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I have a dream. Focus of our Minds. What do we focus on and why and what does it do to us?
Canyons and mountains
I have a dream. And "Ask not what your country can do for you, but what you can do for your country".
At the time the very famous speech had come out by Dr. Reverend Martin Luther King Jr. our President had just asked us to: Ask not what your country can do for you but what you can do for your country. That was John Fitzgerald Kennedy our last president assassinated in office.I
(I just added that paragraph as a private editor just told me that many 30 years old and below do not know of these speeches. Wow to me that is like coming from another country -- hold that thought my wife is an immigrant and darn near knew them by heart)
That is such a noble and wonderful concept to most of us. I hope school kids, get this and actually have listened to it. My mom made me listen to it on the radio. We cried together. So now when my generation hears the words "I have a dream" they immediately call to mind this great speech that will live on to all freedom lovers. At least many of us do.
My dreams are more restrictive and too often stem from some fear which makes them turn in to kind of selfish dreams. Not all but some. I would hope by reading this article you find a little bit of levity and happiness in your dreams. Not all but some. To dream the impossible dream is to begin to make it a reality. Even if it is just real to you.
Please listen to it and celebrate our progress as a people. http://www.americanrhetoric.com/speeches/mlkihaveadream.htm
Now on to my dream, sorry it is not so beautiful. But that is what we are to speak of today.
Do you like to dream?
Are you as happy asleep as you are awake?
Dreams are good when they are good.
We are going to be hiking into the Grand Canyon this weekend and more. It is a good and glorious thing to do. A band of like spirited brothers and fathers who have spent months together hiking wilderness in the toughest terrain about. 6 will go in and 6 will come out. Backpacks will be in the 50 lb range and the hike very moderate by our standards. Beauty will be everywhere we look. Grand walls and a grand river will be ours for our enjoyment. Fish will be caught and released or eaten within a few hours of catching. Bonds between men will be strengthened and fortified. Refreshment and invigoration will happen. On the trail problems will be aired and solutions offered as we climb real obstacles on our way. Wildlife will be seen and admired first hand. And the food will be outstanding and special. Sleep will come easy and long.
These are what I should dream about and be meditating on. Yet I do not. What is wrong with me. I focus on that one segment of this hike. The free repel down a cliff face. This is hard for me. This scares me. And I am hardly strong enough in my upper body to do it. And so this is what I have been dreaming about.
Now apply that to your own life in the day to day.
Just Dream it.
Now I could have stayed focused on that.
But I am old and I know the drill. So I called my son and told him. And he laughed and laughed. And spewed back to me a long standing insistence of mine. "if your big problem is money, you ain't got one". The point is that obstacles and problems we create in our mind are not really problems. Money is not a problem. My minor repel down a cliff is not a problem.
However my attitude may be a problem. My focus may cause problems and my dreams may disable me.
Or they can be the solution. And the worst and the best thing is that it is my choice, now, today, tomorrow and next year.
I have two fun tails to tell. Let me set them up. They are about having a vision/dream of the way things are meant to be. Just think of the last time you were sidetracked and not paying attention but still doing something. Did you know that you might have encountered a problem, resolved it and never even thought about it, because the outcome was already "preordained" in your head.
Those are sacred mountains to many Native Americans
We set out on a trek.
My half breed buddy and I fasted for three days. We prepared a special tea, primarily of peyote and then we met with a Navajo man who gave us a blessing. And it was 7pm and we took off on our 12 mile hike up the mountain at night. It was a cold October night with full moon much like right now. No provisions and only until daylight to make the hike to a special place on the mountain.
We were about 6 miles into the hike and we came to a huge Elk fence that my buddy had seen just a month before. And he knew we would have to walk at least one mile to get around it. So he sighed and said this way. I had no idea about the fence but was only thinking of spiritual matters as I marched straight into the fence and through it. My buddy let out a shriek and was sure I was a ghost walker. Turns out there was an overlap in the fence that you had to be right on to see. A kind of slit that Elk cannot go through but made for a man who knows where it is. Really I had been following a small critter trail that went right to it and through it.
The point being that my buddy had in his mind that you had to go around this fence. I had no such thoughts. To him the fence was a barrier, to me I hardly noticed it because my mind was not focused on the problem. It was only focused on the walk.
My wife and I have had "money problems".
She was distressed and focusing on the problems. Twice in one week I made her go back outside and re-enter our home without a frown as she came home from work. It was getting bad*. Then just a few days ago. Something made her turn off the music in the car for the ride to and from work. And turn on an uplifting spiritual CD that we had gotten together.
Well she started walking in the door with a smile. And low and behold our "money problems" disappeared with a stretch of "good fortune" that was worked hard for and finally came. Yes if you must know it was a battle with the IRS, that somehow we won.
She was now focused on the "good news" of life and then all of the sudden it appeared. I cannot prophesy or determine which caused which exactly. But I am willing to bet my life that it was a change in attitude that caused the change in life. When we focused and had dreams of the good, that is what we saw next.
*We have a small boy. Frowns and anger are a problem around him because he still thinks the world revolves around him. And so an unhappy parent, is all about him and that is bad news for his proper happy development. We teach children in so many ways.
Let the circle be unbroken
So do not dream of hardship and misery
Dream the impossible dream and the impossible will happen.
Being happy sometimes to me is just about the dream. I have a game I play with myself. Every so often I buy a lottery ticket and then put it in my briefcase. I wait until I get another one sometime later before I check to see if I won. You see I have a secret. I would be fearful if I won, because my life is so blessed I really do not want to change it so dramatically. But I love to dream about all I could do with a whole bunch of money. So I just keep one around so I can dream on it. The dreams are better that way. It would kind of be nice to replace this 2007 laptop though ;-)
Have a great dream!!