What Happy People Do
Why Are Some People Always Happy?
We all have seen them, the happy-go-lucky kind of people. They are always cheerful, serene, and they hardly get upset, whatever happens.
How do they do it? What are the characteristics that determine if someone will cruise through life happily and merrily or holding a grudge due to continue disappointments and misfortunes?
Finding Your Inner Source of Happiness
The main difference between happy people and all the others is their mindset. It does not matter what you own, what job you do, or how popular you are. The only place you can find happiness is inside of you. Nothing and nobody else can provide happiness to you.
The truth is that anyone has the potential to be happy, no matter the circumstances. In fact happiness is not about what happens in our lives, but how we choose respond to what happens.
You have to reach some kind of personal balance and self-love to start knowing what happiness is.
Characteristics of the Happy Person
Happy people have some characteristics in common. Typically, those who live happier take the time for themselves, doing the things they are passionate about. This allows them to find a precious inner balance.
The following tips are things you can do to achieve a happy lifestyle.
Tips on How to Find Happiness
- Have free affections and wide interests. - A person that cultivates his or her genuine interests, and gives affections to others, is most likely the object of interest and affection of others.
We should desire the happiness of those we love, but this does not mean that we should sacrifice our own happiness for them. Self-abnegation does not bring to happiness. Only doing what genuinely interests you and benefits you, you can find a balance and increase your self-worth.
- Surround yourself with happy friends that have a positive outlook on life, avoid negative people and those that are always grumpy and complaining.
- Live according to your own values, with integrity and honesty.
- Appreciate what you have and recognize the blessing received. Be thankful, look at you family, friends, health, and feel gratification.
- Mens sana in corpore sano. Take care of your body: eat healthy, exercise often, get regular checkups.
- Be a natural optimistic: look for the best in yourself and in others. Always look at the glass half full and recognize the good in everyone.
- Value your own self-worth. This requires being able to see your own strengths, beauty and talents. If you truly appreciate who you are and are comfortable with yourself, nobody can bring you down.
- Find the time to laugh, create the circumstances that make you laugh often. Laughter has amazing health benefits and is a great tool to achieve emotional and physical wellness, and reduce stress.
- Live life with purpose. Have a plan in life, write down your goals and stay focused on their achievement.
- Don’t sweat the small stuff, look at things in perspective and let go of minor snafus. Don’t get frustrated over things that you cannot change, find the best solution/alternative possible, and move on.
- Be flexible and accept that things rarely go as planned, learn to go with the flow and adjust to unforeseen situations.
- Relax and follow your heart, don’t let the fear of being embarrassed stop you from doing the things you love. Allow yourself to be silly sometimes.
- Learn to prioritize your commitments, and say no to things that are too much on your schedule, take time from more important priorities, and the things that you just despise doing.
- Take time for yourself; find time for your passions and to spend quality time with your loved ones.
Let Go of Negative Thoughts
A lifetime of misfortune, or the perception of misfortune, triggers negative thoughts. Negative thoughts do no good to our happiness and serenity.
It is important for your own well-being to focus on the positive, be happy, no matter what or who is interfering with your life at the time. Learn to know and control your thoughts, keep them positive.
Thinking positive in response to a bad event is hard. It requires a revolution of your instinctual mindset. We are creature of habit, it takes courage to embrace change, but it is worth to try, the rewards are wonderful.
Change gear and force yourself to think positive thoughts even if things are not so good.
I can do it.
There must be a solution.
An opportunity will come up.
The Importance of a Positive Attitude
If you are unhappy try to transform the way you look at things, how you respond to what happens to you. When something goes wrong, the first instinctive reactions are usually negative feelings: anger, frustration, fear, or even panic.
When it seems that nothing goes right, it takes nerve and self-control to keep calm and positive. It’s not the obvious reaction. But with the right state of mind and a positive perspective it is easier to overcome negativity.
After all, there is a solution for everything; it may not be the perfect solution, but there is a way to deal with any situation.
The problem is that many times unforeseen events change our plans and things don’t go as we expected, or as we wished. This requires moving on from frustrations and thoughts of what could/should have been, come up with alternatives, and accept them as worthy solutions.
Basic Needs for Happiness
Though we are the very artisans creating our own happiness, there are some external factors that influence our capacity to be happy.
Some things are necessary and indispensable for the happiness of most people, and these are usually simple things: food and shelter, security, health, love, successful work, and the respect of your group of belonging. For some, parenthood may be necessary.
If these basic things are lacking, only the exceptional man has the capability of feeling happy.
If these things are enjoyed, and the person is still unhappy, then the true cause of unhappiness can be found in the self.
A famous professor of psychology, Abraham Maslow, said this very well in the 1940s. Maslow created a pyramid of the hierarchy of needs, and stated that the higher need cannot be fulfilled, often not even felt, until the lower need is satisfied.
© 2012 Robie Benve