And Failure To Launch

It can be very hard for young people to get out and gain their independence. Even if they are making some money, it can be hard to support themselves, pay rent, and still have some money left over. When that person is a drug addict, this becomes even truer.

Keeping A Job Can Be Impossible

Most drug addicted people cannot keep a job. Whether they show up to work, or don't show up at all, it is very hard to keep a job in a drug addicted state of mind.

Even if they do have a job, most of their money is going towards drugs, and the ability to keep a home or provide basic needs without their parent's help is very slim. At home they get food, comfort, TV, Internet, and every other luxury they could want, including their drugs.

A New Generation?

Another reason is that young people feel entitled to live in their parent's home. Many people in generation Y feels they are owed a lot without a lot of effort put forth.

When you add drugs into that mix, that perception can turn into a victim mentality and make them feel as though everyone owes them something because of their state of mind, which keeps them at home where their parents can feed into that mentality.

A Sense Of Hopelessness

Also, many young people feel as though there is no point in trying. Their goals and dreams seem so far away in today's world where work and effort is essential. The last thing a drug addict wants to do is put effort into anything besides his drugs. That can make goals and dreams seem far away, and the desire to pursue his own life disappears completely.

Just Don't Have The Ability To Be Independent

Lastly, young people who are addicted to drugs do not have the qualities of the person who can afford to live on their own and take care of themselves. For instance, financially successful people avoid debt, whereas a drug addict will quickly get into debt. A financially successful person will also create budgets and stick to them. A drug addict couldn't stick to a budget if he tried because his need for the drug dictates how much money he's going to spend.

Sometimes Failure To Launch Is A Good Thing - But Not In A Drug Addict

For some parents, having their kid stay at home is a good thing. He or she can help pay bills, look after the home, and be responsible for other household responsibilities. This not only increases the household income, but it reduces stress on the entire family, which contributes positively to the environment.

The exact opposite is true when a drug addict does not leave the home. He or she is a drain on the household income, contributes nothing to the household responsibilities, and can't be trusted to look after anything including pets, children or even plants.

How To Solve The Issue

While having a kid on drugs at home will ease some worry and stress on where he or she is and what he or she is doing, eventually the addict is going to need long-term addiction treatment in order to experience a more fulfilling life. It is not fair to the parents to have a kid with a drug addiction problem who they have to continuously provide for financially and mentally.

Both the parents and the kid need to go to counseling or addiction treatment in order to understand why the young person is addicted, what can be done about it, and whether or not he or she actually is better off living on his own.

Practical Advice For Family And Parents

The bottom line is that it is always better to do something about the situation rather than waiting for the young person to stop doing drugs or decide to move out of their own.

Avoidance of the situation only encourages the addiction and the negative atmosphere.


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      Cyndi 3 years ago

      After treatment we found a great halfway house. We put up host first months rent a food An easy grand. After that his weekly rent is 160 plus food. They have nice clean apartments with about 6 men to the apartments. They help them find work, manage money and stay clean. Drug testing is mandatory as well as meetings. At first I thought it was too much then I realized I spending that much on him here plus he would steal. It's our last hope. So 28 days of treatment, it's out of state so new friends. It's in the lords hands now

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      srsddn 4 years ago from Dehra Dun, India

      relationshipc, I agree with you that some intervention is required otherwise the problem may not be solved or may even worsen. Avoidance does not help anyone. Very nicely constructed Hub. Thanks for sharing. Voted up. Useful.

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      Kari 4 years ago from Alberta, Canada

      Thanks for sharing Denise.

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      Denise W Anderson 4 years ago from Bismarck, North Dakota

      Although our family issues of failure to launch have not been due to drug addiction, the same problems are surfacing: i.e., difficulty making decisions, job insecurity, financial difficulty, and hopelessness. It is like being in limbo, waiting for the sun to come out! We are working through it, but there is no easy fix, and it takes a lot of time and patience.