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Dysfunctional Families- Why Are Families Mean To Each Other?

Updated on October 5, 2017
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Dysfunctional Family

Hello dear readers. I hope you are having a wonderful day, and if not, I hope this article blesses you. :)

Recently I had a disappointing day. I planned a special party/barbecue for my brother who was visiting from a far away state. I wanted to see him, and wanted to make him feel special and loved, and increase the quality of our relationship.

I invited him and my other brother and my niece and her husband to come to a gathering at my place. I bought a bountiful amount of food.

My brother said he would be there and I believed him. Anyway, you may be guessing by now that he did not come and yes- that's what happened. He had a poor reason really. He just was visiting another relative and was lackadaisical and didn't plan well. But I was also hurt by my niece who was invited also. Her reasons were very odd.

My niece told me she wanted to come mainly to see my brother and that it wasn't worth it for her to come for just me- basically. She said her "social anxiety" was so bad that she needs a buffer to be around any family member, because of dysfunction I guess, but she used to be fine around me years ago - before she got married.

So, I'm guessing it had a lot to do with her husband who is not very sociable.

Anyway, it was very odd and not to mention very hurtful. I mean WOW! What a crazy family!

How Do I Cope?

I was angry no doubt. I got mad and sent a lot of angry texts. I even posted on Facebook. Maybe not nice of me, but am I supposed to hold it in? That would be unhealthy and worse.

I did get an apology from the niece and the brother but didn't feel it was sincere at the time.

I talked to my friends, I went to church and prayed, I cried, and finally I PRAYED FOR THE PEOPLE WHO HURT ME.

I am now actually listening to Daystar tv. (See

It really helps me to have faith because I KNOW God loves me most of all, and it's a tool for me and helps me forgive too.

Do You Have a Dysfunctional Family?

What kind of things does your family do that drive you crazy? I'd like to know! We can all benefit from sharing. I hope the family members I mentioned, mainly my niece will read this and somehow mend things.

I pray and hope for the improvement of my family's mental health, that they will work on themselves and STOP MAKING EXCUSES.

We need to forgive! Take it from Joyce :)


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    • schoolgirlforreal profile image

      schoolgirlforreal 2 months ago from USA


      Oh, I appreciate that very much! :)

      Yes it was very difficult. Thankfully, since then I did get to spend quality time with family- well on holidays we do, but I went to see the Tall Ships in Boston with them. But....that was very difficult. At least I try/tried as you say!!!!!

      Families!!! (rolls eyes)

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      Mona Sabalones Gonzalez 7 months ago from Philippines

      I'm sorry to hear about what happened to your attempt to bring your family together. But kudos to you, for putting yourself out there and trying. Kudos for recognizing that these family members have their own issues. This is a brave, thoughtful and meaningful article. Your heart is in the right place. Keep it there:)