Flush away the mental muck! How to deal with negative programming !
Have you ever went on vacation only to come home and realize that you forgot to take out the garbage.The minute you walk through the door loaded down and tired from your trip the smell hits you a week old fish square in the face. Many people walk with this same problem inside their heads. Our minds can become a garbage bin for every negative comment every made to you if you allow it to be. How many of you remember every snide snarky little comment made to you by the school bully or the resident mean girl 5, 10 and 20 years after the fact. How many of you live in the mental homes left over from your parents stray comments allowing the damage to tear away at your self esteem. The person or person's may be long gone but you continue to allow them to live on in your home rent-free trashing your sense of well-being and stinking up your thinking. Well, no more, a few years ago I discovered a novel and fun way to clean out the trash and deal with the negative comments made to me once and for all.
How it works
This quick and effective method to stop the endless train of negative comments left in your mind by others requires no long expensive hours of pschotherapy nor does it include some new miracle drug. However it is guaranteed to flush away 10 pounds of mind much in 10 days, or close to it. All you need is :
- a notebook,
- a pen and
- a roll of toilet paper.
The first thing you will need to do is to identify and label the muck roaming around in your head. Listen to the way in which you talk to yourself or others on a daily basis. Are you repeating certain phrases of sentiments simply handed off to you by someone else, do you judge yourself and your abilities based on the comments of someone else. Now is the time to catch yourself repeating all those old things and write them down. After doing this for a few days I want you to look at the statements closely. If you take a few minutes to yourself you will probably be able to identify who you heard it from and where. Perhaps a parent made a comment about your cleanliness or work ethic, or the little girl in second grade called you fat or stupid. The longevity of these comments is truly amazing but once you make an effort to write them down and look at them for what they are it is ussually pretty easy to see their source.
Now that you are armed with your list of negative comments and their true owners. I want you to take a pen and carefully write out the comments on to your toilet paper. Carefully roll the toilet paper back on to the roll and wait until the next time nature calls. Then all you do is take your special paper and go to the bathroom. As you sit upon the thinking chair read through the comments and think about the when and where this comment was made to you, now ask yourself if you feel it is something you need or if it is time to go ahead and let it go. If you have decided this comment has lived in your head long enough go ahead and do what you normally do with your toilet paper. Wipe your rear end with it and with a flourish flush it down the toilet.
I know this seems silly but that is the point. Outrageous methods are memorable and very effective at releasing long held thought patterns. This method gives you outlet to examine long held belief patterns that have out lived their shelf life and a perfect fun way to get rid of them. Just like our physical homes need a good cleaning from time to time so do our mental ones. Think of how cluttered and chaotic your home would be if you hung on to every scrap of paper and yet this is exactly what we do by hanging on to all this negative feedback. So do yourself a favor and take out the trash!