Five Ways Seniors Can Deal With Changing World Values
1. Be in the world and not of it
Many aging baby boomers are finding that the values they grew up with and have tried to uphold are quickly fading in today society. Most senior citizens can recall a time where children were taught to respect their elders and there were consequences for bad behavior. Today it seems children have all the rights and even educators are not allowed to correct their bad behavior as in past generations. Once upon a time being married was respected and living together was frowned upon. Pornography used to be hidden behind store counters or come in the mail in a brown bag.
In today's society, it seems that everything goes, and if you object you are told you are judging. Young people blast very loud music from their vehicles that are filled with profanity and sexually explicit lyrics. Cell phones go off in the doctor's office and library where there used to be peace and quiet. You overhear conversations that should be taking place in private and are basically bombarded with things that you never could have dreamed of before. One way to combat the onslaught of changes in society is to consider a popular saying. Christians often state that the Bible says to "Be in the world and not of it" but there is no such verse. The concept however can be used whether you are a believer in Christ or not. We are all in this world but we do not have to take part in the things that are going on in it. No one has to change their moral standing or religious beliefs just to fit in, so stand your ground.
2. Guard your heart
Proverbs 4:23 says: "Above all else guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it."
This can be difficult, especially if you are out and about constantly around those who say whatever is on their minds. I have been especially troubled by the lack of professionalism in retail stores and fast food industries. Many of the younger employees curse on the job, laugh, play, and dance, with no thought of how they appear to customers. Sometimes I have to take a deep breath and force a smile. I have heard some older adults say they simply cannot tolerate the lack of values and respect that takes place today but they cannot afford to move to a retirement community or a different neighborhood. It is difficult but all one can do is keep the integrity within their own heart and allow their light to shine because you never know who may be paying attention.
I had a conversation with two women in Big Lots recently. Both looked to be in their late fifty’s. They were lamenting that you have to be careful regarding young people because if you offer advise they might shoot you. Both said they watch METV so they won’t getThe R and X rated TV shows in their minds.
3. Do you
Younger people today often say I'm gonna do me and this is what aging adults must resign themselves to as well. Maintain your integrity and don't dummy down or try to fit in. If you watch television, you don't have to settle for the soft porn that is being peddled. Obtain your enjoyment from the oldies channels such as METV and Turner Classic Movies. Invite some friends over who have similar values to enjoy a program with you. Get together with family or friends who you can trust and have cookouts and back yard fun. Immerse yourself in the activities and associate with ndividuals that reflect what you enjoy in life.
I know people who get together with former co-workers for weekly or monthly luncheons. If your church ha any activities or excursions, especially those for senior citizens then please take advantage. If you prefer the solitude of your own home, there is nothing wrong with that, just be careful not to become reclusive or allow depression to creep in.
4. Keep the bad element out
In the city where I live, there was one high school exclusively for African Americans for over 50 years, until integration. The last all-black graduating class was 1972. The former students all grew up together in the same neighborhoods because in those days black people could only live in specific areas. Because of this, these seniors have an amazing bond and they have yearly class reunions, a well as a grand reunion each year for everyone who ever attended the school. They have also gone on cruises together. A few years back they purchased a building and use it for parties and other get-togethers. Whenever they announce an event they always put that no one under 40 is allowed. This is because a lot of the younger people in this area tend to have conflicts when they geet together.
I have noticed other social gatherings advertised in a local paper that also have an age limit. It may sound harsh but if you want to do something on a large scale and don't want uninvited trouble, you have the right to set limits to keep the bad element out.
5. Use wisdom and discretion
In this day and age, everyone seems more on edge and volatile. Keep in mind that not everyone was raised with the same values. I recently posted on Facebook about being troubled at how younger people use profanity in public in everyday conversations. Someone responded that noe everyone finds cursing to be offensive and I see this is true. One day I was in a convenience store and a young woman who looked to be in her late 20s had a little boy in her arms. She was cursing and threatening someone on her cell phone as if the child was not there.
I politely pointed out to her that the little boy should not be subjected to such language and she threatened to fight me. I would never have spoken to anyone my parent's age like that but this young woman did not care that I was older. In days gone by seniors could correct children and even offer advice to young adults, but that day seems to be over. Be cautious and careful, even when you feel you have a right to say something because you do not want to end up getting hurt. It's very sad that seniors today are being relegated to a corner because of changing values and an increasing disrespect. When you maintain your personal values, surround yourself with like-minded people. use wisdom and discretion, guard your heart and keeping the bad element out as much as you can, you will survive.
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
© 2019 Cheryl E Preston