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Is It Time to Reinvent Yourself?
Times are hard right now. We are in the midst of a major recession. People are losing their livelihoods, their homes and their lifestyles.
So what is the positive side of recession?
There is no time like the present to reevaluate our lives, our attitudes, and our way of dealing with things. We have the opportunity to turn our lives away from the negative influences of the past and to define a whole new world made up of a vision of our own choosing.
Think back to when you were a child. What did you want to be when you grew up? Did you get to do that particular thing, or did you have to cave in to pressures to get a job or make a living? Did you get to go to college, to art school, or learn a trade? Or did your parents just tell you to get out?
We live in a time when our survival depends on our flexibility and our ingenuity. Not only are we out of money, but our earth is running out of resources. We need to start to rethink the way we live if the human race is going to survive. We need to think of what resources we are leaving our descendants. We need to learn new ways to be in order to come out of our current dark place, and there is no time like the present to do it.
Yes, we do have to find ways to survive. So we need to learn how to be frugal. We need to find jobs that we may not like in order to keep us going until we achieve our goals. But why not also use this time to become the person we always wanted to be?
And how do we do that? I call it the "Feel Good Reality Plan."
Close you eyes for a few minutes and picture yourself in the different situations that interest you. Are you happy? Do you feel right in this picture? If so, can this be an attainable goal?
Do this until you have a clear picture of the life you want to become. See yourself in your desired lifestyle until you know in your heart if this is truly what you want to be.
Step two: Plan. Break your dream down into areas of your life that you can work on. Do you want to be healthier? Do you want a new career. Do you have a bucket list that you want ot work on? Did you always want to be a blond, go to a renaissance fair, find a new mate?
You need to make a list of goals. Your goals need to be specific. You also need to assign each goal a priority and a time limit. By assigning a time limit, you give yourself an alarm of sorts so that you know when things are not going well enough and may need to be adjusted. It will tell you when to consider if it is time for plan B. You need to assign your goals a priority in case you are one of those people (like me, I'm afraid) that tends to try to change the whole world in an hour and ends up frustrated. It helps to know in what order to do things.
When you have your goals list completed, it is time to make your feel good plan. Take each goal and break it down into its most basic elements. Find out everything you can about it. Do you want to become a teacher, or a rocket scientist? You will have to go to school. Do you want to become an artist? You need to choose a medium and research ways to sell your art. The idea is to break your goal down into steps that are both manageable and meaningful.
The next thing you have to do with your goals list is to ask yourself these two questions:
What are the obstacles that I might encounter?
How will I overcome these obstacles?
When you have the best answers to these questions, you are ready to go on to step three:
DO IT! Follow the steps to achieve your dreams. Become the person you want to be.
On your way, remember these things:
When the going gets tough, don't be afraid to look for help. You are not all seeing, and therefore you will not be able to predict every pothole in your road to happiness, but there are people out there who have been where you are and know where you're going. Look for their guidance.
Remember the ancient wisdom of the Talmud which says: "If I am not for myself, who will be? If I am only for myself, Who am I? If not now, when?" You have to be willing and able to stick up for yourself, but not so much that you lose sight of your place in the community or your family. There is no time quite like now.
Please check out the links below. I have listed a few help sites for you.
Where are you in your recession recovery?
Tips for Breaking Out of a Rut
Are You feeling Overwhelmed? If you feel as though you have too much to do or too many changes to make, here are a few tips to break out of that rut and get moving again.
Make a list. List all the areas of your life that need to change. Prioritize the list in order of urgency and work from the top of the list down. Concentrate as much as possible on only one area of change at a time until you feel that you can comfortably move on to another.
Break it down. If the area of your life that you choose to work on seems too overwhelming, or even if you are just paralyzed by fear of change, it helps to break the monster into a lot of little monsters so that you can defeat them all. Get a paper and pen and list the changes you want to make at the top, and then break that down into a lot of little jobs that you can do to push yourself toward your goal. For example, if you are job hunting, you might break your list down into small jobs like create or polish a resume, create a CV, make a contact list, make a call list, set up a schedule, create a file for job hunting, etc. The next step would be to get to work at accomplishing one job at a time. And don't forget to praise yourself each time a task is completely finished.
Create a lottery. If you are feeling so overwhelmed that the previous tips do not help, or you are so paralyzed by fear or depression that you find it difficult to get moving, or you are having trouble deciding what to do first, here is a little trick that I often use to break the blockage.
Get paper, a pen, scissors, and two glass jars. Label one jar "to do" and one jar "accomplished." Write many of your smaller tasks on little slips of paper, or make a list and cut them out. Fold them up and put them in the "to do" jar. Then pull the jobs out one at a time and do them immediately. Place the finished jobs in the "accomplished" jar. As the level of "to dos" falls and the "accomplished" jar level rises, you should be feeling somewhat more in control of your situation. If this is not the case, you may need to seek professional help, or at least the care and input of a wiser and more organized friend.