Life isn’t always easy, nor is it always hard. However, this gross oversimplification and putting life into such a black and white idea is irresponsible. Just because putting things, ideas, or emotions into a certain criteria doesn’t make it the correct or best way for everyone.
The real way to look at things truly is day to day, maybe even hour to hour. Can you be better than you were yesterday or an hour ago? Set backs will happen but if the next day or even hour is better than before you already overcame the set back, right? Unfortunately we can’t be perfect all the time or even any of the time, but we want that so bad for ourselves that coming up short stings. The feeling of inadequacy can start by thinking of yourself 4 years ago when you weighed less or thinking that you would have this house, this car, and this spouse when you were 22. Life throws us curveballs whether we are ready or not and the thought that we aren’t where we “should be” can come from a multitude of places but one of the biggest ones is social media.
One way we short ourselves is to compare, (social media is the biggest culprit to putting ourselves down) but think about it... what percentage of people put the negative on social media? It’s always just the good, great, and grand. So when you are “stuck” in a bad place and scrolling social media seeing all the “great” that others are doing, just know it’s a facade and don’t take it at face value. Some of the people that are hurting the most don’t show it, and some never want people to know so they will use the “facade” of social media to produce better optics of their life. At the rec center I workout at they have this quote from Teddy Roosevelt and it says, “comparison is the thief of joy,” and that couldn’t be more true. If you are going to compare yourself just make sure it is to yourself, but don’t make it anymore than a day or an hour ago because realistically that’s the only you that you can change.
I have felt this pain, and honestly even do as I’m writing this. The not living up to where you want to be, watching your fiends succeed and wonder why not me? But what we have to do is focus more on the day to day and the hour to hour because I believe that will make it easier to succeed in this rat race.