- Personal Health Information & Self-Help
Finding the purpose of your life in 5 questions
Life is hard.
No shocker there, right?
Finding a purpose to your life can be hard. It might even seem pointless.
If you really think about it, why should you even bother? We are all going to the same dark place when we say bye-bye to the world. Death is inevitable. So, yes, we are all dying one day,- yet, that day is not here yet.
One of my favourite quotes ever is from American Beauty. Kevin Spacey says with a narrative voice ”Remember those posters that said, ”Today is the first day of the rest of your life? Well, that’s true for every day but one – the day you die.”
So, lets leave it at that and let me give you a few pointers as to how you can best figure out what your life purpose is.
1. What makes you forget about your basic human needs?
Remember Maslow and his pyramid?
What activity makes you forget about eating or taking a trip to the bathroom? If you are so obsessed with a thing that you can hold off on peeing, just because you want to finish or keep going a little longer, it is probably something you enjoy more than you can comprehend.
If you forget about your basic needs, there must be a pretty good reason as to why.
2. When death occurs, what do you want to be remembered for?
I believe that everyone wants to be remembered for doing something after they pass. Imagine all the famous people who have become someone after they die. It’s a countless number. Often, these people aren’t even discovered when they walk around on earth.
Just think about Vincent van Gogh. He was a child with low self-esteem turned priest. He even suffered from depression and epilepsy. Still, after his death more than 2000 art pieces were discovered and he is praised for being one of the most influential artists of all time.
So when you die, what do you want people to say about you? How did you impact their life? What stories will be told after your passing, and how will people tell them?
3. What do people thank you for?
This one shouldn’t be very hard to figure out, unless you have surrounded yourself all your life with rude people who never ever said “please” or “thank you”.
Think of yourself in the different places in your life. No matter who you are, just imagine all the places you go and the people you interact with. What do people tell you? How have you helped to improve their life?
This can be the smallest thing. Maybe someone thanked you for a piece of advice or how you handled that difficult thing at work. Can you recall what people usually thank you for?
4. In the past week, when have you felt joy?
If you think long and hard about the past week, when did you feel happy?
And try to not mistake this feeling with love or sex. I mean, yes, they are both associated with joyful feelings, but they don’t apply here.
What were you doing when you felt joy? How come this thing gave you such a positive feeling?
5. What are you really, really good at?
Imagine all your qualities as a person. This may seem like a weird thing. You might be thinking “I’m not that good at anything”. This is the wrong approach. So pick up a pencil and write down some keywords about yourself.
I used to think that I wasn’t that good at anything. Mediocre was my middle name. When you go around thinking this, you will eventually begin to believe it. You start believing there is no room for improvement and you might as well just give up. This becomes a vicious circle and you get stuck doing things you are somewhat good at. A person can behold plenty of talents. Even if you think don’t have any, you might as well start to look for one.
They say it takes a person ten thousand hours to get good at something. This is over four hundred days spent on one activity.
Yet, you have probably spent a great deal of time on something that you enjoy already, so maybe you're better at it than you really know.