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Emotional Content in Argument. Can you hear it?

Updated on July 19, 2012

Calculators and Teddy Bears - A Poem perhaps


Asking about the emotional content behind arguments - they actually run arguments!

You may be right but you've lost because you didn't hear THIS undercurrent

It's more powerful than the logic sometimes.

Every interaction has this side

Why is this person not getting it'?

Did you ever ASK yourself this? Without suffering over it?

Listening and being heard are so different.

Underlying emotional content - can YOU hear it?

It's coming through like music - can YOU hear it?

TO BACK OFF may be the most LOGICAL option.

This person with whom you argue might be attached to being RIGHT at all costs

NOW what is happening?

The EMOTIONAL CONTENT has taken over this discussion - overlapping everything said and not said. It's time to be a TEDDY BEAR not a CALCULATOR.

Your words, your logic, your common sense can never be heard behind the protective WALL?

Self-defense - even YOU need this - for how you see yourself.

The WALL protects a person against old wounds- your arguments opened up.

STOP

The best way to handle this?

GIVE IN - never you say but do YOU ever ask why?

COMPLIMENT - too hard, too hurt.

There is YOUR emotional content coming through!

Check IT OUT!

GROW






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      psychicdog.net 5 years ago

      Sommer - you get it. Thank-you.

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      Sommer Dalton 5 years ago

      What great points and very true! Great hub!! Voted up plus 2!

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      psychicdog.net 5 years ago

      Thanks drbj - time out walk away - someone's got to do it - it's usually comes down to moi! Always great to get your insights

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      drbj and sherry 5 years ago from south Florida

      You made some good points here, pd. When confronted with an argument that is too emotional (on either side) sometimes it is best to just say, 'Time out,' walk away and wait for another opportunity. Just sayin'.

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