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Fight Anger/High Blood Pressure

Updated on March 1, 2013

Control Anger / High Blood Pressure

Yes, that’s what I said, control your anger and eventually your blood pressure with a low stress attitude. If, after you develop a low stress attitude, you still anger easily and quickly, next seek further professional help (that’s advice from someone who knows).

1. Build your self confidence.

This may sound cliché, but a lot of us, probably 95% of us, need to remind ourselves of our individual value each and every day. People try many ways to build up their self esteem, but the easiest way to remind yourself of your value is to list your strengths and accomplishments…all of us have them AND it is most important to tell yourself that you have these strengths and value your accomplishments. There will always be others who also need to take this advice seriously, but THAT IS NOT YOUR PROBLEM. It is theirs. Some try using affirmations, and that’s ok. It’s just that it is sometimes TOO easy to think that those affirmations are really about someone other than oneself.

Your Strength and Accomplishments

Some less-thought-of-examples of strengths could include: organization skills, volunteering, editing other’s work, helping give moral support to someone, presenting new ideas to a group of people (at work, for instance), helping someone plan their day, giving others mental/spiritual support-sincerity, being reliable 365 days a year for one or more persons or even for a company, envisioning and creating landscaping or artwork or caring for plants, animals, or people. That is just a few of the strengths that exist in this world, we all have some! Find yours and write them down, so you do not forget them when you are in a pinch and depressed, or when you are down-on-yourself.

Remember, when you build your self confidence by taking stock of your strengths and accomplishments each and every day, you relate to people from a place within of self-worth. This is a very important place to be whenever relating to other individuals. It allows one to be more objective and step outside of oneself from a place of self-worth to a place of caring for others outside of yourself. When you keep this attitude of self-confidence you develop gratitude for your strengths and accomplishments. You become more aware of your value within the world itself.

2. Ask yourself if your reaction will help

I’ve heard people say a person should just count to 10, if they get angry. That may work for some, but I just can't pay that much attention to counting to 10, if ya' know what I mean? I normally multi-task, so maybe that is why just counting to 10 doesn't help me get above being angry. If you pull out your list of strengths and accomplishments, on the other hand. That might be enough to get your mind off being angry.

Especially if you start reviewing your strengths, you'll realize that you don't need to be angry about much of anything. Then perhaps you can look objectively at why you are getting angry at all. That's a whole other HUB! When we are not being ‘questioned’ by someone we consider to be in authority, or when we’ve just started our day and haven’t yet had any thing more than a brief encounter with others, that is the perfect time to prepare yourself for the day by going over your list of strengths and accomplishments. Once you start making your list, you'll start finding more and more strengths within yourself.  ADD THEM TO THE LIST!

As the day goes on, you are getting into your job or your errands, and you have already told yourself your strengths and accomplishments. You happily going along doing your job and something happens to create stress, what do you do…for example, at your workplace, someone is at your desk questioning one of your decisions, or papers, or whatever.

When you’re grounded in your self-confidence, objectively you can ask your self “what reaction from me would accomplish the most advantageous result?” Of course, it’s so easy to express something abruptly and immediately when someone questions you. The trick is to stop for a moment to gather your thoughts before you open your mouth! At least that has always been my biggest problem.

3.   Find out what stresses you

Some people don’t mind being questioned about their work, and some people don’t mind taking tests either…YEAH, RIGHT!  One key to control is preparation, like knowing or finding out exactly what stresses you.  Take a step back for a moment.  Think about the last time you got stressed and anger was the result… why did you really get angry? Did something unexpected knock you off-your-step, or new procedures get to you late requiring you to re-do some work, or a management change causing shuffling of people with which you may or may not have such a good relationship, or new rules are implemented and you are not informed of them.

  You may feel frustration because you don’t think your friends listen to you because they never remember you telling them things, or you have an argument with your Mom or a sibling.  Perhaps your children are being excessively demanding, whatever stressors that occur, striking in whatever form, if you prepare yourself for these possible stressors in a general way , the less stress they will cause.    You may not be able to prepare for the specific situation, but you can imagine a similar situation and determine which ones hold stressors to you.

4. Change how you view things that happen to you

This is the culmination of all the above steps: 1. building your self confidence, 2. asking yourself which is the best reaction, and 3. planning ahead for stress that you know may possibly occur (generally speaking). This is the most difficult step to complete and requires you, to basically, talk to yourself differently within your mind. This is something that we don’t always even realize we are doing, much less thinking about how we are doing it. It’s hard to realize, in the middle of being immersed in a situation, the stress reaction is not required of you! You can handle things a lot easier with a stress-less reaction when changes occur in life.

Click here to find some steps you can take to help you get the first GLIMPSE of the difference between having a low-stress and having a high-stress lifestyle.

5. Create Low-Stress relationships.

A low stress work-style helps you deal more effectively with anger or stressful events. This style can also improve your relationships with your coworkers, enabling more-in-sync teamwork. You and your coworkers will be able to develop a more cohesive team when you have low-stress relationships. At home, if you work at improving relationships with your children and spouse, using low-stress communication can keep the house relaxed.

Click here for a few tips about creating low-stress relationships:

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