Forgetting

Forgetting things is always part and parcel of our daily life. It is quite common that we forget a person's name, the past, a familiar place etc. The definition of forget, it is to lose (facts, knowledge, etc.) from the mind; fail to recall; be unable to remember; to fail to do, bring, etc. as because of carelessness; overlook, omit, or neglect unintentionally don't forget to write; to overlook, omit, or neglect intentionally. In life, it is common for a person to say " I forget about something." This something could be just an excuse, an unhappy event, don't remember to do or say, or even perhaps because of aging.

It is blessing that we can forget certain things but it is also saddening to say that we have this ability to forget. Since we already knew the usefulness of the ability of being able to forget, it became easy to forgive a person if we choose to forget. As there is always a saying, "Forgive and forget." Forgive other's mistake and forget what had done. It is a beautiful and special gift that is given to us. In the function of the brain, when a person gone through a traumatize experience, a part of his brain will lock and forget about the 'experience'. Unless it is 'awake' and 'retrieved' again. In a relationship if one party can forget the other's fault, they would appreciate each other better. "Forget the past and let us move on together."

When forgetting has become a hinder and affecting our daily life, it is no longer a blessing. It becomes a part in the tip-of-the-tongue experience, when we're at a loss, usually with mouths gaping, for the right word, an excuse or a phrase, "I forget, I'm sorry". As we get older, our memory becomes harder to access and retrieve and we often telling the same stories. We can only remember the past and not the present. It is often easy to hear elders recalling things from the past and sometimes repeat questions that they would want to ask. Regular rehearsal or retrieval of memory is actually helping them to delay forgetting. As a result, memories can last for a lifetime with no appreciable loss of detail. In fact people are more likely to embellish a memory the more often they recall it.

With this ability of forgetting, it can be a blessing in a way that pieces of information, experiences that we gone through, we can choose to remember or forget. As we aged, this ability causing hindered, confused, loss. What happen when we don't have this ability and remember every single details that we gone through in our lives? Would our lives be better or would we be suffering? A lot of times, I prefer to forget than to remember. Remember the good and forget the bad.