Fed up With Menopause Symptoms! (Men welcome to read)
Note: I wrote this two years ago, had forgotten about this article. I share because all women will experience the change of life at some point. Thankfully, I do not experience the waves of anger (it was so alien to me!) or over eat as I used to. I am happy to see the improvements I made, which includes eating healthy. I love veggies nowadays as I mentioned to Tatjana in one of her hubs, I actually make vegetable sandwiches, that's my body speaking and me listening to its wisdom. I personally feel I found this article to keep me motivated with even more changes I want to create.
I added my significant other's male perspective on menopause on the right of this hub towards the end of the article. He is brave. :) I love the men of nowadays! ________________________________________________________________
I am fed up, no, not fed up with my relationship, my next door neighbor, my boss, or the economy; as a matter of fact, I am one of those women who got lucky in love during her late 40's and I am very grateful. Perhaps still being young enough to have vitality, but having more wisdom as I got older, helped me to come into this relationship with more maturity. As for my next door neighbors, they just wave and smile, which is fine with me, as I enjoy solitude; the boss, I got rid of 12 years ago, not in the way you may think, I quit the stress of corporate America and its politics that may drain one's soul, after working for 23 years, and learned to earn my living away from the 9-5 job structure, and as for the economy, I watch what I spend more closely now, and hope for the best.
I am fed up with the ups and downs of the life change. In comparison to several of my friends, I have done well as I take the supplements and herbs I recommend in my site and articles, and have not experienced hot flashes; but its not good enough for me to be doing well in comparison to others; I want to feel vibrant, and totally in harmony. Its not fun getting itchy all of a sudden that not even scratching brings relief, or having an unexpected wave of what I call mini panic feelings, or sudden anger rush through me while I am laying in bed getting ready to fall asleep, when I am not an angry woman by nature; these rushes come unexpectedly and are gone within seconds; I know enough to be able to understand this is the hormone monster doing its number on me, like it does for millions of other women.
I decided to take a self-inventory and be totally blunt with myself, and see where the weak link is in me, not to judge or be hard on myself, but to correct the patterns I have created for myself that weakens my body's defenses. I want to show the symptoms the door and wave them, adios, adieu, good-bye, from my body and life. The body has a magnificent capacity to heal and respond to loving self-care.
So, with a deep breath, I took a pen in hand, and asked myself "what am I doing to sabotage my well being?" And, I wrote one word quickly:
Perseverance. That's it for me.
I am like the doctor who takes care of patients, but does not always take care of herself; I share my health knowledge freely with friends, family and readers, but do not always practice what I preach. I start programs for a few days, maybe a few weeks and revert back to my old ways before I give my brain and body a chance to set new patterns. One thing, I take faithfully are my supplements and herbs, as I feel its positive effects and drink plenty of water.
Perseverance is all I need and the rest will follow. So, here is my plan, once again:
Cleansing: I know, I can use a short fast to cleanse my body. Did this four years ago with "The Lemonade Diet", or Mastercleanse as its commonly called, and I could smell the bark of the trees in congested NY on the fourth day of my 10 day fast, and had glowing skin and healthy blood pressure. Amazing what a cleansing can do! Why not try again? It's just a few days of washing the inside of my body. It will help with menopausal symptoms, as a clean body is a stronger body.
Diet: Oh, how I love food, most of us do. My weakness is, I don't add enough veggies to my meals, and have a sweet tooth. Easy to remedy, just add more greens to my meals and I will be comfortable with my eating patterns, and cut down on sweets. As my body becomes more balanced, the cravings for sweets will improve.
A Word from the Hormonally Challenged! (a man's perspective) :)
Phil, my companion had the courage to step into one of my blogs and share his perspective and experience with me. LOL! The truth is, he is very supportive and pretty much represents the modern man who is not embarrassed to admit he understands a woman with sensitivity, while he also lives in a man's world where he can see things logically and objectively.
We both have worked out a system where we communicate with one another, when neither one of us may be feeling very good, as human emotions even in the best of relationships, do fluctuate. I wrote an an article " "Little trick I Use To Ride Out Mood Swings" and need to find it.
Okay, generally speaking, it's not such a good idea for a man to be offering words of wisdom about men-o-paws. It's a little like saying to your wife while she's in the midst of labor, "Yes, dear, I feel your pain." I promise you, sooner or later she'll make sure you really do! What I've found to be the most effective means of continuance during the mate's hormonal fluctuations is to reflexively raise my hands in abject surrender and say, "Okay, okay, just don't hurt me!"
On the other hand, men may not be as oblivious to this hormonal onslaught as some women imagine. After all, every hormonally enraged teenage boy knows the experience of totally losing control of his mind and body in the presence of an attractive girl. It's only later that he thinks, "What the hell was that all about and who was that person in my body anyway?" For some men, this process of demonic possession never seems to quite end, but that's another story. All of us, male or female, are subject to periods of hormonal fluctuation and changes along with their attendant physical and emotional effects. There are phases of life that everyone goes through and I believe these are primarily hormonally driven.
On the third hand, most men have a unique perspective on women and hormonal reactions, and one thing that is surprising to me is the wide range of responses to a seemingly similar set of physical or emotional symptoms. There may be some totally nonsensical thoughts and feelings arising, but how a woman responds to this speaks volumes about a woman's maturity and strength of character.
Marie and I spend practically every moment together, and we like it that way, and so there's very little that we experience that is not shared in some way with each other. What strikes me is how remarkably aware she is about what's happening in her mind and body. Instead of her emotions or discomfort driving her through the day, she may inform me, in an almost detached way, that she's feeling some discomfort or her emotions are a bit volatile, and gives me the opportunity to run for my life. Hehe. But of course, that's never necessary because she's already aware, see? She knows it's not about me and she sees no reason to make it about me. This is a maturity of character that I've come to appreciate and admire, but I never intend to take for granted.
Okay, Marie, am I out of the dog house now? Hehe.
Movement: As in walking ... having relocated from NY to a rural town in the West Coast, I don't walk as I used to and my body doesn't like it. I have been meaning to take up qiqong and will order DVD to get started; qiqong is an aspect of Chinese medicine involving the coordination of different breathing patterns with various physical postures and motions of the body. Breath and movement are the mana of life. This form of energy medicine keeps the body supple, which is beneficial, as we get older.
The turning point in any struggle is when the mind says enough is enough, if the situation cannot be changed, we then reach a point of surrender and acceptance, but if change is possible, we can get the motivation to make changes; if we choose to be totally passive, then we create our own hell on earth. Not an empowering choice.
Hopefully by sharing, I will encourage other women to take charge of their well being, even if they have failed in their efforts in the past.
So, what do you need to change to experience a more comfortable entry into menopause and keeping your health and vitality well into your postmenopausal years?
Listen to the answer and lovingly follow through, it will make a difference!
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