Are your looks acceptable?
Ugly or Unacceptable to America?
“Of course I’ve had an ugly period,” the singer revealed to Glamour magazine. “When I was around 10 or 11, my mother gave me this really ugly haircut and I was really, really chubby. So chubby that my family used to all lay me down flat so they could zip up my jeans. It took four of them and I would lie there on the bed while they all got to it.” - Xfinity Entertainment Staff
Does Chubby or bad hair really mean you're ugly? I can remember being in fourth grade and at the JC Penney’s salon. I was so excited my mom was finally going to let me get my first professionally cut bang. I was no longer going to be a member of the big bang gang. (Yes I had to suffer through the Mommy cut since I was five.)
So I was so glad when the scissors went snip, snip. They finished my mom and myself hair what seems to be simultaneously and when I saw her bang, I laughed so hard it was big and lopsided. Then, I turned around and looked in the mirror and saw my equally gigantic lopsided bang. I wanted to scream, but there was the proud stylist, apparently we were Guinea pigs!
I walked away, for that brief moment in time, I felt, not ugly, but ridiculous! I thought I looked like some type of side show attraction. Not only had she made me, a card carrying member of the big bang gang, due to my new BANG, I was leading the crowd. I wanted my bang removed immediately, but since it was attached to my head, so it got to stay.
So, I pondered the issue of beauty as it relates to body image issues and got some interesting statistics. First, are men or women more likely in 2012 to have body image issues? Simple answer right, not so much men are more likely to have body image issues by 5% more than women. These are the stats from an article. So I wonder have we nit picked as a society so much about the importance of being presentable that we have presented an image that is unrealistic?
Have we set our men/women up to fail, by setting unattainable goals? Do we find ourselves so caught up in the television male model that we feel our own husband/boyfriend/ significant other is no longer acceptable? Does that affect how we treat him or interact with him on an intimate level day to day? Check out how he and his friends may be feeling.
The article states, "Some three in five men (58.6%) said body talk affected them, usually negatively. Some 12% said they would trade a year of life if they could have their ideal body weight and shape, 15.2% would give up two to five years, 5.3% would forego six to 10 years and 5.3% would sacrifice a decade or more.
Some 4% said they had made themselves sick to control their weight, while 3.4% reported using laxatives for the same purpose. Almost a third (31.9%) had "exercised in a driven or compulsive way" in pursuit of that goal, although that might have been partly due to 52% of the respondents being gym members, when the average is 12%."
Who's to blame? Apparently, they blame the media for their presentation of the distorted and unrealistic portrayal of men. I can understand their argument, however, we the people have the power to change societal expectations or the norms on the perception of the man. There was a time when the only thing women cared about was the man's ability to take care of his family and home. We cared more about being happy and taken care of.
Now things have changed in that beauty is becoming more prominent via the reality shows and the popularity of the plastic surgeon. I saw a man on one of TLC's documentaries and he was having calf implants at the time I thought it was hilarious and he was also having other things done. I thought how extremely. Then, there was where you can spray your body to look like you have a six pack, I thought, wow, how ridiculous.
The truth is that men have feelings just as we women do, the same way we would not put up with someone attacking us for our weight, height, hips, make-up, etc, we should not make the same comments about men. I will admit I have been guilty at times of making what I perceive to be harmless jokes about moobs or beer bellies. At our last family gathering I made a joke about my cousin's beer belly, the next I saw him (I kid you not.) he had a flat stomach. I thought wow! I also said to myself I shouldn't have joked on his belly even if it was just for laughs.
In hindsight men are people just like women and should not be ripped apart to try to look like a ken doll or some unrealistic view of what a man should be. Happiness and health are more important than social acceptance. If we all looked like Barbie dolls, we would be missing so much, Barbie is enticing to kids because of her beauty and appeal, but we must not forget Barbie is much more than her looks she can become a lifelong childhood companion. She gives the child the ability to express themselves and utilize their imagination. Barbie should never become an expectation or an aspiration to be someday.
I would take the time to say to our MEN, I love you ALL, just the way you are, you look awesome