Eight Smart Rules for the Game of Life
(1) Play by the rules you know.
By the time you begin to see life as a game, you have already learned some basic rules: good manners, respect, hard work, fairness, and other foundational rules of conduct. Play by these rules while you figure out the more complicated ones, established by specific industries and professions.
If you were not fortunate to learn these basic rules for the game of life, be smart and get to know them as fast as you can.
I can’t imagine a person becoming a success who doesn’t give this game of life everything he’s got.— Walter Cronkite
(2) Create your own style.
Listen to advice from experienced folk, but set your own goals and take responsibility for the way you play. Adapt the moves you learn to your own personality. Your combination of potential, posture and strength are not identical to anyone else’s. You cannot imitate anyone effectively. Besides, to be an authentic player, you must have a distinctive style.
(3) Learn more than one position.
You may be exceptional in a particular skill, but do not decide that you have to be in one particular position or role to use it. Learn to tackle life from different perspectives. Take the risk to attempt something new. If did not get the chief-cook position, build the best kitchen clean-up crew. The experience can make you aware of potentials which are hidden inside you. You may become head manager of the entire kitchen, including the cooks.
(4) Pick Your Own Team (if necessary)
Cooperation and team spirit are among the rules you will be taught; and it is smart to cooperate as best you can, for as long as you can. However, you may discover that you are on a team which tolerates cheating or other immoral acts. Don’t start a mutiny. Try to find a team where you can work with a clear conscience.
Picking your own team does not mean that you have to be the leader. It means that you choose the people with whom you want to associate and invest your time and energies; not because you are in perfect agreement with the way they do everything, but because they are principled and they respect you even when you do something differently.
(5) Celebrate every victory.
Whether the successful play was made by you or someone else, take time to celebrate it. Your enjoyment of the game is your responsibility; and celebration is one sure way to promote joy. By the way, celebration is not necessarily an all-night party; it could be just sharing the news.
Celebrating your success feeds your self-confidence; if you did it once, you can do it again. It shines a light on your future; you live in anticipation of the next successful play.
Celebrating someone else’s success increases your capability to enjoy life. When your play did not go as planned, instead of drowning in your sorrows, share the other person’s joy.
(6) Embrace every defeat.
If there is any single factor that makes for success in living, it is the ability to draw dividends from defeat. William Marston.
Nobody wins every time. Take time to grieve your loss; just do not give it more attention than it deserves. Watch the replay, if only in your mind. Figure out your blunders and come up with smart ideas on how to improve.
Eddie Hart, American Olympian (1972) once said that before you could be a good winner, you have to know how to lose. This truth could not be more valid than in the game of life.
(7) Let injuries heal.
The harder you play, the more likely you are to get injured. Don’t try to hide your injuries; you could prevent them from healing. Miguel Cabrera, the 2013 Hank Aaron Award baseball winner, tried to hide his core muscle injury and lost speed and power in his game. Eventually, he had surgery with a prognosis of six to eight weeks recovery time.
No matter how good you are at the game, you’re still human. At the end of the day, you come home to your own sadness or madness caused by physical, emotional or spiritual aches and pains. You can become weak and ineffective if you keep piling injury upon injury without taking time out to heal.
Whenever you get injured in the game of life, do the smart thing. Take a time out, heal, refresh, reset and return strong.
(8) Be your own referee.
There are many self-appointed officials in the game of life. Relatives, friends and neighbors stand on the sidelines and count your misses and fouls, eventually counting you out of the game. They do not have the right.
You cannot stop them from counting, but you can make the decision to repeat your efforts as many times as you want or until the Divine Referee takes you out of the game.
As long as you have the breath of life, keep playing in the game of life. Angels in heaven and on earth are rooting for you!
Concerning the Rules
Do you have rules for the game of life?
© 2013 Dora Weithers