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Feeling Inadequate

Updated on October 23, 2018
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Chemist/Biologist who thinks there is more than molecules that make us feel and think.

The Inadequacy Drug
The Inadequacy Drug

Life isn’t always easy, nor is it always hard. However, this gross oversimplification and putting life into such a black and white idea is irresponsible. Just because putting things, ideas, or emotions into a certain criteria doesn’t make it the correct or best way for everyone.

The real way to look at things truly is day to day, maybe even hour to hour. Can you be better than you were yesterday or an hour ago? Set backs will happen but if the next day or even hour is better than before you already overcame the set back, right? Unfortunately we can’t be perfect all the time or even any of the time, but we want that so bad for ourselves that coming up short stings. The feeling of inadequacy can start by thinking of yourself 4 years ago when you weighed less or thinking that you would have this house, this car, and this spouse when you were 22. Life throws us curveballs whether we are ready or not and the thought that we aren’t where we “should be” can come from a multitude of places but one of the biggest ones is social media.

One way we short ourselves is to compare, (social media is the biggest culprit to putting ourselves down) but think about it... what percentage of people put the negative on social media? It’s always just the good, great, and grand. So when you are “stuck” in a bad place and scrolling social media seeing all the “great” that others are doing, just know it’s a facade and don’t take it at face value. Some of the people that are hurting the most don’t show it, and some never want people to know so they will use the “facade” of social media to produce better optics of their life. At the rec center I workout at they have this quote from Teddy Roosevelt and it says, “comparison is the thief of joy,” and that couldn’t be more true. If you are going to compare yourself just make sure it is to yourself, but don’t make it anymore than a day or an hour ago because realistically that’s the only you that you can change.

I have felt this pain, and honestly even do as I’m writing this. The not living up to where you want to be, watching your fiends succeed and wonder why not me? But what we have to do is focus more on the day to day and the hour to hour because I believe that will make it easier to succeed in this rat race.

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      RTalloni 

      19 months ago

      The TR quote is new to me, but so true. It seems he understood the Bible's counsel on comparing ourselves to others.

      The facade of social media...what a great way to paint the picture. Being involved with that means not being involved in people's lives, it's an easy way to appear involved but not have the responsibility of involvement, and it's sad.

      Thanks for an interesting read. Welcome to HP. Cute pic with the shades.

    • tsadjatko profile image

      19 months ago from now on

      Welcome Cordell T, anyone with the name T has to be a good guy!

      Anyway, there is a spiritual solution to feeling inadequate which goes beyond focusing on the day to day or the hour to hour and it starts with taking your focus off of yourself and putting it on Christ, our savior.

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      Cordell T 

      19 months ago

      Thank you Carolyn, yes it is my first but I plan on expressing much more. I agree with how people will post negative events on social media but in my experience the people who tend to post more negative are the ones looking for more feedback (aka using the drug of social media to help aid them in getting likes, approval, or whatever else is hidden behind it.)

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      Carolyn Fields 

      19 months ago from South Dakota, USA

      You make an excellent point - people don't post the negative on Facebook. Well, most of the time. Sometimes they post about things that suck (e.g., my house burned down - literal example), but that's to get sympathy.

      I see that you are new here. Looking forward to seeing more of your writing. I think you will have a lot to say.

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