For Crying Out Loud!
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For Crying Out Loud!
People in this culture say that crying doesn’t help, but they are wrong. Crying is a release of emotional pain and it most certainly does help. It is how we heal are emotional wounds and cleanse our bodies of stress hormones and other toxins that have built up due to the stress of whatever situation.
People in this culture learn not to cry. They learn it is weak and unprofessional. Men learn it is a female weakness and must be avoided lest they be labeled feminine. Women are allowed to cry, but within limits (Not in public for example), I think because women can not often control their tears. Men seem to so learn easily not to cry as a definition of Manhood. .
Crying is human and a universal trait. We all cry as infants, indeed it is the only way we can communicate at that age. When people cry in this culture they are called babies as if that is the only appropriate age to cry. Crying is very much associated with childhood. When we “grow up” we have to learn not to cry, that is one of the rites of passage into adulthood.
The problem is adults need to cry sometimes more than children. Often childhood crying is a form of communication, but adult crying is pure stress release. With all the stress of this culture it’s amazing we have repressed this natural healing urge to cry. Indeed condemned it for all intents and purposes except for mourning of a loved one, but even then people choke back their tears and “stay strong” or “be brave”.
In this culture it is braver to cry than not to cry because crying is so condemned. We all need to cry. If you are reading this, do yourself a favor and let yourself cry when you feel like it and try not to let the world judge you too much.
Light in Shadow
Don't just take my word for it! Here's an article entitled "Go Ahead Have a Good Cry - 5 Reasons Why It's Good for You"
Evidence of Tear Suppression
It's not hard to find tear suppression in this culture just look at song lyrics.
Don't Cry Out Loud - Melissa Manchester
"Don't you cry no more" Line from Carry On My Wayward Son - Kansas
Don't Cry No Tears - Neal Young
Don't Cry - Guns and Roses
Stop Crying - Bob Dylan
Stop Crying you heart out - Oasis
"Big boys don't cry" Line from I'm Not In Love - 10 CC
Grown Men Don't Cry - Tim McGraw
No More Tears - Ozzy Ozbourne
"Doctor, my eyes cannot see the sky. Is this the prize for having learned how not to cry?" Line from Doctor My Eyes - Jackson Brown
More on the Health Benefits of Crying
As I mentioned above tears release stress hormones. Doctor Judith Orloff in her article "The Health Benefits of Tears" published in Psychology Today writes:
"Emotional tears have special health benefits. Biochemist and “tear expert” Dr. William Frey at the Ramsey Medical Center in Minneapolis discovered that reflex tears are 98% water, whereas emotional tears also contain stress hormones which get excreted from the body through crying. After studying the composition of tears, Dr. Frey found that emotional tears shed these hormones and other toxins which accumulate during stress. Additional studies also suggest that crying stimulates the production of endorphins, our body’s natural pain killer and “feel-good” hormones.” Interestingly, humans are the only creatures known to shed emotional tears, though it’s possible that that elephants and gorillas do too. Other mammals and also salt-water crocodiles produce reflex tears which are protective and lubricating.
Crying makes us feel better, even when a problem persists. In addition to physical detoxification, emotional tears heal the heart."
She writes about how people apologize for crying and she feels bad for them. I remember once when I was in my 20's I apologized to my lover for crying and she said "Don't be sorry you cried any more than you would be sorry you laughed". The bottom line is crying is good for you and it is natural.
Judith Orloff M.D. Author of Emotional Freedom
- The Health Benefits of Tears | Psychology Today
Tears are your body’s release valve for stress, sadness, grief, anxiety, and frustration. Also, you can have tears of joy, say when a child is born or tears of relief when a difficulty has passed. To stay healthy and release stress, I encourage my pa
When Crying is Overwhelming
Sometimes it's hard to stop crying once the flood gates are open. This can be scary and inconvenient. You may have a lot to cry about and mourn, but you don't have hours to devote to crying. Below is a link that can help. Remember crying is good for you, but too much crying may indicate a serious depression.
wiki HOW Advice
- How to Stop Crying when You Are Very Upset: 15 Steps
How to Stop Crying when You Are Very Upset. Crying is a natural instinct. It's one of the first things newborns do and people continue to cry throughout their lives. It can communicate your feelings to others and some studies even suggest...