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Find Solace in a Chaotic World

Updated on May 11, 2017

Chaos Breeds Inner Pain

The dictionary defines the word solace as something that comforts and consoles. Have you ever wanted a way to comfort yourself? I think everyone has at some point or another. Chaos can overrun our day to day lives and cause depression and angst and feelings of inadequacy. Sometimes it helps to know that you have a way of turning that around, even for a little while. Finding things that comfort you may not remove the chaos entirely: for that you may need to seek a greater escape. Sometimes though, it is just enough to help you understand and make your day a little smoother.

Dexter knows...
Dexter knows...

Had a Bad Day?

Sometimes the simplest form of comfort can be telling yourself that there is always tomorrow. Let tomorrow be your golden day. Understand and know that no matter how bad your day seems there is always tomorrow. Whether you got in a tiff with a co-worker or friend, or it just seems like your day isn't going the way you planned, then plan for tomorrow to be spectacular. Taking this outward inactive role may produce a calming effect for a temporary fix. Take your day to think on the actions that have caused the problem, breathe, understand, and relate. Setting aside problems is only a temporary fix and should not be held off on for long though, especially if feelings or relationships may suffer. If it was an argument, after you have calmed down and thought things through, try talking with that person again. Explaining how you felt things went wrong or how the misunderstanding occurred in a calm, relaxed voice will resolve issues faster. More than likely your friend or co-worker never wanted to argue with you in the first place.

Make the Most of a Bad Situation

Making the most of a bad situation never really seems like a top priority in your life when you are having a bad day. The economy is bad, money is tight, emotions are high: it is a breeding ground for stress. Finding your way past that is a tall order sometimes. Understanding the situation is bad and finding reasons to be happy anyway can really reduce feelings of stress.

If money is tight and you can't go see that movie you wanted to, or eat out at that restaurant you like is not grounds for a meltdown. Watch a favorite movie you own over again and make it a classic movie night for your family and friends. Make a simple dinner seem more romantic for you and a loved one by dimming the lights, lighting some candles and playing some soft music. It doesn't have to be fancy to be perfect and I'm sure your partner will love you even more for the romantic gesture. If you really had your heart set on getting out of the house go for a walk through a park and have a picnic. It doesn't have to cost money for you to have a good time.

"Pot Holes into Nowhere" **photography is by me
"Pot Holes into Nowhere" **photography is by me

Meditate On This....

One of the best ways to calm yourself in any situation is to meditate. Find a calm, quiet place where you can go and collect your thoughts. In some towns and cities you can find actually meditation gardens for the public. It doesn't have to be fancy though, just tranquil. Find your happy place, a place that no matter what happens when you go there you have the option of reflecting on your thoughts and finding within yourself the ability to reach a calm and relaxed state.

   If you have an area in your home you can turn into your own meditation space, you will be able to customize your space to make it what you like, want or need to relax. Whether it is just a bathtub surrounded by candles and your favorite aromatherapy soaps and shampoos or a corner in your house with comfortable chair for reading, make it your own.

"Smokey Orange Dream" **photography is by me
"Smokey Orange Dream" **photography is by me

Enjoy The Show

One of the best things you can possibly do to really learn to work your way past the stress is really just to enjoy life! It seems like the easiest answer and still too good to be true. Realizing you may not have that expensive car you want, or the biggest house or the most money but you have things in your life that matter more than that. You have the love of your close family and friends, the will to choose, freedom to be who you are. These are little things in life people take for granted, but these are not commonplace all over the world. These are things people are still fighting for, dying for, trying to earn. Life is a complicated series of trial and error; ebb and flow. The ability to see what you have and love every minute of it is a true testament of your will, your will to get away from the negative and be truly thankful for everything.

"May Dew part 2" **Photography is by me
"May Dew part 2" **Photography is by me

From one of my favorite movies, "Mr. Holland's Opus"

Life Happens

As John Lennon wrote in the song "Beautiful Boy" to his son Sean... "Life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans". That line couldn't be more true either. Life will happen with or without you anyway, so why not make the most of it? Finding the things in life that make it more enjoyable for you really is the quintessential way of comforting yourself in a chaotic time. Whether it is a close friend offering you a helping hand, or a loved one being there for you through thick and thin no matter what, or a simple gesture from a stranger. Finding your happiness in a trying time may not be easy, but it is the most rewarding thing you can do. What are some of the best ways to unwind?

  • Read a book
  • Go for a walk
  • have a picnic
  • listen to music
  • Cuddle with a pet or stuffed animal
  • write in a journal
  • breathe

  This is only a short list and not a cure for depression, just a way to relieve stress. I invite  you to take a moment a share in the comments how you like you relax or relieve stress. Share so that others may find what works for them, give everyone a chance to explore new options.

How Do You Relax?

What is your favorite way to unwind?

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    • SognoPiccolo profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from Wilmington, Ohio

      thank you, I appreciate your kind words and taking the time to stop by and read =)

    • mega1 profile image


      7 years ago

      sometimes meditating is the ONLY way I can get my mind out of a bad rut - I let it all go and breath. Also, I love various herbal therapies - rubbing aromatic oils on the soles of my feet to calm myself or fortify is a new thing I'm trying and I love it. You're a good writer and I enjoy your style and subject matter.

    • SognoPiccolo profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from Wilmington, Ohio

      thank you... you always make me smile =)

    • Sunny Robinson profile image

      Sunny Robinson 

      7 years ago from Tennessee

      I love this. I believe many people need this. Being able to find inner solace, I believe, is the answer to many, many things. It is the path leading towards a way to go higher, above the things that you perceive to be dragging you down.



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