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Forgiveness is Powerful

Updated on September 8, 2013

The Definition of Forgiveness

“Forgiveness is the renunciation or cessation of resentment, indignation or anger as a result of a perceived offense, disagreement, or mistake, or ceasing to demand punishment or restitution. The Oxford English Dictionary defines forgiveness as 'to grant free pardon and to give up all claim on account of an offense or debt'” (wikipedia).


Forgiving is the Power to be Happy

Forgiveness can be one of the most difficult aspects of life. Not everyone is worthy of forgiveness, and not every action should be forgiven, but forgiveness is not for the person who had done wrong as much as it is necessary for who has been wronged and hurt. Forgiveness is extremely powerful for the person who needs to forgive. Forgiveness opens ones heart back up, helps heal wounds, and allows one to let go of petty grudges so that they can once again move forward in their life. Once one is able to forgive, one is able to let go of all of the negativity in their life and move on to more positive emotions and actions for the rest of their life. Forgiveness gives one the power to let go, move on, and to be happy without worry or resentment.


Forgiveness is Letting go of Unnecessary Anger

Forgiveness is all about the person who has been wounded, hurt, wronged, and broken. Forgiveness is not about allowing the person who has done wrong to feel better, but it is allowing the person who has been hurt feel better and let go of unnecessary anger that is holding them back from success and happiness. When one has the ability to forgive one has the amazing ability to let go of anger, hurt, torment, and anguish while simultaneously having the ability to smile, laugh, and feel joy in the other things life has to offer. Letting go of unnecessary anger, negativity and forgiving does not mean that one must befriend, or even speak to the person they have forgiven, but it does mean that after one has forgiven they are able to feel at peace because they are no longer holding onto negative energy and hatred.


Forgiving Others and Rebuilding Relationships

While some people who have been forgiven should not be kept in ones life, others who have done one wrong are worth forgiveness, rebuilding, and maintaining a relationship with. Even though it is difficult to forgive and move on to rebuild the relationship with some people who have done wrong, it is possible. To forgive another person and to rebuild a relationship one must put aside their pride, anger, resentment, and need to seek revenge on the other. It can be extremely difficult to not only forgive one who has done wrong, but it is more difficult to rebuild the relationship and move on as nothing happened in the past. To forgive someone for their poor actions and atrocious behaviors one must have some time alone in their own thoughts, one must keep some distance from the person who has done them wrong so that they can think clearly and decide for themselves if they want to continue with a friendship or relationship with this other person. If one does decide to continue and rebuild a relationship with the person who has behaved in an unforgiving manner, it is crucial to have a conversation about feelings, emotions, and how the two should move on into the future. After the conversation is held and after an agreement is made then one has to let go of the resentment and anger for the other person. If one desires to rebuild and maintain a relationship with anyone who has hurt them, it is crucial to let go of those feelings after a conversation is held because if one holds on to this resentment, one has not truly forgiven them for their actions or behavior and there will not be a happy future between the two. One must never bring up the argument, resentment, hurt, anger, etc into future arguments, one must let go of the past to be able to move into the future. If one cannot let go, they cannot fully forgive, and if one cannot fully forgive then they cannot keep the person that hurt them in their life.


Forgiving Oneself

In all honesty, it is easier for people to forgive other people, it is more difficult for one to forgive themselves for offensive behavior and inappropriate actions. To become happy, it is crucial for one to be able to let go of negative actions, emotions, and feelings and forgive themselves, because without this forgiveness it is almost impossible to become positive, move on from the past, and walk in to the future. Everyone makes mistakes, everyone acts poorly at times, everyone speaks out, and everyone misbehaves. Forgiving oneself is not impossible, even though it may be difficult, but forgiving oneself is important to learn and move toward the future happier. If one cannot forgive themselves for poor behavior then they will not learn the lesson in life and will only suffer consequences. Once one forgives themselves it is apparent that they have learned the lesson and have fixed the issue (at least within themselves). One cannot make others forgive them, but if one can forgive themselves then their life will become better in the end. Life is about living for oneself, doing things for oneself, building a life for oneself, and becoming successful and happy, so one must always learn to forgive themselves when necessary.

Forgiveness is Good for Ones Health

When people are able to forgive ones mind and body is very responsive to this action and forgiving is actually very good for ones health. Studies have shown that those who forgive others and themselves are much happier and healthier than those who hold onto resentment and feel the need to act out in revenge. Forgiveness is extremely necessary for mental health, when one forgiveness others and themselves they become more optimistic, more happy, less resentful, less angry, and less hostile. Forgiveness also reduces anxiety, fear, revengefulness, and depression. Forgiveness also aids in physical health as well. Studies have shown that people who are more likely to forgive are less likely to develop cardiovascular issues, stronger nervous systems, and are less likely to develop illness. Forgiveness is not only powerful for ones mind, but it is also excellent for ones physical health.

Always forgive, never forget, move on, let go, be happy, and be healthy.


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    • prajwalpokharel profile image

      prajwal pokharel 4 years ago from kathmandu

      AAAhhh.... its just to hard to forgive sometimes ..... Great article though love

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      mylindaelliott 4 years ago from Louisiana

      I find forgiving oneself the hardest. For myself and the people I am friends with... It being healthier for people is definitely true though.

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      Chitrangada Sharan 4 years ago from New Delhi, India

      I agree with you completely that Forgiveness is powerful and when we forgive others, we are doing more good to ourselves than anyone else. It brings Mental Peace and one can get rid of negative thoughts, which are so harmful. It enables us to move on.

      Very nice thoughts! Voted up!

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      Martin Kloess 4 years ago from San Francisco

      Wow is all I can say. Share is what I did. thank you

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      Marilyn L Davis 4 years ago from Georgia

      Excellent article, Jami.

      I especially like your statement about the benefits for mental health when we forgive others and ourselves. It captures so appropriately and succinctly the essence of forgiveness.

      Thank you for writing this. Marilyn

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      jasonycc 4 years ago from South East Asia

      Well written. I totally agree with you. Forgiveness is very empowering. Thanks for sharing, this will help a lot of people. Cheers.